1 . One of the cores of emotional intelligence is self-regulation, an important skill in the workplace. Like any skill, mastery of emotional self-control requires intentionality and practice.
Pause to Mentally Distance
When you notice your typical physiological experiences associated with strong negative emotion, what should you do? Mentally step out of your immediate experience. Asking yourself any question, or imagining what you might look like to others right now, will do the trick. At that point, although still physiologically keyed up, you will be able to ask yourself, “What is the best course of action right now?” or “What advice would I give someone else who is in my shoes?”
Take Control of Your Self-Talk
We’re frequently unaware of how much self-chatter is going on in the background of our minds. Such self-talk might not be in fully articulated (铰接式的) words or phrases, but instead little flashes of thought. Becoming aware of your self-talk can be difficult. Why is this an important skill to develop?
Seek Support from Partners
Ask others you trust to help you recognize when your emotions seem to be getting the best of you.
Cultivate (培养) Curiosity
Our brains are wired to draw conclusions and form judgments at lightning speed, and those are frequently the cause of our negative emotions.
A.They are comfortable with all emotions |
B.Those judgments are not necessarily accurate |
C.Doing so provides you with choices as to how to act |
D.Explain your developmental goals and sincerely ask for help |
E.Stay focused on coming up with an answer and following through on it |
F.Because it is those background beliefs that fuel our emotional responses |
G.Here are four ways you can develop greater emotional self-management |
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It was Monday morning, and the writing class had just begin. Everyone was silent, wait to see who would be called upon to read his and her paragraph aloud. Some of us were confident and eager take part in the class activity, others were nervous and anxious. I had done myself homework but I was shy. I was afraid that to speak in front of a larger group of people. At that moment, I remembered that my father once said, "The classroom is a place for learning and that include learning from textbooks, and mistake as well." Immediate, I raised my hand.
3 . The Spotlight Effect
Have you ever felt as if the entire world was watching while you made a mistake? Well, here’s some good news: it’s likely that no one even noticed.
The spotlight effect exists because we all get used to seeing things through our own eyes. Every person is the main character in his or her story, and the events of our lives seem to have great importance.
The spotlight effect is a very common part of the human experience. However, in some cases, it can lead to extreme social anxiety and nervousness around other people. Everyone suffers some degree of social anxiety. We all care about what others think, and we all want to be liked. It’s normal to wonder about what effect we have on other people.
Learning about the spotlight effect is important because it can help us reduce our anxiety. Next time you feel like everyone is staring at you, remind yourself that it’s just your mind playing tricks on you.
A.However, this can be a problem when the anxiety is too much to handle. |
B.That’s why fewer people notice the embarrassing circumstances they encounter. |
C.Another good exercise is to make an effort to notice the people around you, rather than focusing on yourself. |
D.The spotlight effect is a trick of the mind that makes us believe that people notice us more often than they really do. |
E.What you can do at this moment is to ignore them. |
F.We are so busy examining ourselves that we actually observe very little about everyone around us. |
G.It can also appear when we score a big goal, ask someone on a date, or do a good deed. |
Jack was a bright and curious child, always eager to learn new things and explore the mysterious world about science. However, he often found himself in disagreement with his mother. His mother was always busy with her work and she didn’t have enough time to learn about his interests and passions.
One day, Jack came home from school feeling particularly excited. He just found a sci-fi book about an adventure on the moon. Upon arriving at home, he couldn’t tear himself away from the book. He read and read until it was dark. Having finished reading it, he couldn’t wait to share it with his mother, only to be told that he should focus on more practical subjects like math and history, which would help him get into a good college and have a successful career.
Jack couldn’t understand why his mother didn’t see the value in what he was doing. He felt that she was holding him back and not allowing him to pursue his true interests. “Why can’t you see how important this is to me?” Jack asked his mother angrily. “I’m never going to be happy if I have to spend my life doing things that I show no interest in just because they are practical or make you proud.”
The once peaceful home was filled with tension and anger. His mother’s voice grew louder as she shouted, “You can’t just do whatever you want! You should be responsible for your future!” Jack, fueled by his own frustration, shot back, “I am tired of you always telling me what to do! I am not a child anymore! You only care about your own feeling! You never thought about my feeling!” They were so caught up in their own anger and hurt that they failed to see how their words and actions were affecting each other.
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Jack rushed into his bedroom and locked the door heavily.
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When Jack heard his mother’s words, regretful tears rolled down his face.
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5 . Think about the last time you felt a negative emotion — like stress, anger, or frustration.
The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time, or you feel angry or frustrated, stop. Whatever you’re doing, stop and sit for one minute.
If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer, that is OK.
This exercise seems simple — almost too simple.
Remember to take the time you need to really immerse yourself in the emotion. Then, when you feel you’ve felt it enough, release it — really let go of it. You will be surprised at how quickly you can move on from a negative situation and get to what you really want to do!
A.Yet it is very effective. |
B.This will remind you of the steps to the process. |
C.Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion. |
D.What was going through your mind as you were undergoing that negativity? |
E.While you’re sitting there, completely immerse yourself in the negative emotion. |
F.Are you willing to keep holding on to this negative emotion as you go through the rest of the day? |
G.You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs. |
6 . We’ve all heard the expression, “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” Since happiness is a side effect of laughter, shift your focus from the secret of happiness to experiences that bring you laughter. Instead of asking yourself “How can I be happy?”, ask “What makes me laugh?” This approach creates space for more actionable practices.
•Look at the situation through a child’s eyes.
