1 . Imagine your home on its messages today. Legos spread over the floor. Dirty socks are jammed between couch cushions. Receipts and pieces of mail litter on the table. Though many of us feel shame when your homes end up in this state, a messy house is not a moral failing. The only thing that actually matters is whether your house is functional and livable.     1    .

Collect trash. First get a trash bag or a trash can. Then move around the room, collecting the garbage. But don’t take out the trash yet.     2    .

Pile up dirty dishes.     3    . Or you can pile them up. Maybe do the dishes. With unwashed plates in the kitchen and dining table, we are sure to be distracted and upset.

Pick up clothing and laundry. Collect the laundry that’s lying around. You can use a laundry basket or a bag. Bring the laundry to the machine and start it, if you want.

Put back things that have a place. This one is pretty straightforward.     4    . But if some items be long in another part of the house, put them in a basket or pile them up by the door for now.

    5    . Sometimes our belongings become disordered because we’ve never chosen a place to store them. We may decide to gather all the stuff that doesn’t have a place, put it in a basket and set it aside. At this point, you may also decide to create a home for these random odds and ends. Some people call this a “junk drawer.”

4 . Your manager stops you and says she needs to have a word about your performance in the recent project. She begins by praising you for the good work you’ve done on the project, and you wonder if this is the praise that starts off the typical “feedback sandwich”.     1     Say something nice, say what you really want to say, say something nice again.

However, when feedback becomes such a routine, employees can start to perceive positive feedback as simply a form of sugarcoating the negatives, thus decreasing its value. Instead, positive feedback should not simply be seen as something to cushion the negative.     2     Below are three tips to help you make positive feedback count.

    3     When positive and negative feedback always appear to go hand in hand, the positives can become devalued and ignored. Ensure there are times when positive feedback is given for its own sake and resist the temptation to offer constructive criticism.

Cultivate a “growth mindset”. Many of us tend to focus our praise on the end result and seeming inborn talents. For example,     4     However, research suggests that by focusing on the process of box things are done, we can encourage the development of new skills and the continued enhancement of talents.

Create a culture of offering positive feedback. Make giving positive feedback part of your team culture. Don’t just wait for special moments to give feedback. Offer informal positive feedback when making small talk.     5     Encourage peer feedback among team members and colleagues and actively ask them for positive comments on each other’s performances on tasks.

6 . In the workplace, we have to deal with different people, and the best way to do that is to find empathy to better understand them. Here are three fruit personalities and how best to deal with them.

Apple: hard core, doesn’t brulse easlly

Apple types are direct and don’t suffer fools. They are fast, logical thinkers who love to win and hate to lose control. They’ll get a result at any cost, but see conflict as sport.

Managing apples:

·Have your facts (or suffer the consequences)

·Always stand up to them.

·Get to the point.

·Be fast and logical.

·Watch and learn- they make great mentors.

Lemon: intense and concentrated

Lemons love structure, detail, order and rules. They are worriers who like safety, security and predictability. They love detail and are awesome at spotting gaps in a plan. But too many rules can be frustrating to others.

Managing lemons:

·Respect their need for space and time; give them plenty of notice.

·Slow your pace if you’re fast, quieten down if you’re loud.

·Don’t surprise them.

·Don’t threaten their security.

·Know you can never give too much detail.

Banana: sweet and soft

Banana types enjoy harmony in the workplace and shy away from conflict. They have loads of empathy. They are excellent in customer service roles, yet they can irritate people by being too nice.

When they’re too accommodating, they can be seen as indecisive.

Managing bananas:

·Don’t pressure them, but motivate.

·Encourage their opinions, and listen.

·Don’t overload them with your problems.

·Provide regular feedback opportunities.

·Be nice-that’s all they want.

7 . There is a benefit in acknowledging the fact that our brains are born with a negativity preference that serves to protect us from potential harm. We would not have lasted very long as a species if our ancestors had kept optimistic in the face of a charging tiger rather than thinking the worst and allowing the natural response of fight-or-flight to kick in.

