1 . The malls were filled with people seeking Christmas gifts. Behind the
Giving attention to each other is, to a large extent, what human civilization is
I friend you, you friend me. The
The very nature of attention exchange is being rapidly
Face-to-face attention is becoming
A.thoughtful | B.imaginative | C.physical | D.romantic |
A.Instead | B.However | C.Otherwise | D.Moreover |
A.opinions | B.feelings | C.choices | D.presents |
A.related to | B.based upon | C.stood for | D.addicted to |
A.While | B.Once | C.When | D.If |
A.strange | B.disappointing | C.charming | D.slight |
A.attached | B.adapted | C.absorbed | D.appealed |
A.habit | B.circle | C.gesture | D.attempt |
A.necessarily | B.hopelessly | C.directly | D.increasingly |
A.transformed | B.disturbed | C.revealed | D.affected |
A.because | B.as | C.like | D.since |
A.psychological | B.eventual | C.biological | D.general |
A.employ | B.confirm | C.exploit | D.identify |
A.costlier | B.commoner | C.rarer | D.tougher |
A.on purpose | B.during the holidays | C.in person | D.all-year-round |
2 . We are often reminded of Oscar Wilde’s saying that “sarcasm (讽刺) is the lowest form of wit” while forgetting the following “but the highest form of intelligence”. Parents or teachers of teenagers, in particular, may find it hard to believe that it is actually a sign of a flexible and inventive mind.
Yet that is exactly what psychologists and neuroscientists have been arguing. They have found that sarcasm requires the brain to jump through numerous hoops (圈) to arrive at a correct interpretation, requiring more brainpower than literal statements.
If you’re still not convinced that your teen’s love of sarcasm is a thing worth celebrating, consider a recent experiment from Li Huang, a psychologist at Insead’s business school in Fontainebleau, France.
In the experiment, participants were presented with a candle, a pack of matches and a box of tacks (图钉). Their task was to find a way to attach the candle to the wall so that it could burn without dripping wax on the floor. The correct answer is to empty the box of tacks, pin it to the wall, and then place the candle inside a solution that will only come to mind if you are prepared to think about the functions of each object.
Before working on the problem, some participants were asked to recall a sarcastic interaction, while others remembered a sincere or neutral exchange. Quite amazingly, the sarcastic memories more than doubled the participants’ success rate, from around 30% to more than 60%.
It may initially feel like a shock when parents notice their children using sarcasm——a sign, perhaps, of a more adult-like cynicism (愤世嫉俗) that conflicts with their impressions of their children’s youthful innocence. Parents may feel particularly helpless when dealing with a teenager who uses it in almost all interactions, as if they struggle. to express any sincere emotions.
But should we blame teens for applying this handy tool? Perhaps it’s better seen as the useful practice of a vital ability. Penny Pexman, a psycholinguist at the University of Calgary agrees and it is for this reason that she has produced Sydney Gets Sarcastic, a storybook that provides multiple examples of sarcasm and the reasons it was used. In a recent experiment on 5-to 6-year-olds, she showed that children who read and discussed the story found it easier to detect sarcastic statements in a following test.
1. Why does the author refer to Oscar Wilde’s words at the beginning of the text?A.To give a definition of sarcasm. |
B.To stress the significance of sarcasm. |
C.To express his concern about sarcasm. |
D.To show the misunderstanding of sarcasm. |
A.They tended to stay long with participants. |
B.They offered clues to the problem to be solved. |
C.They could force participants to face problems. |
D.They contributed greatly to participant’s success. |
A.It shows their innocence. |
B.It helps them express emotions. |
C.It is not appropriate for their age. |
D.It allows them to behave like adults. |
A.To urge parents to learn from their children’s sarcasm. |
B.To teach parents how to respond to their children’s sarcasm. |
C.To show parents the positive side of their children’s sarcasm. |
D.To remind parents to teach their children to use words properly. |
3 . Suppose you are out shopping and come across an acquaintance who starts telling you a story that seems to be dragging on and on. You want to seem interested, so you offer the occasional “Oh” or “I see”. To your surprise, though, this person angrily stops in their tracks and says, “Sorry if I’m boring you!”
Where did this come from? Clearly, your body language must have betrayed you. The idea that verbal (口头的) and nonverbal messages can conflict was the inspiration for a recently published study from Yale University’s Lueylle Armentano. As part of her study of communication in relationships, Armentano’s research also examined communication channels in people meeting for the first time.
To test the role of verbal-nonverbal mismatch on emotional communication, Armentano and her partner created experimental conditions to see what happens when someone asks for help from strangers. The research team created videotapes of a fellow Yale student expressing nervousness in his words, bodily gestures, or both. The bodily gestures included running his hands through his hair, grabbing his arm, and facially expressing uneasiness. The key question was whether the other participants, another 82 Yale students, would believe the student and provide the help he was requesting. They needed to give their responses.
