6 . Anger and sadness are important in life. New research shows that experiencing and accepting such feelings is good.

Positive (积极的) thoughts and feelings are, of course, good for our health. But unpleasant feelings are just as important as the enjoyable ones in helping us understand life’s ups and downs. Negative (消极的) feelings are important because they can tell us that we may have a health problem, or we need to pay attention to other important matters such as friendship.

Instead of avoiding negative feelings, we should accept them. Many people find it helpful to breathe slowly and deeply while learning to accept negative feelings or imagine the feelings as clouds to remind them that they will pass.

If the feelings are very strong, you may want to express how you feel in a diary or to other persons. You may want to tell the friend that her words hurt you or take steps to leave the job that makes you unhappy.

You should pay attention to your breathing and simply acknowledge (承认) any bad thoughts or feelings. This may make it easier to accept unpleasant thoughts.

It is impossible to avoid negative feelings fully, because to live is to experience losing and pain. Therefore, learning how to deal with those feelings is very important.

7 . Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something _________ to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would _________, “If I were any better,I would be twins!”

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had _________ him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his _________. He was a natural motivator (激发者). If an employee was having a _________ day, Jerry was there comforting _________ how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style _________ made me curious,so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! Not everyone can be a positive _________ all of the time. How do you do it?”

Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and _________ to myself, ‘Jerry, you have two choices today. You can __________ to be either in a good mood or in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad   __________, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to __________ it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me __________,I can choose to __________ their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right. But it’s not that __________.” I protested.

“Yes,it is.” Jerry said. “Life is all about __________. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you __________ to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you __________.”

I __________ on what Jerry said. Soon there after, I left the __________ industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

8 . For the past five years, I have worked in strategic roles in advertising. During my work, I challenged the difficulties in creating an ad that would be relevant to the brand, match its core values, and would also target appropriately consumers with a strong consumer insight. When I contribute to a successful campaign that matches all of the above, what I get is sheer bliss. In this sense, I love advertising.

Nevertheless, I am aware advertising has its gray areas. In many cases, advertisers focus on few features that can distinguish them from the competition, while presenting an incomplete picture of the product. For example, a snack brand can focus on the taste claim and ignore any clear reference to nutritional values and calories of the product. In other cases, advertisers claim superiority by using survey findings that do not agree with consumers’ common sense. Recently, a new Cola was introduced by a major Israeli company, claiming its Cola tastes better than the traditional Coca-Cola. Although such claim is possible, it is highly unlikely that a private-label Cola will be able to better suit the Israeli taste, since Coca-Cola dominates the Israeli Cola market for decades with over 90% market share. Yet, as a marketer, I understand we must be aggressive to put our products in consumers’ consideration set.

From a consumer’s standpoint, however, I have a contradictory attitude towards ads. I have some strong relationships with brands I encounter on a regular basis. I adore the design and innovation of Nespresso. I already replaced 4 iPhone models during the last decade and never bought a basketball shoe which is not a Nike shoe. When these brands advertise, I am open to hear about new products and watch ads. Consequently, I am willing to pay more or purchase more expensive products.

Meanwhile, getting used to certain brands makes me less willing to try new ones. When I experience a brand that does not meet my expectations as my usual choices do, I feel like I made a wrong decision. Moreover, the bad experience increases my skepticism towards new brands.

Overall, I admire the efforts made by us advertisers to increase sales. However, my true desire as a consumer is to minimize my exposure to irrelevant ads as much as possible.

9 . Everyone wants to be happy.     1     You must find it in your journey on your own and decide what it is that makes you happy. Therefore, you are the one to light it up and spark it. To give you more happiness, I have provided several habits that you can work on to live an inspiring life that will change you and those around you forever.

See the light in all situations. There’s a bright side to everything.     2     But when it hides from the clouds, remember that you are the one that lights up the sky even brighter than the stars.

Stop comparing yourself with others. Comparing yourself to others is a waste of who you are.     3     There is no one in this world that is exactly like you. You have many special qualities that can’t be compared to others. Be yourself and keep at it.

    4    Who are the people in your life that is important to you? Does the person bring the best out of you? Spend time with these people. It’s worth it.

Be confident. Your confidence can uplift your mood. Whether it’s your posture, smile, eye contact, or voice, work on it and you will not only feel better but be better. Write yourself five things that you love about yourself and put it on your wall or read it every morning you wake up.     5    

You really are the one who can make this world better. As you work on all these steps to become happier, you will see the world a lot better than it used to be.

10 . Being a young adult has got to be one of the most difficult times in a person’s life. You’re at a stage when you don’t feel like a child anymore and you aren’t ready to take up all the responsibilities that adulthood brings with it either.     1    

At this stage, there is a need for expression of thoughts and feelings. But they don’t understand that this need to express themselves can’t be used in whichever way they want, but has to be used with caution.     2    

    3     There is a need to be an independent adult, yes, but they haven’t learned the ropes of it yet and therefore when parents try to discipline them, they want to oppose and put forth their rights as adults. Therefore, they often go through the “no one understands me” stage, which can lead to many problems like anger and frustration.

In addition, being part of a group and developing healthy relationships and getting acceptance from them are of prime importance to young adults.     4     When these things happen, they often get into a self-pitying mode.

There is an innate need to stand on their own feet.     5     If there is any hurdle on that path, it leads to varied psychological problems like stress, depression, and anger.

These are some of young adults’ emotional problems. If you’ve been faced with them, seek help and treat them.