1 . A happy-sad state can be as confusing to people as to psychologists. This is not about “smiling depression” where someone feels emotional pain, but_________those feelings with a happy face. Rather, it’s _________ experiencing those two _________ emotions at once.

When Jeff Larsen, a psychology professor, simply asks people if it’s_________to feel such mixed emotions, most people immediately say “yes” showing how_________the experience is. But Larsen takes a more_________approach.In his experiments, he asked people to watch a clip (电影片段) from a bittersweet movie and press one button if they felt_________another if they felt happy,or_________at the same time if they felt both emotions at once.It_________about half pressed both happy and sad buttons at once, __________not for very long.Larsen__________the experience is rare, but possible.

Yale University psychology professor Laurie Santos__________it’s possible for people to feel both positive and negative emotions at once. Situations that often__________a happy-sad state include bittersweet events like__________or a move to a new city for a job--situations when you’re sad about__________, but happy about new opportunities, she noted. Endings that are also beginnings make these emotionally-rich events, Larsen added.

2 . My Dad’s Jeep

When my father died, I got his car. Eight years later, it’s _________ . How am I supposed to say good-bye _________ ? “Why does our car look so dirty?” my 5-year-old daughter, Fianna, recently asked. “This car is super _________ .” I replied.

“Because it’s Grandpa Jack’s?” Fianna asked as we _________ out of the school parking lot. I smiled and nodded. It has kept him _________ ever since.

To Fianna, Grandpa Jack is a concept, not a(n) _________ person she knows. Fianna’s saying my father’s name reminds me of his current _________. It’s then — and all the times I _________ his warm hugs or the gent let one of his voice — that the car _________ me. It’s __________ on wheels that my father existed and that, for a period, he __________ my life with love.

One recent morning, I pulled up into our driveway after __________ Fianna off at school. Then I parked, played Ben King’s “Stand By Me” loudly over the old speakers, and stayed __________ .

I let every __________ of my dad that the song and the Jeep created sit with me in the car. I wish I __________ had to say good-bye to my father. At least I still have time to learn how to say good-bye to a car.

3 . I was cleaning out a cupboard the other day when I made an amazing discovery. Inside I _________ the manuscript (手稿) for a novel. It included an outline of the _________ and a pile of typed pages telling a story. It was written, to my _________, by my father who has been dead for more than 50 years. It isn’t _________, as novels go, perhaps fifty or sixty typed pages, but without my _________ it has somehow accompanied me through my years of _________, several jobs, a marriage, the birth of my children and grandchildren, retirement and even a relocation across the country where I live.

Yet there it was, resting under a lot of paper to be recycled. I might have _________ my father’s legacy (遗产). I was truly _________ by my discovery.

I’m in the middle of reading another book _________ my dad’s novel has a place on my bed-side table. I want to have some __________ time for it so I haven’t __________ examined it yet. I’m going to spend a whole afternoon to give it the __________ it deserves. As yet I don’t know what the story line is about and I don’t even know if it is complete but I __________ a highly emotional process of finding out.

I find it fascinating to think that this could happen; that after more than fifty years my father could __________ his only son through the mists of time. It’s one of those things that we don’t see coming and that make life so __________.

4 . On the morning of September 11th, my closest friend, Kevin Bowser, died in the World Trade Center. The sorrow was so awful, but I was determined to channel it into something with_________.

The next summer, I set off on a two-month bicycle tour to Philadelphia to _________ him. The whole nation was in deep sorrow and, as I travelled and _________ new people, we would inevitably (不可避免地) hug. I didn’t notice the _________ they brought at the time, but when I returned, a friend said that I often spoke about the hugs I shared with _________. The bike ride and the _________ I made enriched me, so I planned a second. I call it “Big Dave’s hug” .

Between 2002 and 2015, I _________ the stretches of North America three times. My Big Dave’s hug banner (横幅) introduced me and my _________. Some people were _________ about hugging me when they didn’t know the first thing about me. But when they saw my intention was__________ and I wasn’t asking for anything, they __________. Young people would reveal their childhood secrets and affairs, while elders always had great stories to __________. Every city would warn me that the next was less __________, but they never were.

It generated enormous joy. It was not just a hug, but also __________ and moments. People ask why I’m doing it and I say it __________ me, makes me smile and provides perspective.

5 . This morning, a former student sent me a message, telling me he is living a happy life. He said he often thinks of me and that he especially misses my _________ classes.

My thoughts went back to that shy, overweight boy who _________ to our school in his fifth grade. He was quiet and _________. Some of the boys teased him about his lack of _________ ability. When they played games, Gibby would often be left standing alone. Several times I went to the playground and asked to _________ a team. I would call out several _________ and then, around the fourth or fifth spot, I would call Gibby and a few others who never seemed to get _________ by their peers. My team may not have been the best, but we were the happiest and definitely the most _________ and loyal.

That spring I decided to give my students more _________. We began by running, but after one or two circles around the playground, Gibby would lag far behind, __________. However, after a month, he lost a few pounds and could __________ the group easier. Then we added floor exercises to the program. Gibby was still there, stretching and bending, lifting and kicking, as __________ as ever. He never gave up or made __________. Many students admired his __________ and in time, he gained confidence and began to smile and talk more. He was no longer the new kid.

Messages of this kind always call up sweet memories. Yes, as a (n) __________ teacher, I love all my students and help them become what they can be.

6 . My Grandma’s Mug (马克杯)

When I was growing up, one of my favorite traditions was Sunday-morning breakfast with my grandparents. They lived up the street in our tiny river town and welcomed any mass-goers from our large _________ family to their home after.

As soon as we walked in the door, Grandma got busy making a fresh pot of coffee, while Grandpa took _________ at the stove. The rest of us _________ the table before gathering around it in _________ of the meal.

