1 . “In life, we're often torn between the person we want to be and the person we ought to be. Yet, while many hesitate to take the risks associated with becoming their ideal selves”, a new study notes that people unavoidably regret not pursuing their passion.
Inspired by research published in the 1990s, psychologist Thomas Gilovich along with his colleague Shai Davidai built upon his original study, which proved that regrets often evolve from what people haven't done. According to the new research, our most enduring regrets grow from not living up to our ideal selves, as opposed to not living according to our “ought selves” (the people we should have been based on our duties and responsibilities).
Researchers began by explaining the difference between regrets concerning the “ideal self” and the “ought self”, before asking participants to list, name, and categorize their regrets. Across the six different studies conducted, participants said they experienced regrets concerning their ideal selves more often. They also mentioned more ideal-self regrets than ought-self regrets when asked to list their regrets in life. When asked to name their single biggest regret in life, participants were also more likely to mention a regret about not fulfilling their ideal selves than their ought selves.
However, Gilovich and Davidai still recommend that people move on with caution, as the best way to live depends on how much weight you attach to your ought self vs. your ideal self. “If you place a premium on your ought self, you would be wise to minimize (your) regrets by thinking twice before moving forward (and seizing the moment). ” they suggest. “However, if one is an adventurous soul guided by her ideal self, she might indeed end up happier by seizing the day and not looking back. ”
Despite this research, however, knowing what you want and pursuing that passion are two different things. Mark Twain's words may give you the courage to go for your goals:
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines (帆脚索), sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
1. How did the researchers get their new findings?A.By analyzing their six previous studies. |
B.By asking people to explain what regret is. |
C.By looking into the content of people's regrets. |
D.By comparing people's regrettable and fulfilling experiences. |
A.They are equally important aspects in people's lives. |
B.It's very difficult for people to choose between them. |
C.The choice between them can affect people's lifestyles. |
D.People may choose one and change to the other in life. |
A.Value. | B.Know. |
C.Ignore. | D.Refuse. |
A.Never regret anything in life. |
B.Look back now and then in life. |
C.Be patient when going for our goals. |
D.Do what we want to without hesitation. |
2 . Taking charge of yourself involves putting to rest some common beliefs. At the top of the list is the notion that intelligence is measured by your ability to solve complex problems; to read, write and compute at certain levels; and to resolve abstract equations (方程式) quickly. This vision of intelligence asserts (断言) formal education and bookish excellence as the true measures of self-fulfillment. It encourages a kind of intellectual prejudice that has brought with it some discouraging results. We have come to believe that someone who is very good at some form of school discipline is ''intelligent''. Yet mental hospitals are filled with patients who have all of the professional certificates. A truer indicator of intelligence is an effective, happy life lived each day and each present moment.
If you are happy, if you live each moment for everything it's worth, then you are an intelligent person. Problem solving is a useful help to your happiness, but if you know that given your inability to solve a particular problem you can still choose happiness for yourself, or at a minimum refuse to choose unhappiness, then you are intelligent. You are intelligent because you have the ultimate weapon against the big N.B.D. — Nervous Break Down.
''Intelligent'' people do not have N.B.D.s because they are in charge of themselves. They know how to choose happiness over depression, because they know how to deal with the problems of their lives.
You can begin to think of yourself as truly intelligent on the basis of how you choose to feel in the face of trying circumstances. Everyone who is involved with other human beings in any social context has similar difficulties. Disagreements, conflicts and compromises are a part of what it means to be human. Similarly, money, growing old, sickness, deaths, natural disasters and accidents are all events which present problems to actually all human beings. But some people are able to make it, to avoid abandoning themselves to depression and unhappiness despite such occurrences, while others collapse or have N.B.D.s. Those who recognize problems as a human condition and don't measure happiness by an absence of problems are the most intelligent kind of humans we know; also, the most rare.
