Ways to avoid quarrels with your mother
Don't give her the silent treatment
The best technique to get what you want and exert mental pressure on somebody is to give them the silent treatment.If you think the silent treatment will help you achieve a desirable result, then you're mistaken.
Refuse to go into hysterics(歇斯底里)
There's no doubt that hysterics is an extremely effective type of processing mode, but you're not a little child.
Avoid deeply offensive words
Word is a unique and powerful thing that exerts a big influence on human mind.If you're in a quarrel with your mother，you should be careful what you say to her.
I had a terrible habit of drawing my brother and dad into conflicts between me and my mom.I wanted them to support me and help us find a beneficial solution.Unfortunately, their active participation only worsened the problem.As a result, small and insignificant motherchild fights grew into longlasting family conflicts.I learned a big lesson and realized that my bad temper made my family suffer.
Enhance your communication
Regular communication with your parents is a normal thing that makes them happier.
| A．Buy a small gift for your mother. |
| B．Don't draw other family members into a conflict. |
| C．So try your best to comfort your mother after a quarrel. |
| D．You shouldn't burst into tears and scream in front of your mother. |
| E．By all means you should take immediate action to stop this cold war. |
| F．Sometimes your word can be either a perfect pain reliever or a terrible weapon. |
| G．Lack of communication between mothers and children may cause frequent quarrels. |
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【推荐1】Psychologists have found the following strategies will effectively improve your memory.
Walking through the woods
A walk in the forest will put you at ease and improve your memory. University of Michigan psychologists asked two groups of experiment participants to go for walks.
For 30 years, psychologists have been studying “expressive writing” — writing about difficult experiences for at least 15 minutes each day. Expressive writing lets people disclose thoughts they otherwise spend mental energy trying to avoid, allowing more energy to be spent on memory.
Building meaningful links
Connecting what you just learned with what you already know will strengthen your memory.
Reading physical books
Not quite.
It turns out that we remember things better when we read them in a more physical form. Psychologists say that when you’re reading a book, you’re also holding it, feeling the weight of it in your hands. As you read through the text, the pages move from your right hand to your left.
| A．Writing expressive essays |
| B．Storing more information at a faster speed |
| C．One group walked around an urban environment |
| D．Long-term relationships have several memory benefits |
| E．We usually think of reading as a totally visual exercise |
| F．The more you relate your learning to the old knowledge, the better |
| G．Their research suggests that such movement or weight can help you memorize |
【推荐2】In a few months you’ll go to college. Are you ready for some of the newness that is about to come your way? Take a look at this “mental preparation” checklist and make sure you have given these topics some thought.
Remind yourself that it’s new for everyone.
Going to college is a big change, and it’s important not to get overwhelmed (压垮).
Commit to time management.
Organizing your time properly will make your life in college much easier.
College will open your eyes in more ways than one. It’s a time to find yourself, discover new passions, challenge old ways of thinking, and meet new people from all backgrounds and places.So, try something different. Embrace (欣然接受) the idea of exploration!
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
With anything new, it’s best to go in with a positive attitude. But life has its ups and downs.
Congratulations on this exciting time of your life.
| A．Be open to new things. |
| B．Knowing where to turn for help is important. |
| C．Things might feel a bit uncomfortable for a while. |
| D．Plan to pay them a visit early in your first semester. |
| E．Get yourself a time planning app or a good old day planner. |
| F．Remember that you’re in college to build a foundation for your future job. |
| G．As you get prepared for the first day of classes, get mentally ready for this new life stage too. |
【推荐3】Gratitude (感激之情) does more than just improve your mood for the moment. It actually changes your mindset and plays a major role in success and overall happiness.
Show your appreciation for others. When you think of gratitude exercises, you have probably already heard of suggestions like keeping a gratitude journal. Yet even more beneficial than counting your blessings is receiving thanks from others. To encourage acts of gratitude, lead by example.
Feel inspired by gratitude stories.
Start your day with a morning gratitude practice.
| A．Create group gratitude practices. |
| B．Learn to treasure the present moment. |
| C．So, put a little gratitude into your routine! |
| D．Feed your brain with good news and gratitude stories! |
| E．Practice gratitude whenever you are in the mood for it. |
| F．The way you start your morning sets the tone for the rest of the day. |
| G．Show your appreciation toward others when you genuinely feel that way. |
【推荐1】Born in China’s southernmost province of Hainan, Chen Xingrong could not utter a word until the age of two. After being diagnosed with autism, his parents were extremely worried.
“We did not understand why such a thing would happen to us,” Chen Xunhu said, adding that he began traveling to big cities such as Beijing and Guangzhou to learn more about autism. During the process, he learned how to communicate properly with autistic people. He quit his job at a computer company and devoted his full attention to the topic of autism.
In 2012, Chen Xunhu learned that swimming could help people with autism enhance their vital capacity and articulation, so he spent three months learning how to swim by watching videos and reading books.
“I did not know how to swim myself, so I watched videos and read books about swimming. I spent three months teaching my son, but the efforts all went in vain,”he recalled. “However, I did learn how to swim myself.”
To his surprise, after another three months, Chen Xunhu discovered that his son had developed the ability to control his breath under water which significantly boosted his confidence and swimming soon became an inseparable part of the family.
The father laid the groundwork for his son’s swimming lesson. On one wall of their house hangs a table for Chen Xingrong’s routine exercises.
“I used to plan all of his exercises for him, but now it is all up to him,” said senior Chen. “He decides how many exercises he wants to do, and we respect his choices. It’s a process of self-management.”
