1 . As most of us know, talking to and listening to parents don’t always go smoothly. Emotions and past experiences can get in the way. Since communication is a two-way street, some depends on your parents and some of what happens depends on you. The way you talk can influence how well a parent listens to and understands you.    1    

•Be clear and direct.

Be as clear as you can about what you think, feel, and want.     2    They can listen better or be more helpful if they understand what you mean specifically and what’s really going on.

•Be honest.

If you’re always honest, a parent will be likely to believe what you say.     3    If you sometimes hide the truth or add too much drama, parents will have a harder time believing what you tell them.

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Using a friendly and respectful tone makes it more likely that parents will listen and take what you say seriously. Of course, this is hard for any of us when we’re feeling heated about something.If you think your emotions might get the better of you, do something to let off steam and calm down before talking.

•Try to understand their point of view.

If you have a disagreement, can you see your parents’ side? If you can, say so.    5