1. According to the author, the notion of intelligence measured in terms of one's ability to read, write and compute _____________.A.will help remove intellectual prejudice | B.is a widely held but wrong concept |
C.will contribute to one’s self-fulfillment | D.is the root of all mental suffering |
A.does not mean that one is highly intelligent |
B.may make one mentally sick and physically weak |
C.does not indicate one's ability to write professional documents |
D.may result in one's inability to solve complex real-life problems |
A.how to accept some common beliefs |
B.how to persuade others to compromise |
C.how to find the best way to achieve success in life |
D.how to avoid depression and make his life worthwhile |
A.Difficulties are part of everyone's life. |
B.Depression and unhappiness are unavoidable in life. |
C.Everybody should learn to avoid challenging circumstances. |
D.Good feelings can contribute to eventual academic excellence. |
3 . Communication with a Stranger
Last weekend I sat on the bus talking with excitement and so ready to spend time in New York City with one of my best friends from college. As I took the window seat and
Two hours passed and I was still absorbed in my own world.
We talked a lot about my dreams, my fears and my life. I
This elderly man made me
A few days later, he emailed me, saying, "I think you're
A.placed | B.wore | C.took | D.raised |
A.Then | B.Instead | C.Again | D.Also |
A.through | B.with | C.during | D.about |
A.introduction | B.explanation | C.conversation | D.competition |
A.affected | B.controlled | C.interrupted | D.created |
A.searched | B.shared | C.demanded | D.reviewed |
A.sorry | B.curious | C.anxious | D.afraid |
A.puzzled | B.bothered | C.amazed | D.disappointed |
A.push | B.invite | C.treat | D.admit |
A.choices | B.suggestions | C.decisions | D.efforts |
A.raising | B.dropping | C.turning | D.nodding |
A.regret | B.change | C.fear | D.desire |
A.prepare | B.develop | C.approve | D.question |
A.replaced | B.organized | C.discussed | D.predicted |
A.uncertainty | B.danger | C.responsibility | D.conflict |
A.identify | B.ignore | C.seize | D.accept |
A.suffered | B.increased | C.benefited | D.experienced |
A.leaving | B.heading | C.watching | D.caring |
A.encouragement | B.protection | C.admiration | D.description |
A.stable | B.normal | C.painful | D.serious |
A few years before, I took a sightseeing trip to Washington, D.C. Standing outside the Ronald Reagan Center, I heard a voice to say, “Can you help me?” When I turned around, I saw the elderly blind woman with her hand opening. In a natural reflex (反应), I reached into my pocket, pull out all of my loose change and placed them in her hand without even looking at her. I was annoyed at being bothered by the beggar. And the blind woman smiled and said, “I don’t want your money. I just need help to find the post office.” In an instant, I realized that I had done. That blind woman reminded me my blindness. So in this essay, I wanted to be grateful to the invaluable lesson she gave me.
5 . Two of the saddest words in the English language are “if only”. I live my life with the goal of never having to say those words, because they convey regret, lost opportunities, mistakes, and disappointment.
My father is famous in our family for saying, “Take the extra minute to do it right.” I always try to live by the “extra minute” rule. When my children were young and likely to cause accidents, I always thought about what I could do to avoid an “if only” moment, whether it was something minor like moving a cup full of hot coffee away from the edge of a counter, or something that required a little more work such as taping padding (衬垫) onto the sharp corners of a glass coffee table.
I don’t only avoid those “if only” moments when it comes to safety. It’s equally important to avoid “if only” in our personal relationships. We all know people who lost a loved one and regretted that they had foregone an opportunity to say “I love you” or “I forgive you.” When my father announced he was going to the eye doctor across from my office on Good Friday, I told him that it was a holiday for my company and I wouldn’t be here. But then I thought about the fact that he’s 84 years old and I realized that I shouldn’t give up an opportunity to see him. I called him and told him I had decided to go to work on my day off after all.
I know there will still be occasions when I have to say “if only” about something, but my life is definitely better because of my policy of doing everything possible to avoid that eventuality. And even though it takes an extra minute to do something right, or it occasionally takes an hour or two in my busy schedule to make a personal connection, I know that I’m doing the right thing. I’m buying myself peace of mind and that’s the best kind of insurance for my emotional well-being.
1. Which of the following is an example of the “extra minute” rule?A.Start the car the moment everyone is seated. |
B.Leave the room for a minute with the iron working. |
C.Wait for an extra minute so that the steak tastes better. |
D.Move an object out of the way before it trips someone. |
A.keep her appointment with the eye doctor |
B.meet her father who was already an old man |
C.join in the holiday celebration of the company |
D.finish her work before the deadline approached |
A.abandoned | B.lacked |
C.avoided | D.taken |
A.To Keep Emotional Well-being | B.To Prevent “If Only” Moments |
C.To Follow the Most Useful Rule | D.To Achieve the Peace of Mind |
6 . My six-year-old daughter Amara and I ducked into a shop to hide from the rain. I hadn’t
“Buy me?”
