1 . How To Stop Bein g A People Pleaser
As a recovering people pleaser, I spent much of my life keeping others happy. Breaking this habit meant stepping on a few toes. However, I’ve become a happier person as a result. Here are some tips I used to stop being a people pleaser.
Identify your priorities. Take a moment to think about why you are trying to learn how to stop being a people pleaser.
Just say “no”. One reason why people pleasers say “yes” to everything is that they fear disappointing others.
Accept yourself. Many people pleasers are insecure about who they are.
Remember that you cannot please everyone. No matter what you do there will always be someone who is unhappy with your choices.
A.Learn to set healthy boundaries. |
B.Don’t mix up your boundaries with others’. |
C.Who are the people that you feel the need to please? |
D.Spend some time learning to love yourself for who you are. |
E.So why bother trying to please everyone if it isn’t possible? |
F.But saying “no” is the best way to take care of your own needs. |
G.That is why the more you seek security, the less of it you have. |
1. What does Miyako want to do?
A.Make a call. | B.Send a card. | C.Hold a party. |
A.Making an apology. | B.Giving an explanation. | C.Sharing an experience. |
3 . Having a good sense of humor makes you more enjoyable to be around.
●Surround Yourself with Humor
You learn more effectively when you fully expose yourself to a subject. Similarly, you can improve your sense of humor by surrounding yourself with humor. Watch stand-up comedians. Listen to programs that amuse you.Read humorous books.
●Learn What Amuses You
●Think About Timing and Audience
You don’t have to be funny all the time, so don’t expect that of yourself. When you catch yourself trying to be funny, slow down. Simply speak slower so you’re not as likely to stop and repeat yourself. Try speaking at 60-70 % of your usual rate.
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You don’t need to seize every single opportunity to be funny. If you’re in the middle of a bad joke, just end it. “You know what, now that I’m telling it, it’s not as funny as it sounded in my head,” can be a bit of an awkward end and hurt your pride a little bit, but it saves everyone time and patience. In the long run, they’ll respect your taste.
A.Be Creative, Not Silly |
B.Pause in between sentences |
C.There’s a lot of fun out there |
D.You might also do better at work |
E.Know When to Pull the Plug on Yourself |
F.You can also try your hand in the real world |
G.A lot of times, we say things purely to please others |
4 . When I was nine years old, I was desperately in love with a man who was 40 years my senior. Don’t worry; Mickey Dolenz of The Monkees didn’t even know I existed because he’d stopped being an actor 20 years earlier. But that didn’t stop me from decorating my books with love hearts.
The Monkees were entirely manufactured, but as a product they were a success: they used the media to develop a bond between an audience member and her target. In their TV show, they regularly broke the fourth wall, throwing knowing winks (眨眼) to camera, and shared their funny behind-the-scenes lives. They made us think we knew them, as a friend.
This kind of “parasocial relationship” (准社交关系) has long roots in media. Radio characters like Lonesome Gal started her program with, “Sweetie, I love you,” speaking directly to her listeners in the the 1950s. Each individual felt he had her undivided attention. She was an entirely virtual girlfriend, at a time when the word had nothing to do with technology.
Parasocial relationships have become a means to an end in the digital age, now that selling yourself has become a way of life. Using these relationships is how you gain followers, credibility and influence. But once you start to gain a critical mass, the relationship necessarily transforms—at least in the eye of the digital personality. You can speak directly to one fan, or even five. But it’s not possible to respond to the 10, 000 people who subscribe to your TikTok. What was once a close and friendly relationship turns into a business transaction (交易).
Rising social media stars have to manage themselves and their boundaries. That’s one of the most undeveloped skills in the digital age. Today’s parasocial relationships are surfing unknown territory, so it is expected that they—we—will make mistakes. And who is there to help when we’ve put ourselves out there online?
1. What do we know about a parasocial relationship?A.It isn’t developed without mutual understanding. |
B.It isn’t healthy or beneficial at all to either side. |
C.It is a relationship that enjoys good interaction. |
D.It is an imaginary relationship with a celebrity. |
A.Stepped down from the stage. | B.Interacted with the audience. |
C.Removed bricks of the wall. | D.Engaged with photographers. |
A.The expansion of digital marketing. | B.The intentional ignorance of fans. |
C.The increase in the number of fans. | D.The lack of communication skills. |
A.To raise public concern. | B.To present a scientific study. |
C.To give a full explanation. | D.To express personal feelings. |
5 . Everyone can benefit from better communication.
Verbal language is only one aspect of the communication—body language is another aspect. If you ever wanted to know how to tell if someone is lying, body language is the answer. Your body language tells other people what you aren’t verbally saying, such as if you are anxious, confident, confused, angry or any other type of emotion or state of mind. If you become great at reading body language,it will help you become a better communicator.
Listen to others
Before you ever begin to speak, take a minute to see if anyone else has something to say.
Think before you speak
You parents probably told you this as a child, but many people still do not take a moment to think about the words they are about to say.
A.This is not and over-night thing. |
B.Singing a song for them is good. |
C.Become fluent in body language |
D.Don’t try to make the conversation go your way. |
E.You should decide what you want to get in any conversation before you choose your words. |
F.If you are too anxious, you can’t find the right body language to use in the communication. |
G.In fact, if everybody were excellent communicators, the world would be a much better place. |
6 . Ways to Always Be Yourself and Live Happily
Don’t aim to please others.
