1 . How to Live in Peace with Yourself and Others
Life is all about being balanced and at peace.
Seek to love, not to control other people
If you want to have inner peace with others, you must understand that you are there to help and to express your love toward others.
Practice tolerance
Sometimes, it is better to just get away from a tense situation. When two or more people with different opinions try to gain control of the situation, conflicts can occur. Never let this happen by walking away. Take a break or go and get something to eat. Then you will discover new solutions and start to understand what other people are trying to say, because you are at peace with yourself.
Live in the moment
A.Walk away |
B.Have a break |
C.It’s easy for people to get tolerant |
D.If you can’t find inner peace within yourself and with others |
E.Tolerance is all you need to create peace between you and others |
F.When you try to gain too much control in your relationship with others |
G.One of the most effective ways is to learn to live at the present moment |
2 . Dealing with judgment from other people can be tough.
Try not to take any judgmental words personally. Remember that a judgmental person’s words are a reflection of their own beliefs-and not yours. Remind yourself of all the things you do well, and keep a list of your best traits and achievements to boost your confidence.
Be sympathetic.
Ask for clarification.
Judgmental people may not know they’re being rude or unreasonable. Ask this person to explain what they said, and find out their motivation for saying it.
Calm down and respond rationally(理性地).
Being judged is never fun, and it’s natural for you to feel hurt and emotional right after it happens.
A.So you should stay collected. |
B.Separate yourself from the judgment |
C.Judgmental people are just unavoidable. |
D.Try understanding the source of this person’s judgment. |
E.Think of each situation where you feel judged as a learning experience. |
F.Explain why their words have bothered you and make sure this doesn’t happen again. |
G.Some people have good intentions but end up sounding judgmental when they’re trying to help. |
3 . A young woman was walking in Santa Ana, California, when she came upon an elderly street vendor (小贩) selling tamales (玉米粉蒸肉). Seeing how tired he looked in his wheelchair, she decided to give him a few bucks and a sandwich—and she also gave him a sympathetic ear to listen to his story.
When Kenia Barragan first saw Jose Villa Ochoa, she thought of her own parents. “I felt for him,” she told KTTV News, “My parents are both older, and I would hate to see my dad out selling tamales for somebody and barely making ends meet.”
Known as “Don Joel”, he explained that although he wanted a job, no company would hire him because of his age. In order to keep himself out of debt, he started to sell tamales cooked by a local woman. At the end of each hard day, she would give him a cut of the earnings. This allowed him to buy food, but was not enough for him to afford his medical treatment or a phone.
The 28-year-old woman was happy to listen to Don Joel’s story, but she wanted to do more. She made an appeal to her followers on Instagram for some assistance. Within a week, friends and strangers flooded her with more than $84 000 in donations.
In addition to the money raised for Don Joel’s retirement, Kenia purchased him a new wheelchair and a shiny new pair of shoes. Even though he’s 94, he says he feels like he’s 40 now, because the kindness has made him feel so alive. He describes the generosity as “life-changing”.
Kenia feels exactly the same way. She says she’s always looking for a purpose that helps people and that she’s been living in line with those values in her current job, working with people who have disabilities to get them transportation. Her goal in life is to establish a homeless shelter.
1. Why did Don Joel sell tamales?A.To buy a new wheelchair. | B.To struggle for a living. |
C.To pay off his medical debt. | D.To help a local woman. |
A.By establishing a homeless shelter. | B.By giving him money and sandwiches. |
C.By collecting donations on Instagram. | D.By listening to his story attentively. |
A.She disliked her father because of his job. |
B.She is a wealthy woman ready to help others. |
C.She helped Don Joel when she was 40 years old. |
D.She is a kind woman aiming to do more charity. |
A.Rose given, fragrant in hand. | B.The best hearts are always the bravest. |
C.No pain, no gain. | D.Sharp tools make good work. |
4 . Years of exposure to Americans has, at last, convinced me of something about their food culture. I now think they’re correct in one of life’s great dilemmas: when eating at a restaurant, it is really fine to politely send your food back if it is not what you ordered, or covered in cheese when you asked for no cheese, etc.
