1 . Behavioral scientists have found that good listening is one of the most important things we can do to improve our relationships.
In addition to actively attending to a speaker’s words, good listeners also use questions and body language that indicate their understanding and their desire to understand. This might feel awkward at first, and what’s most effective might depend on your relationship with the speaker.
These might seem like small changes, but together they make a big difference. And when people feel heard, they report more satisfaction, trust, and connection in their relationships.
A.Finally, don’t be afraid of silence. |
B.So, what can we do to become better listeners? |
C.It’s possible to know what truly excellent listening looks like. |
D.But with time and practice, you can internalize these basic behaviors |
E.There’s no universally agreed-upon definition of high-quality listening. |
F.Researchers have found that smiling and nodding at set intervals doesn’t quite work. |
G.So try to stay present and if you lose focus, don’t be shy about asking the speaker to repeat what you missed. |
2 . PEER PRESSURE
Have you ever been forced to do anything? Have you ever felt that you are in a tight corner because of someone’s comment?
Peer pressure can influence how people dress, how they talk, what music they listen to, what attitudes they adopt and how they behave. Teenagers want to be liked, to fit in and to be accepted.
Students can do a lot to avoid peer pressure. The most important thing is to build up self-confidence, so that it is easier to say “no” to the peer group.
A.Why does peer pressure happen? |
B.Teens can talk to a grown-up they trust. |
C.Students can do this by choosing their friends wisely. |
D.If they give in to peer pressure, what could be the result? |
E.This means peer pressure can be powerful and hard to resist. |
F.We’ve all experienced the situations like that—peer pressure. |
G.We need to recognize when it is positive and when it is negative. |
3 . Around the globe, about 1 in 4 adults says they’re lonely. And the consequences of long-term social disconnection can be everything from an increased risk of heart attacks to dementia (痴呆). The following offers a road map to make connections.
Be curious. It’s easier to connect with people if you have shared interests or experiences, so start paying attention to what’s in your mind. What motivates you? What excites you?
Make something. When experts advise making something, people will say, “Well, I’m not Picasso. I don’t know how to do a fancy painting. ” Of course, you’re not!
Find a group that matches your interests. Whether it’s volunteering fora cause or playing frisbee (飞盘), try to find others who share your interests. There’s even an online group that has a quirky shared interest: a fascination with brown bears in Alaska, which led to Fat Bear Week. In interactions with others, you can begin to reveal yourself and share the unique things that matter to you.
Other people’s loneliness matters too.
A.Pour out your hard feelings. |
B.Loneliness can be infectious. |
C.Take a risk by having conversations. |
D.You should tolerate the risk of being lonely. |
E.But the opportunities for creative expression are endless. |
F.Knowing yourself can be a first step to bonding with others. |
G.Then, other people recognize that and share their story in return. |
4 . Do you feel like an outsider, like you don’t belong anywhere or that you just don’t fit in? Here are some tips for you to deal with these feelings.
Let go of past anger. We’re so angry at people that we can’t relate to anyone or only expect the worst from others. Once I figured out how to let go of my past, I became much more comfortable being me.
Focus on your wants and desires. Instead of focusing on the problem that you don’t feel like you fit in, try turning it around. What do you want to explore, what goals do you have, or what do you want to learn?
The key to handling the situation of “I feel like an outsider” is really all in how you react to that feeling.
A.Don’t be so hard on yourself. |
B.Appreciate what makes you so unique. |
C.That’s where a number of people go wrong. |
D.Ask yourself these questions and then go and do it. |
E.I found it was easier to get along with other people. |
F.You have so much more to offer by being true to yourself. |
G.You can beat yourself up over it or you can become stronger for it. |
5 . It seems that friends often have similar body odor. Dogs greet other dogs using their noses first, as they are sniffing each other. People are not quite so open about the process of sniffing each other out.
They have also shown that this is probably the case from the get-go, with people picking friends at least partly on the basis of body odor, rather than the body odor of people who become friends subsequently converging.
As they report in Science Advances, these scientists started their research by testing the odors of 20 pairs of established, non-romantic, same-sex friends.
The e-nose results and the opinions of the second group of smellers were then subjected to a bit of multidimensional mathematical analysis, emerging as simple, comparable numbers.
All three approaches yielded the same result. The T-shirts of friends smelt more similar to each other than did the T-shirts of strangers.
