1 . Bad judgments are meant to feed our own personal ego (自我意识) and put others down, which is not the healthiest thing to do. Here are five reasons why you should stop it now.
You start finding faults in everyone. Judging quickly moves on to more private areas of your life.
Judging becomes a habit. If you judge people, sooner or later, it becomes a habit, and you start judging everyone around you for the tiniest of things.
People begin to distrust you. If you pass judgments about other people in front of your audience, you will lose their trust. As they will begin to feel that if you can judge others in front of them, you can talk about them behind their back.
Judgment is a sign of unhappiness. If you are 100% happy with who you are, you are a lot less likely to feel the need to judge others. If you are self-assured, you will not feel the need to cast a downward glance at others.
A.You are viewed positively by people. |
B.You start taking yourself too seriously. |
C.Hence, seeing others positively shows we are positive people. |
D.You judge their clothing, actions, success, values, and everything. |
E.Likewise, you also judge because you feel you are better than others. |
F.You start judging your close ones; friends, family members, partner, etc. |
G.And no one wants to make friends with someone often talking unkindly about others. |
2 . How to treat each other well
The following tips can help you enjoy a healthy and satisfying relationship.
Create a foundation of respect.
Appreciate each other. A healthy relationship should be one in which you and your partner feel appreciated. Often, relationships are built from many small things added one on top of the other.
Expect changes. Know that your relationship will likely change. Allow growth for yourself, your partner, and for the relationship itself.
A.Spend quality time together |
B.Make a healthy relationship work |
C.Relationships can be fun and exciting early on |
D.Your partner’s thoughts and feelings have value |
E.Find activities that you can do together regularly |
F.Find the things your partner does for you and say “thank you” |
G.Recognize changes in your relationship are opportunities for new growth |
3 . Sending a note of congratulations is a wonderful way to let someone know you care about them.
In informal circumstances, it’s all right to send a message of congratulations in an e-mail.
The purpose of a note of congratulations is straightforward: to recognize and congratulate the recipient on some wonderful achievement, event, or milestone in her life.
Rather than writing a generic note, really take some time to brainstorm your content to make your message special. What do you know about how hard the reader worked to achieve this milestone? Share personal insights and memories, and your note will mean that much more.
A.Appreciate what went into the achievement |
B.A note like this can make your reader feel appreciated |
C.Choose general words to praise what they’ve achieved |
D.It’s a good idea to write out a rough draft before you actually write on nice paper |
E.However, your message will mean much more to the recipient if you put it on paper |
F.As technology develops, people can send messages of congratulations in various ways |
G.As the pace of life has accelerated, people are sending fewer messages of congratulations |
4 . Ways to Always Be Yourself and Live Happily
Don’t aim to please others.
Don’t worry about how others view you. Occasionally thinking about how others view you may make you change for the better.
Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for thinking negatively. Forgive yourself for talking without thinking twice. Don’t think negative thoughts about yourself for taking wrong steps or making wrong decisions. This kind of thinking puts your focus on the problem and not the solution. It’s better to say good thing about yourself than to say negative things.
Strive for what you want to accomplish. Being yourself does not have to mean that you have to be stuck in the status quo(现状).
A.Learn more about yourself. |
B.Aim for what you want to achieve. |
C.Stop being negative about yourself. |
D.Saying positive things is a sign that you have forgiven yourself. |
E.Committing to something and working toward it will lead to happiness. |
F.But you should not be constantly wondering about what others are thinking. |
G.There is a problem if you are always doing what everyone else wants to do. |
5 . It seems that friends often have similar body odor. Dogs greet other dogs using their noses first, as they are sniffing each other. People are not quite so open about the process of sniffing each other out.
They have also shown that this is probably the case from the get-go, with people picking friends at least partly on the basis of body odor, rather than the body odor of people who become friends subsequently converging.
As they report in Science Advances, these scientists started their research by testing the odors of 20 pairs of established, non-romantic, same-sex friends.
The e-nose results and the opinions of the second group of smellers were then subjected to a bit of multidimensional mathematical analysis, emerging as simple, comparable numbers.
All three approaches yielded the same result. The T-shirts of friends smelt more similar to each other than did the T-shirts of strangers.
A.Participants were paired up at random. |
B.Friends, in other words, do indeed smell alike. |
C.Now, some scientists in Israel have gone a step further. |
D.But the size of the perfume industry suggests the scent is important in human relations, too. |
E.To do this they employed an electronic nose (e-nose) and two groups of human “smellers”. |
F.One group of human smellers were given pairs of these shirts and rated how similar they smelt. |
G.To cast light on whether friendship causes the similarity of scents, or the similarity of scents causes friendship. |
1. Why does the speaker suggest making a list of ideas in advance?
A.Because it can help you in case you don’t know what to say to others. |
B.Because many parties ask people to do this. |
C.Because you can show it to others at the party. |
A.Keep silent. |
B.Look for the people who are also nervous. |
C.Take a deep breath and try to forget your nervousness. |
A.They also feel shy sometimes. |
B.They can overcome shyness completely. |
C.They can not face the cameras and the public. |
7 . A recent study by a group of researchers found that there is a link between happiness and a term that the researchers coined called “relational diversity.”
Using public data from sources like the Bureau of Labor Statistics and the World Health Organization, the researchers were able to analyze data sets and survey responses from people who had shared their daily habits, schedules and interactions. They noticed a clear relationship between relational diversity and overall levels of satisfaction.
Hanne Collins, a Harvard Business School doctoral student who co-authored the study, says that relational diversity is composed of two elements: richness and evenness.
Richness measures relationship categories, or how many kinds of people you interact with in a day. That could be your romantic partner, a family member, a neighbor or a stranger. “The more relationship categories they talk to in a day and the more even their conversations are across those categories, the happier they are. And we find this in a large sample across many countries,” Collins said.