Of course, the idea makes me feel anxious; the British fear of making a scene is planted in my soul. But what persuaded me, in the end, was realizing how self-centered that fear actually is. Are you really such a big deal that your no-cheese request will embarrass your fellow diners, ruin the waiter's day, and send waves of shock through the kitchen? Face it: you're not. Instead, you're in the situation of what might be termed “egocentric reticence (以自我为中心的沉默).”
Egocentric reticence raised its head again the other day in a study about gratitude, which found that people underestimate how much delight a thank-you note can bring. The psychologists Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley had people send grateful messages to someone who'd made a difference to their lives. Again and again, they found, senders assumed their words would lead to less happiness and more awkwardness than they really did, and that recipients would judge their letter-writing competence cruelly, too. Even in the seemingly selfless context of expressing gratitude, senders couldn’t help giving too much weight to their own perspective. So if you stop yourself from sending someone a thank-you note because you're worried you'll make them feel awkward or annoyed, you are letting egocentrism prevent an action that would have made both of you happier.
The most acute form of egocentric reticence, surely, is extreme shyness. “Shyness is just egotism out of its depth,” famous actress Penelope Keith once told an interviewer. The quote was later regarded as a line the writer Sadie Stein credits with curing her own shyness. “For some reason, the clear cruelty of that quote was what I needed, ” Stein wrote. “OK, I thought... No one is looking at you.”
1. Before contacting Americans, the author thought sending restaurant food back was ________.A.certainly a customer's right |
B.fine to do just in some cultures |
C.acceptable but not worthy sometimes |
D.embarrassing and would cause trouble |
A.hesitate to do something due to self-centered reasons |
B.keep sending waves of shock to others |
C.be ignorant of other people's feelings |
D.do something extremely embarrassing |
A.People may regard sending grateful messages unimportant. |
B.It's common for Americans to send a thank-you letter. |
C.It's important to thank others after being helped. |
D.People often take a thank-you note for granted. |
A.We sometimes need shyness to behave well. |
B.We should pay no attention to other people's thoughts. |
C.We can overcome our shyness by removing our egotism. |
D.We should avoid being exposed to other people's focus. |
5 . It’s 13:30 and 28-year-old Marten Pella 's smart phone starts pinging, a signal that it’s time for us to stop working around his living room table and instead start our workout routine together. A cartoon character wearing bright red shorts on video begins instructing us to do star-jumps and sit-ups around his apartment.
Pella, a research assistant at Stockholm University, is part of the Hoffice movement, which invites workers-freelancers(自由职业者)or full-time employees who can do their jobs remotely—to work at each other’s homes to increase productivity and enjoy an active social life.
Those attending Hoffice events advertised on Facebook are typically asked to work silently in 45-minute blocks, before taking short breaks together to exercise, or simply chatting over a coffee. In addition, each participant shares daily objectives with the rest of the group upon arrival, and is invited to report back on whether or not they have achieved them at the end of the day.
“Often when I am alone, I can work focused for a couple of hours but then I’m easily distracted(分心).The help of others makes me so much more disciplined.” says Pella, who attends Hoffice events as both a guest and a host. Lunches mean networking and connecting with new contacts. “People are coming from really different areas and have different professions so there can be really interesting discussions,” he says.
The Hoffice movement has grown quickly since it was founded in 2014 by Swedish psychologist Christofer Franzen, now 37. He had been giving lectures on the benefits of collective(集体的)intelligence, but realised he was spending most of his own time working alone at his kitchen table. “I wanted to test more structured home co-working with friends in similar situations,” he says.
Franzen says that holding events in houses and apartments creates a unique atmosphere, because there’s a sense of community and desire to contribute. He’s looking for ways to expand the social value of Hoffice, by matching up members with relevant skills to share and even encouraging jobseekers to join its gatherings.