When times get stressful, take a moment to think about how you saw things as a kid. The more we can experience that childlike wonder and enthusiasm, the less we sweat even the big stuff.
•Add laughter to your mornings.
•Learn to laugh at yourself.
Relieving yourself of pressure is the joy of learning to laugh at yourself. It also allows you to show more of your true self.
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There is no better way to practice laughing at yourself than going outside your comfort zone. From learning German to taking up rollerblading and Zumba, plenty of new activities will fuel your laughter. With so many ways to laugh more, why wait for your bit of happiness?
A.Hang out with friends. |
B.Take up something new. |
C.Permit yourself to be silly. |
D.Morning routines set the tone for the entire day. |
E.Read on four ways to get your daily amount of laughter. |
F.Money doesn’t buy happiness but it can help us find happiness. |
G.Instead, try any of the ideas above, and start feeling better now. |
7 . Many years ago, Dad worked as a farmhand (农场工人). At that time, he had a horse. Every Saturday he
At the age of 31, Dad married my mother who was a schoolteacher. In the following spring I came
My mother had
Dad said, without my mother, we wouldn't be what we are today; at least, he would remain a farmhand.
A.rode | B.walked | C.ran | D.drove |
A.conversations | B.games | C.relationships | D.activities |
A.cold | B.crowded | C.quiet | D.dirty |
A.horse | B.entertainment | C.life | D.beer |
A.often | B.ever | C.never | D.sometimes |
A.laughing | B.singing | C.sleeping | D.crying |
A.unimportant | B.busy | C.unsatisfied | D.tired |
A.living | B.change | C.decision | D.house |
A.dreamed | B.heard | C.thought | D.spoken |
A.honesty | B.money | C.fame | D.energy |
A.cared | B.knew | C.forgot | D.hoped |
A.training | B.ruling | C.helping | D.protecting |
A.warned | B.wanted | C.allowed | D.persuaded |
A.start | B.find | C.design | D.sell |
A.farther | B.higher | C.easier | D.closer |
A.showed | B.kept | C.lost | D.achieved |
A.company | B.school | C.farm | D.café |
A.suffering | B.sharing | C.enjoying | D.following |
A.though | B.if | C.and | D.since |
A.So | B.However | C.Or | D.Because |
8 . How to calm your teen
A major source of teen stress is school exams, and test anxiety is not uncommon. When you recognize your teen is under stress, how can you help your teen stay calm before an exam?
Be involved. Parents need to be involved in their teen’s study.
Help him get organized.
Provide a calm setting. Help your teen set up a quiet place to study and protect his privacy.
Give him a nutritious diet. It’s important for your teen to eat a healthy, balanced diet during exam time to focus and do his best.
Show a positive attitude.
A.Encourage your teen to relax. |
B.The best thing is simply to listen. |
C.They will only make the situation worse. |
D.Parents’ attitude will influence their teen’s emotions. |
E.Exam stress can make some teens have no desire for food. |
F.Your teen may also make negative comments about himself. |
G.Help your teen think about what he has to study and plan accordingly. |
9 . It is important to have positive feelings in our daily life.
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A.as for | B.because of | C.instead of | D.according to |
A.prevent | B.predict | C.prepare | D.prefer |
A.hope | B.safety | C.freedom | D.risk |
A.painful | B.proud | C.cheerful | D.clever |
A.unaware | B.uncomfortable | C.unknown | D.unbelievable |
A.respected | B.followed | C.interviewed | D.captured |
A.features | B.feelings | C.figures | D.factors |
A.alone | B.secret | C.lonely | D.brave |
A.expected | B.reminded | C.agreed | D.showed |
A.However | B.Therefore | C.But | D.So |
A.longer | B.fewer | C.shorter | D.more |
A.why | B.which | C.whether | D.when |
A.afford | B.fight | C.cost | D.support |
A.care about | B.look about | C.talk about | D.hear about |
10 . It's no surprise that stress and anxiety are often viewed in a negative light, but Lisa Damour, a private-practice psychologist, suggests they're not always bad for us. She claims that a little bit of both can help build mental resilience and these experiences can sometimes benefit us.
Damour explained how stress often occurs when people operate at the edge of their abilities - when they push themselves or are forced by situations to stretch beyond their familiar limits. This can result from both bad and good events, she said. For instance, being fired is stressful, but so is bringing a baby home for the first time. She described how stress is unavoidable in daily life and that medium levels of stress “can have an inoculating function”, which can lead to “higher than average resilience” when we face new difficulties.
“Anxiety gets an unnecessarily bad comment,” she said, “Anxiety is an alarm system inside the body, likely handed down by evolution, which informs us of threats from both outside, such as a driver turning aside suddenly, and inside, such as when we've wasted too much time and it's time to get started on a task.”
Viewing anxiety as sometimes helpful or even protective allows people to make good use of it, suggests Damour. For example, she often tells the teenagers she works with in her practice to pay attention if they start to feel anxious at a party because their nerves may be warning them of a problem.
1. When do people feel stressed according to Damour?A.They have much work to do. | B.They lose their favorite things. |
C.They deal with different situations. | D.They're engaged in doing unfamiliar things. |
A.Unexpected. | B.Unbearable. | C.Positive. | D.Determining. |
A.To explain the reason for being anxious. | B.To demonstrate the benefits of anxiety. |
C.To state the risk of being anxious. | D.To present the solution to anxiety. |
A.Stress and anxiety aren't always bad. | B.Stress and anxiety are part of our lives. |
C.We should focus on positive things in life. | D.We should deal with stress and anxiety carefully. |