Teaching Children about Forgiveness
If you’ve seen your children struggle to forgive someone for hurting them, you know that forgiveness is complicated. After all, forgiveness is complicated for adults, too. At times, we wonder why we’re trying to forgive someone anyway; later, we might think we’ve forgiven them, only to experience a sudden burst of anger. Indeed, it takes many years for us to grasp the meaning of forgiveness as we grow up.
It’s understandable that children may feel hurt or angry when a friend does something less-than-kind to them. Maybe the friend said something unkind or broke something precious, embarrassed them, excluded them, or told their secrets. Children may be tempted to get even with a friend who’s done them wrong, by doing something worse or telling everyone how terrible the friend is, but trying to get revenge only escalates (升级) the conflict.
Parents can play an important role in teaching children about forgiveness. Children watch how important adults in their lives respond when someone does something unkind. Do they complain to others or speak directly to the person involved? How long does it take them to get over being mad or hurt? How do they get over it? Parents can teach their children about the value of forgiveness by regularly practicing it in their own lives.
Sometimes parents can talk with their children about forgiveness, based on where kids are in their cognitive (认知的) and emotional development. For example, children need to understand that no one is perfect, so generously forgiving a well-meaning friend is a caring thing to do. If parents can help children see things a little more from other people’s perspective, this will make forgiveness easier. These conversations can change the way children think about forgiveness and help them emotionally recover when they inevitably experience harm and unfair treatment from others in life.
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Discovering a Lost Brother
Kieron Graham always knew he had an elder brother named Vincent. His adoption papers,
That changed in December 2017, when Kieron’s adoptive parents gave him an DNA test as a Christmas gift. When his results came back, he was surprised
When they connected, it was
Vincent was nine when Kieron was born and remembers caring for his baby brother. But times were tough, and Shawn, who worked 15-plus hours a day as a nurse, decided that
“She was very emotional about that time, to the point
Now the brothers had the chance to make up for lost time. They decided to meet at a local tea shop that week. One of Vincent’s concerns was that Kieron
I teach a course in marine biology at a college in central Maine. In order to give each student the individualized attention he or she
“I’m not on the roster,” she volunteered, clearly self-conscious about all the
There were already 15 in the class, but this woman’s eagerness impressed me, so I invited her to have a seat.
I began by chatting informally with the class to get a feel for how much knowledge they were bringing to
In marine biology I like to see if they know the difference between fishes and seagoing mammals (哺乳动物). I often hold up a sponge (海绵) in the hope
1.
A.A player. | B.One who. conducts a survey. |
C.An employee of the stadium. | D.A government official. |
A.He used to be a librarian. |
B.He lives in the north of the ring road. |
C.He goes to the local swimming pool about once a week. |
D.He may invest in the restoration of- the local swimming pool. |
A.It should be open earlier. | B.It is a bit expensive. |
C.It is too luxurious. | D.The facilities are not. satisfying. |
Few people ever took notice of Mr. Jimmy Tan whenever he entered a room. He was a shy, quiet and simple man who
“Hey Jimmy,” Mr. Kim called out, “do you have
There was no reply, so Mr. Kim looked through Mr. Tan’s things. He soon found Mr. Tan’s notebook and was surprised
Mr. Tan came back an hour later to find his notebook and the dish missing. He knew that Mr. Kim
My wife Laura and I were on the beach, with three of our children, taking picture birds near our home in Alaska when we spotted a bear. The bear was thin and small,
Just a few minutes later, I heard my daughter shouting, “Dad! The bear is right behind us!” An aggressive bear will usually rush forward
I held my camera tripod(三脚架)in both hands to form a barrier as the bear rushed into me. Its huge head was level with my chest and shoulders, and the tripod stuck across
Even so, this was a fight I had to win; I was all that stood between the bear and my family,
The bear hit at the camera, cutting it off the tripod. I raised my left arm to protect my face: the beast held tightly on the tripod and pressed it into my side. My arm could not move, and I sensed that my bones were going to break.
Drawing back my free hand, I
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描述发生在你和你朋友之间的一件事情,并阐述你对“友谊”的看法。
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8 . McCoy was looking for a safe place to do drugs when something clearly out of place caught his eye: a luxurious brown leather handbag.
McCoy, 36, could relate all too well. One of his few possessions, the sleeping bag he used in an abandoned house, had recently been stolen. Remembering how angered he’d been by his own loss, he resolved to return the purse to its owner.
He began right away, starting with the address on the bill found in the handbag. After traveling much of the day and finally approaching the address on the bill, he was stopped by a woman, who asked whether she could buy the purse. McCoy refused, saying he was searching for its owner. “But I am the owner,” the woman said. “That’s my purse.”