Turning to the findings, those nonverbal cues (提示) of nervousness had a greater impact on helping behavior than the verbal cues. Surprisingly, helping behavior was the highest when verbal expressions of nervousness were low but nonverbal cues were high.
Recognizing that your body language can outweigh your words means that you need to be mindful of what your body is doing when you’re interacting with others. Generally, when someone is speaking to you, you want to look like you’re interested. Not only should you maintain eye contact, but you should keep your body still and face toward the other person. If you’re not trying to look interested, it may be more polite to say you have to be somewhere else.
1. What is paragraph 1 mainly about?A.The obvious advantages of body language. |
B.A situation where body language is a must. |
C.An example of verbal-nonverbal mismatch. |
D.The proper way to interact with old friends. |
A.Express nervousness in their words. | B.Identify the types of body language. |
C.Try to win the nervous student’s trust. | D.Respond to the nervous student’s request. |
A.His sincere verbal expressions. | B.His bodily gestures of nervousness. |
C.His positive attitude to nervousness. | D.His good manners in front of others. |
A.Make a prediction. | B.Offer suggestions. |
C.Present some facts. | D.Give some warnings. |
4 . Honesty is important. However, not everyone seems to think so. Lies and the hiding of truth are commonplace. But when examining the case for honesty, you realize it’s a better option. Here are the reasons why the value of honesty is beyond measure.
It is easier to understand.
You are more likely to get what you want. We often hide our true desires or preferences rather than speak out the truth. But when we are completely honest with ourselves and others, we encourage the right actions that lead to what we want.
It is better for your inner peace. Lying doesn’t come easy for most people. When you cheat others, it can feel like you are going against your values. Not only that, but as soon as you lie, you will live with the fear of that lie being discovered. That’s a mentally tiring thing.
A.Telling the truth is simple. |
B.It is the best way to prove your honesty. |
C.Instead, it is so hard that no one can do it. |
D.When we speak up, the other person is more likely to listen. |
E.Honesty, though not always easy, doesn’t carry such burdens. |
F.When you are clear in what you think, there’s no grey area for confusion. |
G.Actually, it can be hard when you tell others what they don’t want to hear. |
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Dear Sir or Madam,
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Yours sincerely,
Li Hua
Building Trust in Virtual Environments
Research into the science behind human communication tells us that up to 90 percent of what we tell one another is nonverbal. It’s the countless eye, facial and body movements we flash one another that help us understand someone’s intention and determine if we should trust them.
The challenge we all face is figuring out ways to build trust in virtual environments. Sure, we have some interactions on videoconferences, but the physical cues (暗示) we’ve become accustomed to reacting to are restricted and masked. This is forcing us to develop new ways to trust one another. Good leaders are working to engineer those opportunities to build trust in their now virtual teams.
There are lessons we can learn from global multinational companies that have figured out how to make virtual relationships work over the past few decades. If you have vital business partners, or even employees working overseas, you have, at best, limited opportunities to meet them in person. What these companies have learned is that actions speak louder than words, and people base a simple analysis of trustworthiness on delivering on commitments. People that do are trustworthy; people that don’t aren’t.
When you hire virtual workers and get a new virtual team member, there is the question of whether someone has the background and experience they claim to have. That means we all need to lean on tools and techniques to help certify (证实) someone’s background. Some companies have built talent databases in which people can search their teammates and confirm their impressive backgrounds. Knowing that you are working with a certified superstar builds trust.
Finding ways to get someone to prove their trustworthiness by doing what they say they will and backing up their claims of experience will go a long way in helping you adapt to the new reality that we work in.
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7 . The Truth Is Out
Human beings are not born liars, but the moment we can form complete sentences we begin lying to protect the feelings of others, to avoid punishment and conflict, and, most frequently, because lying gives advantages the truth wouldn’t provide. Lying gets results.
One study by Bella DePaulo, a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, found lies played a part in 30-38 percent of people’s social interactions. Socially skillful people told a lot more lies than their more awkward coworkers.
Nowhere is this more obvious than on the singles scene. First dates have always involved a certain amount of self-boast, but some singles now regard out-and-out deceit (欺骗) as a reasonable strategy.
Experts believe that increased competition and the higher expectations among singles, along with the popularity of Internet dating, are encouraging outbreaks of deceitfulness. The problem is that many singles are presenting images of themselves that are impossible to live up to, and costing their already limited chances of long-term love in the process.
Of course, long-term lovers aren’t immune (不受影响) to the conflict-avoiding, problem-burying lie either. Once again, a pleasant singles scene coupled with unrealistic expectations has put new pressure on less-than-faultless relationships and tempted many into more serious deception. A study last year by Cahoot found that a majority of partners lie to each other about their personal financial situation. Other studies have found that women appreciate wise lies about their weight or looks.
Possibly. After all, few of us feel that lying is wrong any more.