The psychological technique of using a negative outlook for personal growth is known as defensive pessimism (DP). Rather than forcing oneself to adopt a positive mindset, DP focuses on preparing for worst cases, thereby reducing anxiety. Let’s face it: Telling an anxious mind not to worry is as useless as trying not to get wet in a rainstorm by thinking sunny thoughts; better to take shelter. Many people have used this technique in their daily lives without giving it a name. COVID-19 gave us all a chance to practice DP as we look precautions to decrease our chances of becoming infected.

This psychological mind trick is not without its drawbacks. Applied too often, life can become a series of setbacks, only taking discomfort in the fact that one’s prediction of the worst case came true. Personal relationships may also suffer, as the optimists in one’s life grow weary of the glass always being half-empty and will, at times, take to ironically singing “Don’t worry, be happy” as payback.

There is likely to be a day when the glass-half-empty/half-full debate is replaced by the realization that optimism and pessimism don’t oppose each other, they support each other. and trying to have one without the other is like trying to have a one-sided coin.

8 . It was a sunny winter day. I had gone up and down the tower when, outside the little door at the foot, a blind man came toward me. He was a pale, thin man with dark glasses. He kept close to the inner wall of the courtyard. On reaching the door, he touched it and sharply turned inside. In a moment, he disappeared up the staircase. I stood still, looking at the little sign that said “To the Tower… ” I felt obliged to follow.

I didn’t follow closely. I caught up with him in the ticket office. There I was surprised to see the attendant selling him a ticket as though he were any other visitor. With the ticket in one hand and touching the wall with the other, he reached the staircase leading to the hallway.

“That man is blind,” I said to the attendant, but he showed no concern. “He’s blind,” I repeated. He didn’t answer, looking at me vacantly.

“Perhans he wants to jump,” I said. But his chair was too comfortable. He didn’t stir. He still looked down at a crossword puzzle he had begun. I turned toward the staircase.

“The ticket,” the attendant said, rising from his chair. It seemed the only thing that could move him. After purchasing my ticket, I hurried up the staircase.

The man hadn’t gone as far as I imagined. After ten minutes, I approached him. “Excuse me,” I said as politely as I could, “but I am very curious to know why you came up.”

“You’d never guess,” he said.

“Not the view, I take it, or the fresh air on this winter day,” I said.

He smiled. “Coming up the stairs, one can feel the change-the coo staircase suddenly becomes quite warm, —and how up here behind the wall there is shade, but as soon as one goes opposite a narrow window one finds the sun. In all of Siena there is no place so good as here.”

He moved into the sunlight. Then he stepped into the shade. “Light, shade, light, shade,” he said, and seemed as pleased as a child who, in a game of hopscotch, jumps from square to square.

We went down the tower together. I left him, gladdened as one can only be by the sunlight.

10 . Simple Yet Amazing Ways To Be Wiser

Wisdom is no just a good quality to have but it is also very necessary. There are a lot of ways to become wiser.     1    . Here are some strategies that you can use to get wiser.

You will never grow from being in your comfort zone which is why you need to get out of it. This is the only way you will gain wisdom and become better. You try learning new skills that you never thought of learning or going to places that were on your bucket list. Change your routine and see where life takes you, take control!

Limiting yourself to only one type of people that share the same beliefs as you can be comforting but it doesn’t get you anywhere in life. You need to meet and experience new people and learn what they have to offer. Share what defines you and learn from others. This will make you wise.     3    .

All of us make mistakes in life, but it is the acknowledgment of mistakes that makes us grow and do better next time. Whenever we make a mistake, we should learn from it, thinking over our shortcomings won’t get us anywhere.     4    . Stop blaming other people for your mistakes and admit where you went wrong. Let me tell you this: your best teacher will always be your last mistake, so learn the best from it.

If you have accumulated a lot of knowledge then why not share it with others too?     5    . In today’s world, it is very easy to become wise but it isn’t easy to help others, so do the difficult part too. Inspire humanity and see your life change for the better.