A month earlier, Kaitlyn Smith, 29, a sales representative for a medical device company, had woken up to find her apartment broken into and her purse stolen. Now she came across a tall, messy-looking man holding it tightly. She could instantly tell he wasn’t in good shape.
At Smith’s urging, McCoy told her his story. He’d been in charge of a landscaping business until 2012, when a car accident left him addicted to drugs.
Smith, amazed this stranger had gone to such great lengths to return her bag, asked whether there was anything she could do to help. “I’m a drug addict,” McCoy warned. “I don’t want to intrude on your life; I’m probably gonna let you down.”
Unafraid, Smith gave him her phone number, saying, “If you want to go to rehab (戒毒所), call me.” She then drove him back to his neighborhood and left, thinking that would be the end of it. Two days later, she got a call.
Smith realized that McCoy was serious about getting better, so she dug into her savings account and bought McCoy a plane ticket to Florida. While there, he would call her to let her know how he was doing. “We were getting to know each other,” Smith says. “His scared, desperate voice turned into a healthy, lively one.” After 28 days at a rehab program at Johns Hopkins Hospital, McCoy is drug-free. He lives at a residential recovery center in Baltimore, and a GoFundMe page set up by Smith has covered his rent, groceries, and incidentals. His life is back on track, all because one crime victim could understand another’s loss.
1. What drove McCoy to look for the owner of the handbag?A.The urge to find a business partner. | B.The resolution to recover his sleeping bag. |
C.His own unfortunate experience. | D.His anger over the poor living condition. |
A.Enthusiasm. | B.Resistance. |
C.Hostility. | D.Gratitude. |
A.McCoy was a victim of an identity theft. |
B.Smith offered McCoy a ride home at his request. |
C.McCoy looked unhealthy when he bumped into Smith. |
D.Smith covered McCoy’s living expense in the recovery centre. |
A.Drug-abuse Can Heal. | B.Lost and Found. |
C.Mutual Communication Matters. | D.Good Deeds Repaid. |
9 . In the past, American families tended to be quite large. Parents
A.breeding | B.raising | C.feeding | D.bringing |
A.amount | B.number | C.size | D.scale |
A.level | B.standard | C.wage | D.cost |
A.finally | B.financially | C.fashionably | D.faintly |
A.worn | B.wearing | C.dressing | D.dressed |
A.luxury | B.activity | C.playing | D.entertainnment |
A.are | B.run | C.work | D.separate |
A.devoice | B.apart | C.divide | D.scatter |
A.uncomfortable | B.uneasy | C.noisy | D.unsettled |
A.needs | B.notions | C.motions | D.blows |
A.gives | B.pays | C.shows | D.leaves |
A.interest | B.interests | C.property | D.possession |
A.oppressed | B.asked | C.forced | D.shown |
A.oppressed | B.refer | C.explain | D.indicate |
A.declining | B.lower | C.weaker | D.smaller |
Bicycles, roller skates and skateboards are dangerous. And don’t get me started on walking. But I’m glad I didn’t spend my childhood trapped indoors to protect me from every bump and bruise. “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”
Locked indoors, unable to get on their bicycles and hang out with their friends, teens have turned to social media and their mobile phones to socialize with their peers. What they do online often mirrors what they might otherwise do if their mobility weren’t so heavily limited in the age of helicopter parenting. Social media and smartphones have become so popular in recent years.
As teens have moved online, parents have projected their fears onto the Internet, imagining all the potential dangers that youth might face – from violent strangers to cruel peers to pictures or words that could haunt them on Google for the rest of their lives.
Rather than helping teens develop strategies for negotiating public life and the potential risks of interacting with others, fearful parents have focused on tracking, monitoring and blocking.
The key to helping youth navigate contemporary digital life isn’t more restrictions. It’s freedom-plus communication. What makes the digital street safe is when teens and adults collectively agree to open their eyes and pay attention, communicate and negotiate difficult situations together. Teens need the freedom to wander the digital street, but they also need to know that caring adults are behind them and supporting them wherever they go. The first step is to turn off the tracking software.
A.Then ask your kids what they 're doing when they’re online and why it's so important to them. |
B.Furthermore, safety doesn't come from keeping everyone indoors, which simply foster fragile personality. |
C.The safest neighborhoods were those where communities collectively took interest in and paid attention to what happened on the streets. |
D.Teens want the freedom to explore their identity and the world around them, so they jump online. |
E.But parents can’ t handle it when teenagers put this philosophy into practice. |
F.These don't help teens develop the skills they need to manage complex social situations, assess risks and get help when they’re in trouble. |