2 . Alice Roosevelt Longworth was the daughter of one of America’s most beloved presidents, Theodore Roosevelt. She was also a writer who was famous for giving high-society parties and being one of Washington, DC’s biggest gossips. On the sofa in her living room, there was an embroidered cushion (绣花靠垫) which read, “If you can’t say anything nice about someone, come sit next to me.”

If Alice were still alive today (she died in 1980 at the age of 96), she would feel right at home with modern social media... at least the worst parts of it. Platforms such as WeChat and Weibo have become places where Internet troll and bullies hang around, spreading gossip and insults(侮辱), and causing real harm to people, especially young people. This phenomenon of social media bullying (cyberbullying) is a worldwide problem. In February, United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) declared a special day, Safer Internet Day, to raise awareness of the problem and to discuss ways to solve it. According to the organization, as many as 20 percent of young people say that they have been bullied online. And the effects of this bullying can be destructive, leading to lower grades, lower self-esteem, depression and even suicide. UNICEF’s Henrietta Fore says that the Internet has become “a kindness desert”.

Closer to home, a study of Chinese high school students found that 58 percent had been bullied, and 38 percent had bullied someone either at school or on the Internet. “They spread rumors about you or defame you in order to isolate or marginalize(排斥) you,” says psychologist Zhou Zhonghui. “It is hard for people that age to bear, and it makes them depressed.”

There are laws in China against cyberbullying, and offenders can be fined and have their accounts shut down. In fact, everyone can take steps to stop the bullying. First, don’t be silent. If you are being bullied, don’t hesitate to tell your parents and teachers. Second, think before you post. Is your comment kind or hurtful? Would you like someone to say the same thing about you? Would you like your mother to read your comment? Alice Roosevelt Longworth’s cushion was a humorous re-working of an old piece of wisdom: If you can’t say anything nice about someone, don’t say anything at all. By following that wisdom, you can make flowers bloom in the “kindness desert”.

5 . Several weeks ago, I pulled an old road map out of the glove box and passed it to my children. They had never seen the province of Ontario laid out like that before. They stared at the map, asking about all the towns, parks, and other landmarks we’d visited, and I pointed them out on the map.

Digital maps and GPS are modern wonders that have gotten me out of many confusing places, but paper maps still have a role to play in our lives. Most of us adults learned to read them out of necessity, but it’s up to us to pass on that skill to children whose need may not be so obvious, but who still will benefit from it.

As Trevor Muir wrote in an article on this topic, “When kids learn how to create and use paper maps, they are doing more than just learning how to get around. They are actually developing a fundamental skill that they will use for the rest of their lives. Map skill still belong in today’s classroom.”

As a child, I had National Geographic Maps taped to my bedroom walls. This aroused my curiosity and imagination about those places and thus made me eager to remember my geography and history lessons because they were tied to places I’d “seen”. Even now as a mother of four, I’ve also spared time to travel to many of the countries whose maps I studied as a child.

Additionally, in this fast-changing world, unexpected events can rapidly influence one’s usual way of life. When GPS satellites or Internet connections are affected, this old-fashioned skill can get you out of a mess without requiring a smartphone. Last but not least, paper maps arouse big picture thinking, showing kids that there’s a much bigger world out there and helping to direct them within it.

So, now is a good time to pull out those dusty old maps and lay them on the kitchen table.

7 . The tradition of giving gifts didn’t start with the modern holidays we celebrate. Many ancient cultures celebrated holidays with the exchange of gifts. People who love to give gifts often can’t wait until it’s time for the recipients to open their gifts. If you’ve ever been given a gift, you know that part of the fun is the curiosity that builds as you wonder what the gift is.

The wish to hide the identity of a gift until just the right moment led people to wrap gifts long, long ago. Historians believed wrapping gifts in paper probably started not long after paper was invented thousands of years ago.

Wrapping paper like what we use today, though, is a much more recent invention. More than 100 years ago, gifts were usually wrapped in heavy brown paper. Before that, cloth was often used. The technology to mass-produce wrapping paper didn’t come along until the early 1900s. The first American gift wrap company— Hy-Sill Manufacturing Inc. — was founded by Eli Hyman and Morris Silverman in 1903. It wasn’t as easy to wrap presents then as it is today, though, because adhesive tape (胶带) wasn’t invented until 1930.

Over the years, wrapping paper has developed into what we see in stores each holiday season. But scientists say that the United States alone produces an extra 5 million tons of waste over the holidays, most of which is from wrapping paper and shopping bags. To cut down on this waste, some people carefully unwrap presents, so that the wrapping paper can be reused. Others have started to use reusable gift bags instead of wrapping paper.

9 . A friend sent me an email, asking if I’d consider writing about educational apps for children to watch while on road trips. The email said, “Many are turning to road trips. And often with long car rides comes the use of on-screen entertainment. These educational apps should also develop their art, math and design skills.”

While I realize the intention is well-meaning, and doubtless would lead to a quieter car ride for the parents, the thought of sticking kids in front of screens on a road trip makes me queasy. You see, if they’re glued to a screen for hours on end, they will miss everything that’s going by outside the window. And that means they’ll miss out a major part of the trip and the opportunity to engage in conversation with family members, but to be alone with their own thoughts, or simply to be bored.

There is so much to see on a road trip! Cars, trees, faces, building, markets, airplanes landing — the entire world is out there, and staring at it from the backseat of a car familiarizes a child with what is going on.

I have a theory that paying attention to one’s surroundings while traveling by car helps children develop an internal compass. If they don’t pay attention during all those years when they’re being driven, they’ll struggle to know where to go and how to locate themselves once they’re independent. This doesn’t mean they have to be alert (警惕的) for the entire journey, but not being on a screen naturally allows for a higher level of engagement with one’s surroundings. When you listen to music, you’ll look up occasionally; you’ll pay attention to landmarks.

What can children do on the trip? Actually, there are plenty of off-screen activities.

What makes something a sport? Traditional definitions usually included some physical activity,     1     shows athletic ability or strength. But some sports can take the form of mental contests. For instance, chess     2     (recognize) as a sport by the International Olympic Committee in 1999. Now, some people consider eSports should also be sports.

The word eSports is short     3     electronic sports. It is a form of contest in which professional players or gamers play video games either in teams     4     individually.     5     (Typical), those who win the     6     (compete) will receive prize money.

The first eSports event was the one     7     (hold) by Stanford University in the 1970s, for the game Spacewar! Over the next 30 years, video games will have become more and more popular.     8     increasing number of countries, such as South Korea, China and the United States, started to develop eSports into an industry. In the 2000s, television broadcasts of the games,     9     (feature) programs like Street Fighter III, StarCraft, and Counter-strike, became popular. In the 2010s, thanks to online streaming services, eSports grew rapidly with more worldwide championships, more viewers, and     10     (large) prizes. In 2020, the industry made more than US$1 billion for the first time ever.