“Oh, Sweetie, they are tap shoes. You aren’t learning tap dance.”
“Buy me?” she
“Well, let’s try them on.” She
“Buy me?” with
“Okay, take them off and put them in the bag.”
The sun had come back out as we stepped out from our little side
I helped her wear them. Our next stop was the grocery store and these shoes were made to make noise,
When Amara was a baby, we were told she would never walk or talk. It has taken us a lot of hard work and patience
A.offered | B.promised | C.intended | D.required |
A.if | B.since | C.although | D.unless |
A.wandered | B.showed | C.turned | D.wondered |
A.pain | B.scratch | C.push | D.pull |
A.looked at | B.let go of | C.caught hold of | D.got rid of |
A.begged | B.ordered | C.complained | D.angered |
A.nodded her head | B.shook her hand | C.jumped gladly | D.sat down |
A.touch | B.condition | C.fit | D.product |
A.Slowly | B.Hardly | C.Partly | D.Merely |
A.choice | B.connection | C.determination | D.study |
A.skeptical | B.aggressive | C.concerned | D.hopeful |
A.way | B.path | C.trip | D.view |
A.tap shoes | B.doll | C.candy | D.rain boots |
A.generally | B.especially | C.naturally | D.constantly |
A.humorous | B.embarrassing | C.ridiculous | D.interesting |
A.disappointing | B.favorable | C.disapproving | D.caring |
A.pride | B.regret | C.shame | D.sorrow |
A.noise | B.music | C.satisfaction | D.disturbance |
A.so | B.though | C.unless | D.but |
A.hear | B.play | C.walk | D.talk |
7 . Mom was right! If you say "thank you" for even the smallest gift or slightest show of kindness, you'll feel as happy as Larry.
Gratitude, says Robert A. Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, is an important element of happiness. In his recent book, Thanks!Emmons uses the first major study on gratitude to prove mom's point. In acknowledging and developing this much-ignored expression of thankfulness, he explains how people have benefited-even improved their health.
Expressing gratitude shouldn't be a reaction; it should be a state of mind. To feel grateful when life is a breeze and you have more than you need is easy. To feel grateful in time of crisis-anger, hatred and bitterness-is easier. Also, too many people are aware of life's blessings only after these are lost.
It's crisis and chaos-danger, disease, disability and death-that bring many individuals to realize just how dependent they are on others. Yet it's the way each of us begins life and ends it. It's too bad that so many people waste those decades in between labouring under the illusion that they are self-sufficient, says Emmons.
The abundance of voices expressing gratitude from his studies of individuals with chronic health problems is many. But Emmons goes beyond his groundbreaking" science to make his case for gratitude by including the inspirational writings of philosophers, novelists and saints, as well as the beliefs of various religions and their respective scriptures. Taken together, these observations are summed up quite nicely by famous humanist Albert Schweitzer, who said the secret of life is "giving thanks for everything".
To enable and embrace gratitude, Emmons encourages the readers of Thanks! to keep a gratitude diary. He even provides easy-to-follow directions on how to practice and develop gratitude.
I'm not a reader or advocate of self-help books, but I am thankful for the reference I found in a newspaper article to the research Emmons was conducting on gratitude involving organ donors and recipients. The chance discovery led me to this book.
Mom implied that kindness seems to find its way back to the giver because life really is all about giving, receiving and repaying. So I'll pay attention to her Professional advice and say: Thank you, Professor Emmons.
1. What is the text mainly discussed?A.There are many ways of being thankful. | B.Mom is great for her being thankful. |
C.Gratitude is important to happiness. | D.Being thankful will keep you fit forever. |
A.Professor Emmons supports mom's study on psychology. |
B.mom is as great a psychologist as Professor Emmons. |
C.Professor Emmons is a famous psychologist. |
D.mom is right about her viewpoint on gratitude. |
A.It is enough to thank others orally. |
B.Whether you are thankful is always up to you. |
C.Remember to be thankful anytime and anywhere. |
D.It is easier to be thankful for yourself than for others. |
A.helpful | B.unreasonable |
C.puzzling | D.one-sided |
As a youngster on a farm, I used to dream of what seemed impossible.