A.Participants were paired up at random. |
B.Friends, in other words, do indeed smell alike. |
C.Now, some scientists in Israel have gone a step further. |
D.But the size of the perfume industry suggests the scent is important in human relations, too. |
E.To do this they employed an electronic nose (e-nose) and two groups of human “smellers”. |
F.One group of human smellers were given pairs of these shirts and rated how similar they smelt. |
G.To cast light on whether friendship causes the similarity of scents, or the similarity of scents causes friendship. |
6 . In an era when many parents make efforts to ensure that boys and girls have equal opportunities, a recent study found that boys are paid twice as much allowance (零花钱) as girls for doing weekly chores.
An analysis of 10,000 families across the US showed that boys earned an average of $13.80 (92 yuan) each week compared with $6.71 earned by girls, according to BusyKid, a web platform that allows kids to receive, spend, or invest their allowance.
“I think this is a wake-up call for parents to realize what they are paying, to make sure they are being as fair as possible,” said Gregg Murset, CEO of BusyKid.
According to the analysis, boys averaged more allowance than girls because they were more often assigned chores considered more physically difficult, including cutting the grass. Girls, meanwhile, were more often paid for jobs such as loading the dishwasher. Boys also earned more money because they were paid for things girls were not paid for at all, including showering and brushing their teeth.
In Illinois, Vaishali Patel tries hard to teach her two children that gender shouldn’t determine what chores they are assigned or what activities they choose. The parents don’t pay their children an allowance, and instead expect them to help with all jobs around the house.
But Patel said the children still pick up on old-fashioned gender stereotypes (刻板印象) from elsewhere, like when they tell their son to try dance classes in addition to the sports he plays.
“He’s like, ‘No way am I doing that’,” said Patel. “Some of that is really hard to influence.”
Barbara Risman, a professor at the University of Illinois at Chicago, said that while Americans have come a long way in terms of offering more equal opportunities for men and women, changing mindsets (心态) forever takes even more time.
1. According to the analysis, how much do girls earn on average every day in the US?A.$6.71. | B.$0.96. | C.$13.80. | D.$1.97. |
A.They do less work. |
B.They have no gender stereotypes. |
C.Most people think their task takes little effort. |
D.They can do more physically difficult chores. |
A.Changing mindsets all the time. |
B.Updating attitudes over a short time. |
C.Breaking old-fashioned gender stereotypes. |
D.Providing different chances for different genders. |
A.Paying equally. |
B.The ways to get more allowance. |
C.Differences between two different genders. |
D.Boys should have more allowance than girls. |
7 . When a Houston dad found out his eight-year-old son was being bullied (欺负), he didn’t get mad at the classmate who teased him. Instead, he talked with the so-called bully and realized that the boy was struggling, too.
Aubrey Fontenot’s son, Jordan, told him a boy named Tamarion was teasing him. Fontenot decided to sit down with his son and Tamarion to understand what was going on, and something unexpected happened.
Tamarion told Fontenot he was being teased at school, too. “I asked, ‘By who? You are big. You are huge. Who is teasing you?’” the father said. “He said, ‘Just all the other kids, man. They are making fun of me.” Fontenot learned that Tamarion was getting teased for his clothes and shoes—his clothes and shoes were old and dirty. Fontenot then spoke to the boy’s mother. “She kind of confirmed it,” Fontenot said. “And she said, ‘That’s the kind of situation.’”
He felt sympathetic to the young boy and wanted to help. So he asked Tamarion’s mom if he could take her son to do some shopping.
Fontenot posted videos of their trip to the mall on social media and they went viral. Tamarion eventually smiled, and then the two were laughing and singing together on their shopping trip. Just as if he were taking his own son to do some shopping, Fontenot got Tamarion new clothes and shoes, and shared words of wisdom with him.
Then, the dad united the two boys. He said it was awkward at first—just a day earlier, they didn’t get along well at school. But the two classmates started playing sports games together and soon became friends.
It was not just about the clothes and shoes. Tamarion gained a friend in Jordan, and a mentor in his dad. Fontenot said he was also bullied when he was a child, so he knew it was important to listen to Tamarion’s story. He chose kindness instead of anger and brought the two boys together. “I wouldn’t say that was the goal, but that was the reward,” Fontenot said.