Two hand rings and a swing are suspended from the roof, all of which were installed by the father to help Chen Xingrong strengthen his muscles and learn swimming movements more precisely.
In October 2021, Chen Xunhu led his son and several other disabled athletes to participate in the 1lth National Paralympic Games and the 8th Special Olympics in Xi’an, capital of northwest China’s Shaanxi Province.
Chen junior managed to claim five medals, including a gold.
“It was really exciting,” Chen Xunhu said. “My son looked so happy on the podium!”
1. All of the following adjectives can describe Chen Xunhu EXCEPT _________.| A．responsible | B．persistent |
| C．selfish | D．caring |
| A．with practice | B．in trouble |
| C．without success | D．of no significance |
| A．Chen Xingrong used to plan all of his exercises he wanted to do. |
| B．Chen Xingrong exceled in some competitions for people with disabilities. |
| C．Chen Xingrong developed the ability to control his breath under water by himself. |
| D．Chen Xingrong could not uter a word until the age of two, and was diagnosed with autism. |
| A．Swimming toward Victory | B．Facing the Music |
| C．Admiting to Weakness | D．Taking More Care of Your Children |
【推荐2】I was an only child in the baby boom of the 1960s. I was upset about this and always admired my friend——Jessica. One day I went on holiday with her family. I remember she slammed her bedroom door after a tearful quarrel over a packet of biscuits that had been unfairly distributed. I was supposed to see the misery of her life as the second child of four, but all I could see was drama and excitement.
Nowadays, many single children have more than one child themselves, while those people who have one child most came from big families. It indicates a basic truth about human nature: we often want what we don’t have.
Of course, I have three children. To my annoyance, my children do a lot of grappling and nosily compete for attention. However, in the immediate aftermath (创伤) of inter-sibling (兄弟姐妹间的) slanging (漫骂) match, I often hear my daughter singing in her bedroom . Something has finished as soon as it gets started.
As for the disturbing situation, I turned to my workmate, who is married to an only, she told me, “My husband had no idea of the kids’ arguments. I had five siblings, and everything was up for grabs when I was growing up. So when my son and daughter fight, it’s water off a duck’s back.”
Parents who are only children think we have the power to fix the fight among children, and then find it unimaginably frustrating when we can’t. We often make the situation worse by over-responding to arguments. The psychologist Linda Blair, author of Birth Order, argues that it can be “very tricky” in families where both parents are only children, and that it can sometimes lead to “very anxious households”. If one parent has experience of sibling behavior, he or she can offer advice when irritation arises.
1. What did the writer think of Jessica’s family?| A．It was more enjoy able to have siblings. | B．It was unlucky to be a child of a large family. |
| C．Jessica’s family was so rich s to go on holiday. | D．It was unfair when Jessica’s parents handed out biscuits. |
| A．By ignoring. | B．By seeking help. | C．By giving advice. | D．By fixing the fight. |
| A．People with siblings tend to have lots of kids. |
| B．In the 1960s people preferred to have only one child. |
| C．The writer’s daughter is always angry after the arguments. |
| D．The family relations may be tense if both parents are only children. |
| A．only children | B．children with siblings |
| C．married women | D．parents with several kids |
【推荐3】When my father was getting ready for work,our house was ruled by knocks and words.He used to come downstairs to breakfast.
The morning paper lay beside his plate.He always read the “Deaths” first,and then he knocked once on the table.One of my sisters brought his bread,already buttered for him.Usually he said nothing,but once I heard him say,“I love you very much,Edith.I would love more if you buttered my bread on both sides.”He read the paper all through breakfast.
Two knocks on the table meant “I am ready for my tea.”If a single knock followed that meant,“More bread,please.”
After breakfast he said,“Boots.”The paper was spread(展开) for him over the back of an armchair.Yesterday’s paper was put on the chair for his feet,and his boots were brought to him,freshly cleaned.He read standing at the same time putting on his boots.With one boot finished he said,“Bus.”At that point one of the girls went outside to the garden gate and waited there.Her job was to stop a bus when it came.It came early sometimes and it had to wait for my father. “Overcoat,hat.”One of my sisters had already brushed his overcoat.Now she held it open for him.Another girl came with his hat,nicely brushed.“Handkerchief,pipe(烟斗).”They were brought and put,with his tobacco(烟草),into his pocket.He looked out of the window and said either “Walking stick” or “Umbrella”.It was handed to him.Ready now,he was still reading the paper.He didn’t put it down until he heard the shout “Bus coming!” Then he kissed my mother and went out.The girls breathed freely.
How lucky a man was to have a wife and five daughters at home!
1. When the father made the first knock,he meant .| A．he had begun to read the morning newspaper | B．he was made to feel sad by the “Deaths” news |
| C．he would start to read the other parts of thepaper | D．his breakfast should begin |
| A．A kind of bread. | B．One of the writer’s sisters. |
| C．The writer. | D．The writer’s mother. |
| A．their father never helped them |
| B．their father always gave different instructions at the same time |
| C．each of them had to start and finish her job just on time |
| D．they were not clever or quick enough to do their jobs |
| A．Reading newspapers. | B．Having bread buttered on both sides. |
| C．Giving instructions. | D．Being clean and tidy. |
| A．the father was so lazy that he hardly did anything |
| B．the father was the “centre” of the family |
| C．every girl in the family was afraid to do wrong because they didn’t know clearly enough what to do |
| D．the father was hated by all his daughters |