Few farmers' daughters continued their
There was no
I believe that dreams can come true.
A.career | B.education | C.job | D.research |
A.readily | B.never | C.unwillingly | D.immediately |
A.company | B.fare | C.driver | D.transport |
A.housework | B.sale | C.repairs | D.farming |
A.available | B.valid | C.vital | D.expensive |
A.exercise | B.walk | C.stretch | D.ride |
A.endangered | B.postponed | C.prohibited | D.promoted |
A.sourly | B.narrowly | C.equally | D.desperately |
A.average | B.normal | C.former | D.usual |
A.bravery | B.excellence | C.service | D.running |
A.technical | B.online | C.financial | D.generous |
A.improve | B.train | C.quit | D.seek |
A.received | B.saved | C.collected | D.sent |
A.response | B.case | C.conclusion | D.track |
A.praised | B.hired | C.rejected | D.treated |
A.relaxing | B.studying | C.working | D.touring |
A.continued | B.paused | C.changed | D.noticed |
A.direction | B.goal | C.appointment | D.step |
A.Few | B.We | C.Mine | D.All |
A.came off | B.came back | C.paid forward | D.paid off |
For years, I had suffered from depression. I never seemed to be happy with my life, especially when I
Then, the week before Thanksgiving, every chair in the church has a paper bag underneath. All were expected to pick up one
Included in the event was a sheet with
One day not long afterward , I found myself sinking into my
A.introduced | B.compared | C.exposed | D.applied |
A.achievement | B.nature | C.potential | D.patience |
A.randomly | B.regularly | C.alternatively | D.considerately |
A.returned | B.issued | C.allocated | D.donated |
A.circulated | B.addressed | C.filled | D.supplied |
A.credits | B.blanks | C.inspirations | D.suggestions |
A.celebration | B.amusement | C.communication | D.exercise |
A.Accidentally | B.Furthermore | C.Otherwise | D.Necessarily |
A.remind | B.challenge | C.support | D.observe |
A.sympathetic | B.creative | C.competitive | D.contradictory |
A.situation | B.chance | C.promotion | D.awareness |
A.disappointment | B.curiosity | C.advantage | D.astonishment |
A.distributing | B.clarifying | C.sorting | D.decorating |
A.rich | B.needy | C.special | D.worried |
A.guilty | B.familiar | C.temporary | D.apparent |
A.list | B.activity | C.motivation | D.report |
A.pretended | B.claimed | C.imagined | D.realized |
A.ruled out | B.dropped out | C.brought out | D.worked out |
A.surprised | B.touched | C.promised | D.concerned |
A.Choosing | B.Offering | C.Demanding | D.Declining |
10 . I believe we can create our own happiness. I believe the real magic in the world is done by humans.
I was sitting in my
Now, this was a long line. As I
But then I saw their
You know
Now, maybe that's easy for me to say. I feel lucky to have a house with a roof and a wife who
The first year I worked there, we got robbed. I thought I was going to die. But everything
I believe this is
A.store | B.office | C.house | D.car |
A.bright | B.cold | C.warm | D.dark |
A.walked | B.returned | C.complained | D.waited |
A.warm | B.calm | C.close | D.active |
A.innocent | B.helpless | C.poor | D.strange |
A.coats | B.faces | C.bags | D.backs |
A.joke | B.speech | C.offer | D.idea |
A.regret | B.promise | C.wish | D.hope |
A.when | B.how | C.why | D.what |
A.worried | B.found | C.admitted | D.reckoned |
A.power | B.promise | C.demand | D.chance |
A.excitement | B.satisfaction | C.happiness | D.trouble |
A.makes up for | B.puts up with | C.breaks up with | D.keeps up with |
A.way | B.case | C.point | D.sense |
A.at first | B.at least | C.in fact | D.in brief |
A.funny | B.fine | C.precious | D.easy |
A.come | B.care | C.bring | D.dream |
A.proved | B.helped | C.turned | D.got |
A.think | B.look | C.regard | D.act |
A.anything | B.something | C.everything | D.nothing |