Evenness relates to the distribution of conversations among those different relationship categories. Some people may find themselves interacting with colleagues at work more than, say, their family members. “If you have a few conversations with colleagues, a few with friends, a few with a romantic partner or a couple chats with strangers, thats going to be more even across these categories,” Collins explained.
Ultimately, Collins says, the study gives insight to the idea that humans are social creatures at heart. Having a support system is important, but it goes beyond your inner circle. “Its about this mix. Its about connecting with people who are close to you, who are maybe less close to you, who connect you with other people, who provide different kinds of support,” she said. “Essentially, the idea is that the more diverse your social portfolio (社交档案), the happier you are and the higher your well-being.”
Next time you consider striking up a conversation with a stranger in line at the grocery store or while waiting at the coffee shop, keep in mind that it might be beneficial to your well-being.
1. How does the author explain the term “relational diversity”?A.By listing statistics. | B.By making comparison. |
C.By giving definitions and examples. | D.By describing the process. |
A.A person who interacts most with his family members. |
B.A person who communicates frequently with his friends. |
C.A person who seldom strikes up conversations with strangers. |
D.A person who has ever conversations with many different people. |
A.Researchers came up with a new concept. |
B.It shows that a support system is not necessary. |
C.Researchers collected data by conducting experiments. |
D.It was led by a doctoral student from Harvard Business School. |
A.Neutral. | B.Skeptical. |
C.Opposed. | D.Approving. |
8 . There is an old American saying, “Loose lips sink ships.” This means that if you speak too much about something, especially to people who you don’t know so well, it’ll cause all kinds of trouble.
The situation here is so much worse because the “loose lips” were your best friend’s. Treated this way, you’re sure to feel hurt.
But I have to say that it’s partly your fault, isn’t it? You admit that you were “letting off steam”. It is understandable in that situation, but we should always think before we speak.
First, apologise to your teammate. If you ever want to win any more basketball games, you need to work together, and that means communicating with each other clearly and resolving conflicts.
Then, talk to your friend. Friendship should be one of the greatest things in the world, but sometimes it can be difficult. Again, your strategy is clear communication. Tell your friend you’re angry with him for repeating what you said and making the situation worse, but that you want to move on.
Thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, think about your own behaviour. Don’t say too much when you’re angry!
If you think about other people’s feelings as well as your own, you’ll soon find everything works out.
A.Here’s what you need to do. |
B.So have a chat with your teammate. |
C.Approached in this way, your friendship will soon be repaired. |
D.Always remember that a friend in need is a friend indeed. |
E.We depend on our parents at home, while we depend on friends when we are outside. |
F.Filled with anger, you tend to say whatever comes to your mind. |
G.We should always be able to trust those closest to us, and it hurts even more when we find we can’t. |
9 . In an era when many parents make efforts to ensure that boys and girls have equal opportunities, a recent study found that boys are paid twice as much allowance (零花钱) as girls for doing weekly chores.
An analysis of 10,000 families across the US showed that boys earned an average of $13.80 (92 yuan) each week compared with $6.71 earned by girls, according to BusyKid, a web platform that allows kids to receive, spend, or invest their allowance.
“I think this is a wake-up call for parents to realize what they are paying, to make sure they are being as fair as possible,” said Gregg Murset, CEO of BusyKid.
According to the analysis, boys averaged more allowance than girls because they were more often assigned chores considered more physically difficult, including cutting the grass. Girls, meanwhile, were more often paid for jobs such as loading the dishwasher. Boys also earned more money because they were paid for things girls were not paid for at all, including showering and brushing their teeth.
In Illinois, Vaishali Patel tries hard to teach her two children that gender shouldn’t determine what chores they are assigned or what activities they choose. The parents don’t pay their children an allowance, and instead expect them to help with all jobs around the house.
But Patel said the children still pick up on old-fashioned gender stereotypes (刻板印象) from elsewhere, like when they tell their son to try dance classes in addition to the sports he plays.
“He’s like, ‘No way am I doing that’,” said Patel. “Some of that is really hard to influence.”
Barbara Risman, a professor at the University of Illinois at Chicago, said that while Americans have come a long way in terms of offering more equal opportunities for men and women, changing mindsets (心态) forever takes even more time.
1. According to the analysis, how much do girls earn on average every day in the US?A.$6.71. | B.$0.96. | C.$13.80. | D.$1.97. |
A.They do less work. |
B.They have no gender stereotypes. |
C.Most people think their task takes little effort. |
D.They can do more physically difficult chores. |
A.Changing mindsets all the time. |
B.Updating attitudes over a short time. |
C.Breaking old-fashioned gender stereotypes. |
D.Providing different chances for different genders. |
A.Paying equally. |
B.The ways to get more allowance. |
C.Differences between two different genders. |
D.Boys should have more allowance than girls. |
10 . How to Teach Confidence
While it might seem like some people are just born confident, confidence is largely an acquired skill.
Model confident behavior far people.
If you’re trying to improve someone’s confidence, be a model for how they should behave in a confident way.
Praise small accomplishments to raise a person’s self-worth.
If you’re trying to build someone’s confidence, start small. Each accomplishment they complete is a cause for celebration, even if it seems small. Be happy for your friends, kids, or students.
Give specific praise so people know what they did well.
A specific praise is better than a simple “You did well”.
Start with a positive statement before correcting something.
A.Instead, tell the person exactly what they did well. |
B.It’s something you can model and teach other people. |
C.You may have to point out where someone needs to improve. |
D.Instead of feeling criticized, the person will know you’re sincere. |
E.Act confident around them and in your interpersonal interactions. |
F.Your positive energy will teach them to celebrate their achievements. |
G.You might show someone’s strengths to help them see the bright side. |