Don’t worry about how others view you. Occasionally thinking about how others view you may make you change for the better.
Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for thinking negatively. Forgive yourself for talking without thinking twice. Don’t think negative thoughts about yourself for taking wrong steps or making wrong decisions. This kind of thinking puts your focus on the problem and not the solution. It’s better to say good thing about yourself than to say negative things.
Strive for what you want to accomplish. Being yourself does not have to mean that you have to be stuck in the status quo(现状).
A.Learn more about yourself. |
B.Aim for what you want to achieve. |
C.Stop being negative about yourself. |
D.Saying positive things is a sign that you have forgiven yourself. |
E.Committing to something and working toward it will lead to happiness. |
F.But you should not be constantly wondering about what others are thinking. |
G.There is a problem if you are always doing what everyone else wants to do. |
A.Her doctor. | B.Her employer. | C.Her teacher. |
8 . After exactly a year of staying at home, we have adapted to socializing digitally, in short bursts of time.Remember in Before Times you could head to the gym after work and then get dressed for dinner and a night out? The pandemic(疫情) has changed this. Our social batteries have run out of charge. It's been a long time since we had to perform our social role for an extended period.
For 23-year-old Hafsa, the excitement of her friends and family to restart their social lives has left her astonished. “ At the minute my parents are planning a trip abroad and I keep postponing getting back to them with a date,” she explains. “They don't know it's because of all of this. Just the thought of being in a room full of people is scary, it's like going back to school.”
Heather Garbutt, psychotherapist of the Counselling & Psychotherapy Centre says communication is key to recharging your unused social battery. “Take it slowly and don't immediately organize a large get-together,” she advises. “Go for a walk with somebody for no more than half an hour and gently get used to being with people again. It may actually be a shock to our system which has been shut down to some degree to cope with absence. We may have that longing to be with others, but that doesn't mean we are free from anxiety. It would be good to start off with a conversation about what it's going to be like when you are all together again.”
She says finding some causal topics to discuss also works. Acknowledge that many of you may feel a bit awkward after being physically apart for so long. It's a bit like learning to walk again after you've broken a limb. It may all be off-balance to begin with but you will find a new steadiness with practice. Whatever happens post-pandemic, your loved ones can't judge if you want to take it easy and not engage in the festivities immediately. We are recovering from a post-pandemic stress disorder, after all.
1. What has become of us after a year of staying at home?A.We are addicted to chatting with people online' |
B.We may feel it impossible to go back to normal |
C.We are quite looking forward to being with people. |
D.We may find it hard to socialize with others like before. |
A.Anxious. | B.Excited. |
C.Astonished. | D.Guilty. |
A.Pay a visit to a close friend and stay over. |
B.Hang out with your friends for several hours. |
C.Have a brief chat about your future get-together. |
D.Ignore those who are anxious about connecting with others. |
A.What Can Help Repair Our Social Networks? |
B.How Can We Restore Our Social Batteries? |
C.When Can We Speed Up Our Reunion Plan? |
D.Why Did the Pandemic Mess Up Our Social Life? |
9 . Psychologists have long believed that human beings have a fairly consistent “negativity bias(消极偏见)” that leads us to pay more attention to negative thoughts, feelings and events than to positive ones.
Practice Positivity. Like your muscles, your thought patterns respond to how they are used and exercised. You don't have to erase the negativity bias from your mind.
Ask for Positive Reminders. Get in the habit of checking in with people who are with you when goodness finds you today. Mention to them, “That is an unexpected bit of praise from the boss, isn't it?”
A.Try the following suggested ideas. |
B.Redefine negativity as an opportunity. |
C.Instead, practice your positive lifestyle. |
D.Its negative influence can never be avoided. |
E.Why and how does this phenomenon happen? |
F.How do you handle it as you try to live with more positivity? |
G.Asking others to confirm your positive insights can facilitate your positivity. |
Arriving in Sydney on his own from India, my husband , Rashid, stayed in a hotel for a short time while looking for a house for me and our children as we would go there when he made everything settled.
During the first week of his stay, he went out one day to do some shopping. He almost got lost in those unfamiliar blocks. When he came back in the late afternoon, he discovered that his suitcase was gone. He was extremely worried as the suitcase had all his important papers, including his passport. For a while, he was overwhelmed with depression with no one to turn to.
He reported the case to the police and then sat there,lost and lonely in a strange city, thinking of the terrible troubles of getting all the paperwork organized again from a distant country while trying to settle down in a new one.
Late in the evening, the phone rang. It was a stranger. He was trying to pronounce my husband’s name and was asking him a lot of questions. Then he said they had found a pile of papers in their trash can(垃圾桶)that had been left out on the footpath.
My husband rushed to their home to find a kind family holding all his papers and documents. Their young daughter had gone to the trash can and found a pile of unfamiliar papers. Her parents had carefully sorted them out, although they had found mainly foreign addresses on most of the documents. At last they had seen a half-written letter in the pile in which my husband had given his new telephone number to a friend. My husband was so excited about the return of the suitcase. Meanwhile, the kindness of this family made him feel that this place could be a new start, a new home for a brand new life.
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