A.Lying, it seems, is becoming an acceptable and even admirable social skill. |
B.A lie is only wrong because it might be discovered, and cause hurt and upset. |
C.But the Cahoot research also showed that lying is on increasingly difficult ground. |
D.We, as a result, are all on the receiving end of a great many more lies than in the past. |
E.They are so emotionally and intellectually evolved now that they are lying more, on a regular basis. |
F.They either stop potential lovers by asking for too much, or they invite lies that will be discovered quickly. |
8 . Some people can walk into a room and instantly put everyone at ease. Others seem to make teeth clench and eyes roll no matter what they do. A small body of psychology research supports the idea that the way a person tends to make others feel is a consistent and measurable part of his personality. Researchers call it “effective presence.”
This concept was first described nearly 10 years ago in a study led by No ah Eisenkraft, a business professor at Washington University. He put business-school students into groups, had them register for all the same classes for a semester, and do every group project together. Then the members of each group rated how much every other member made them feel eight different emotions: stressed, bored, angry, sad, calm, relaxed, happy, and enthusiastic. The researchers found that a significant portion of group members ‘ emotions could be accounted for by the effective presence of their peers.
It seems that “our own way of being has an emotional signature.” says Elfenbein.
It’s been known for some time that emotions are infectious. But effective presence is an effect one has regardless of one’s own feelings—those with positive effective presence make other people feel good even if they personally are anxious or sad, and the opposite is true for those with negative effective presence
Unsurprisingly, people who consistently make others feel good are morn central to their social networks—in Elfenbein’s study, more of their classmate considered them to be friends. Sector Madrid, an organizational-behavior professor, has found that leaders with positive affective presence have teams that are better at sharing information, which leads to creativity. Inferiors are more likely to voice their ideas, too.
However, Elfenbein notes that positive effective presence isn’t naturally good. Psychopaths(精神变态者) are infamously charming and nay well use their positive effective presence for calculating ends. Neither is negative effective presence necessarily always a bad thing in a leader— think of a football coach yelling at the team at half time, motivating them to make a comeback. She suspects that effective presence is closely related to emotional intelligence which one can use to cure cancer or to be a criminal master mind.
1. What does the underlined phrase “make teeth clench” in Paragraph 1 mean?A.Make people upset or angry. | B.Make people glad or refreshed. |
C.Make people comfortable or relaxed. | D.Make people amazed or thrilled. |
A.To suggest leaders are better at sharing information. |
B.To prove leaders also have negative effective presence |
C.To indicate positive effective presence has a greater influence, |
D.To show positive effective presence can promote social interaction. |
A.It is for calculating ends. | B.It is a double-edged sword. |
C.It is affected by one’s own emotion, | D.It is the positive emotional influence on others. |
A.Effective Presence: How You Make People Feel |
B.Emotional Signature: Why Emotions are Infectious |
C.Effective Presence: Negative Part of Your Personalities |
D.Emotional Intelligence: Big Part of effective Presence |
What to say to a rude person
As the British doctor Lord Robert Winston took a train from London to Manchester, he found himself becoming steadily annoyed. A woman had picked up her phone and began a loud conversation,
Winston’s tale is something of a microcosm of our age of increasing rudeness,
Studies have shown that rudeness spreads quickly and virally, almost like the common cold.Just witnessing rudeness makes it far more likely
The rage and injustice we feel at the rude behavior of a stranger
We must instead combat rudeness head on.When we see it occur in a store, we must step up and say something.If it happens to a colleague, we must point it out.We must defend strangers in the same way we’d defend our best friends. But we can do it with grace, by handling it without a trace of aggression and without being rude
10 . Perhaps you know two people would get on well—if only they would speak to each other. Your shy friends aren’t intentionally avoiding one another; it is just not in their nature to strike up a conversation. You can help things along by greasing (润滑) the wheels of social interaction.
Make Introductions
The first step to getting two shy people to talk to one another is to offer an introduction.
Ease Anxiety
Find Mutual Interests
Give your shy friends a reason to talk. Figure out what they have in common and let them know about it. For example, if Josh and David are both into watching the UFC, make an introduction and a comment about the latest fight.
Get Active
Shy people have trouble living in the moment. They tend to think about past weaknesses or worry about future social obstacles rather than focus on the current situation. Put your shy friends in a situation that forces them to stop thinking so much and have a little fun. Ideally, your shy acquaintances should have to work together to overcome an obstacle—similar to what happens at company party.
A.Some shy people are their own worst critics. |
B.Most shy people are hesitant to offer a handshake or a name. |
C.You might need to include yourself in the conversation at first. |
D.Don’t worry that your shy friends will feel that you are interfering. |
E.Promote the conversation by easing the anxiety shared by your shy friends. |
F.They will come away with a shared experience and hopefully a tighter bond. |
G.Getting to know the likes and dislikes of your shy friends will make this easier. |