1. What was Fontenot’s attitude toward his son’s being bullied?A.Amazed and embarrassed. | B.Angry and impatient. | C.Calm and sensible. | D.Sad and discouraged. |
A.Fontenot liked Tamarion instantly. | B.Tamarion bullied Jordan out of kindness. |
C.Tamarion was also a victim of bullying. | D.Fontenot and Tamarion’s mother used to be friends. |
A.He turned to the school for help. | B.He asked Tamarion’s mother to settle the problem. |
C.He ordered his son never to play with Tamarion again. | D.He made the two boys united and join together. |
A.Jordan’s being bullied arose from his clothes and shoes. |
B.Jordan and Tamarion got along well in the beginning. |
C.Tamarion’s mother paid little attention to Tamarion. |
D.Fontenot communicated with Tamarion’s mother to know about him. |
8 . When romantic partners argue over things like finances, jealousy, or other interpersonal issues, they tend to employ their current feelings as fuel for a heated argument. But thinking about the future helps overcome relationship conflicts, according to a University of Waterloo study just published online in Social Psychological and Personality Science. Alex Huynh, a doctoral candidate in psychology is the lead author of the study, which he published with Igor Grossmann from the University of Waterloo, and Daniel Yang from Yale University.
Previous research has shown that third-perspective reasoning can be a positive strategy for reconciliation (调解) of interpersonal struggles. Huynh and his collaborators investigated whether similar benefit can be induced by simply thinking about the future. Study participants were instructed to reflect on a recent conflict with a romantic partner or a close friend. One group of participants were then asked to describe how they would feel about the conflict one year in the future, while another group was asked to describe how they feel in the present.
The team examined participants’ written responses through a text-analysis program for their use of pronouns — such as I, me, she, he. These choices of pronouns were used to capture participants’ focus on the feelings and behaviour of those involved in the conflict. Written responses were also examined for forgiveness and reinterpreting the conflict more positively, both of which implied the participants’ use of reasoning strategies.
The researchers found that envisioning future relationship affected both participants’ focus on their feelings, and their reasoning strategies. As a result, participants reported more positivity about their relationship altogether, especially when study participants extended their thinking about the relationship a year into the future.
“Our study demonstrates that adopting a future-oriented perspective in the context of a relationship conflict — reflecting on how one might feel a year from now — may be a valuable coping tool for one’s psychological happiness and relationship well-being,” said Huynh.
1. What do romantic partners do in face of most disagreements?A.They lose faith in their future. | B.They focus on their present feelings. |
C.They look forward to a fierce conflict. | D.They care more about financial problems. |
A.Caused. | B.Explained. |
C.Reduced. | D.Improved. |
A.All the study participants described how they felt both in the present and in the future. |
B.Study participants described their recent relationship with their romantic partners or friends. |
C.A text-analysis program was employed to examine participants’ use of negative words. |
D.The reasoning strategies in participants’ written responses were well worthy of note. |
A.You have a year to solve your interpersonal problems! |
B.Thinking about future is essential for relationship maintenance! |
C.Your current feelings are the real cause of your heated arguments! |
D.Beneficial reasoning is a positive strategy for reconciliation! |
9 . Treat People with Respect
Respect in interpersonal relationship(人际关系) means honoring and valuing other people even if you do not agree with their views or actions. Being a respectful person is a valuable quality that will help you both personally and professionally. You might even find that acting respectfully towards others encourages them to treat you with more respect.
Put yourself into other people’s shoes. It can be hard to be respectful of other people’s views if you cannot relate to them. For example, if you’re in conflict with someone, imagine what it would be like to have their experiences and feelings. This can help you understand their point of view better.
Value other people’s opinions. Listen to people’s ideas, opinions, and advice with an open mind. Even if you don’t necessarily agree with them, consider their words without immediately disagreeing with them.
A.Develop good manners. |
B.Express your comments positively. |
C.Treat others how you want to be treated. |
D.Share your opinions when you are asked. |
10 . One Saturday evening, there was a knock at the door of my clinic. My friend Jacqui was standing there holding a towel
Nursing birds is my usual
We had a large empty cage, and inside it was a bath with much leaf litter. The bath was a very
A.hung | B.tied | C.folded | D.wrapped |
A.mad | B.troubled | C.eager | D.disappointed |
A.speciality | B.favorite | C.motivation | D.expectation |
A.drop off | B.send on | C.pick out | D.leave aside |
A.life | B.home | C.health | D.nature |
A.touched | B.handled | C.fed | D.liked |
A.credit | B.confusion | C.relief | D.content |
A.improved | B.removed | C.checked | D.replaced |
A.energetic | B.hungry | C.adorable | D.watchful |
A.satisfactory | B.convenient | C.interesting | D.familiar |
A.cured | B.bathed | C.locked | D.settled |
A.in shape | B.in place | C.in sight | D.in order |
A.shelter | B.escape | C.rest | D.attack |
A.obviously | B.eventually | C.immediately | D.unwillingly |
A.accompanied | B.remembered | C.spotted | D.caught |