Once her family had finally had their _________ , Grandma would _________ in her chair in the living room, leaving the _________ in the kitchen for cleanup later. Her coffee mug on the table next to her, Grandma joined in on the various _________ that were happening around that comfortable room.

Both of my grandparents have _________ in recent years. As the holidays __________ , I find myself __________ to see Grandma and Grandpa in that kitchen just one more time.

The sights, sounds, and smells of those cherished mornings __________ over me recently when I went to pour my own morning coffee. As I __________   a certain mug, the memory of my grandma in her kitchen — coffee in hand, making sure we were all taken care of — brought __________ to my eyes. Knowing her hands once held the coffee mug helps me feel __________ to her and the love we will always share.

7 . I was visiting members of my late husband John’s medical team. They had worked hard when he _________ lung cancer. Each time I _________them for all they had done, I felt myself gaining closure.

Then I _________ to John’s favorite Chinese restaurant. We’d gone there after so many of John’s treatments. I wanted to talk to the manager, who knew about our _________ and had always been kind to us. When I pulled over, I could hear John’s voice in my cars. The _________ John told me every time I got behind the wheel. “Drive _________.”

This phrase was one of the ways he showed his _________. I knew when he said it, he was also saying, “I care about you.”

I took the manager aside. “I want you to know that John had _________.”

She _________. I gave her a hug __________ that John and I had so many people who cared. We exchanged some __________ of him and shared a few laughs.

As I was about to leave, I spotted a fortune cookie left by the manager. Should I__________ it? I didn’t need a fortune to tell me that life without John would still be__________. Still, just for fun, I opened the cookie and __________ the small piece of paper inside.

“The __________ ahead is long,” my fortune read. Drive safely.

8 . Karen is being praised for teaching her students a powerful emotional lesson that they will not soon forget. She has been teaching for decades, but her most recent class was apparently the most _________ class of her educational career.

For her sixth day of classes at Collinsville Middle School, she decided to try a new _________ in empathy (共鸣) with her students called “The Baggage Activity”.

Upon establishing that her classroom was a(an) _________ space for expression and respect, she asked what emotional baggage _________ to her students. She then asked them to write about some of their own — and _________ they were not required to put their names on the paper, they could describe their issues as _________ as they wanted.

The kids then read what their classmates wrote _________, things like suicide, drugs in their family, cancer and on and on.

“The kids who read the papers would cry because what they were reading was _________ The person who shared would cry sometimes too. It was an emotionally draining day, but I firmly believe my kids will judge a little _________ love a little more and forgive a little faster." Loewe wrote in a social media post.

Since writing about her exercise on social media, her ____________ has been shared widely. Teachers from all over the world have ____________ out to her about performing similar activites in their own classrooms and their students have apparently been “so much more ____________” of each other.

Moreover, Karen kept all the paper confessions (坦白) in a plastic bag so that her students will ____________ their exercise in empathy, which also reminds them that they all have ____________.

“We will leave it at the door. As they left, I told them they are not ____________ they are loved, and we have each other’s support.” said Loewe.

9 . Earlier that evening, my mother called, telling me that my brother died in a car crash. I stumbled (跌跌撞撞地走) around the house _________ what to put into the suitcases. My husband, Larry, and I had been packing for moving to New Mexico. The house was in (a) total _________.

I tried to hold my tears. I _________ picked things up and put them down. I couldn't _________. What I'd heard on the phone echoed (回荡) through my head.

Larry phoned a few friends. _________, someone asked to speak to me. “If there is anything I can do, let me know.” “Thank you,” I replied. I didn't know what to _________.

The doorbell rang and I rose slowly for the door. It was Donna.

“I've come to clean your shoes,” she said. _________, I asked her to repeat. “When my father died, it took me _________ to get the shoes cleaned and shined for my father's _________,” she said. I hadn't even thought about shoes.

Shoes were gathered. Donna __________ herself on the floor and got to work. The love in the act __________ my tears. Watching her __________ on one task helped me pull my __________into order. Laundry first, I told myself. One by one, the jobs fell into place.

Now whenever I hear of an acquaintance's loss of a loved one, I think of one __________ task that suits that person's __________. If the person asks, “How did you know I needed that?” I'd reply, “Because someone did that.”

10 . My relationship with my pen pal (笔友) is one of the most valuable friendships I have ever had, even though I have never met her in ___________________, or even heard her voice.

It all started in 2013. I was on my way to USC to meet with Kerstin Zilm, a German radio personality who wanted to interview me about being a ___________________ student at Long Beach City College. After the interview, a woman named Renate ___________________ out to Kerstin, inquiring how she could find me and help me financially with college. I thought it was great that Renate, who ___________________ in Germany, wanted to assist with my education.

At first, Renate and I emailed each other twice a ___________________. She wanted to know a lot more about my life growing up in Watts, my attempts to ___________________ my education, and whether there were ways ___________________ finances that she could help. I did not have a specific answer for her last question, but her ___________________ support was important. Just having someone rooting for me and my education gave me a boost.

Her support kept coming, in ___________________ forms. She would email me articles, send books, and began a ____________________ of having a birthday cake delivered to me every December on my birthday. I emailed back more frequently. When I had a good day, I couldn’t wait to tell Renate. And when I had a bad day, I couldn’t wait to tell her ____________________ because I knew she would make me feel better.

“You really have the heart of a fighter,” she would say in her email, “But fortunately you also got soul, ____________________ and compassion. In this way you are a rich person.”

Whenever I needed encouragement, she always ____________________. After a couple of years of pen pal friendship, we were emailing at least once a week. I even downloaded WhatsApp so I could talk to her more ____________________.

My friendship with Renate has become so important to me that I can no longer ____________________ a life where I was not her friend. She has become a friend forever.