1. Where is Pella when his smart phone starts pinging?A.In his own home. | B.In his office. |
C.In another person’s home. | D.At Stockholm University. |
A.Watch an exercise video. | B.Work silently for 45 minutes. |
C.Tell each other their daily plans. | D.Report what they have achieved. |
A.They usually work alone. |
B.They often give lectures. |
C.They study collective intelligence. |
D.They have to work at a kitchen table. |
A.Sharing Comfortable Workplaces | B.A New Way to Make New Friends |
C.Benefits of Collective Intelligence | D.Working from Others’ Homes |
6 . Some people never master the art of being patient, and at times, all of us struggle with being patient. Sometimes a certain situation or a certain person just pushes our buttons, making it much more difficult for us to remain patient.
A.You must keep in mind that patience comes with experience and wisdom. |
B.Once you lose patience, things tend to go wrong. |
C.Learning to be patient takes time and it takes patience to learn to be patient. |
D.Patience is acquired as you acquire wisdom, and wisdom is the child of experience. |
E.However, with experience, you’ll learn how to present your opinions clearly. |
F.The more patience you have, the better you’ll cope in various situations.. |
G.For example, you start your first job in a big office, and you don’t really know how to work with lots of people. |
7 . Why Accepting Change Is Important to Your Professional Success?
Whether you like it or not, change is a necessary part of today’s business climate. Those employees who accept change will succeed, while those fearing change may head for the unemployment line.
What’s wrong with change?
Employers want their workers to change when necessary.
Employees often view change differently from their supervisors. This is why communication is so vital in many cases. Lack of communication will cause problems in personal relationships. Unfortunately, fear prevents them from expressing their ideas and opinions.
The positive side of change.
Embrace upcoming changes.
Many people are content to live their present safe lives and want no change.
A.Communication is the key. |
B.Think about what you really want. |
C.Remember to work hard at your work. |
D.Communication helps you make more friends. |
E.Although some employees fear change, change is normal. |
F.If you describe your current job as boring, then change it. |
G.Knowing that, then, why are so many people resistant to it? |
8 . How many times do you check your Facebook page in a day to see whether your latest post has got another “like” or “thumbs up”?
Although you might be embarrassed to admit how many times you do this, don’t worry —-- psychological findings have shown it’s completely normal. In fact, the pleasure we derive from receiving a “like” is equal to that of eating chocolate or winning money, and we can’t help wanting more. According to the findings, which observed 32 teens aged between 13 and 18, the feedback circuit in the teens’ brains is particularly sensitive, and the “social” and “visual” parts of their brains were active when they received “likes” on the social network. The research also showed that though the thumbs up might come from complete strangers, the good they derive from them worked all the same.
So, does it mean we should try our best to win as many thumbs up as possible? Not necessarily so if we know the reasons behind our desire for attention. In “why do people long for attention” by M. Farouk Radwan, he explained several cases in which people naturally longed for attention. Radwan said people who were an only child, who were used to being the center of attention in their house, may try to copy these conditions. Feeling “overlooked and unappreciated” might also lead you to long for attention. Other times, the state of being jealous or wanting to cover your mistakes may also contribute to such longings.
In fact, too much desire for attention can create anxiety, and in turn ruin your happiness even when you get it. So what can we do about it? The answer is quite simple. “If people could adopt goals not focused on their own self-esteem but on something larger than their self, such as what they can create or contribute to others, they would be less sensitive to some of the negative effects of pursuing self-esteem,” wrote psychology professor Jennifer Crocker.
So perhaps the answer to our addiction to “likes” is simply to focus on something larger than ourselves —-- a hard, but a worthy one.
1. Which of the following can replace the underlined word “derive” in Paragraph 2?A.deliver | B.give |
C.prevent | D.get |
A.The brain becomes more nervous. |
B.Some parts of the brain are active. |
C.The brain becomes less sensitive. |
D.The brain becomes cleverer. |
A.the only child. |
B.The old who lives happily with children. |
C.The young who feels anxious. |
D.Teens who want to discover their mistakes. |
A.Doing an interesting matter. |
B.Working harder than ever before. |
C.Having a bigger goal than their self. |
D.Not checking your Facebook page in a day. |
9 . You already know that making a good first impression can go a long way. But forget all the advice you’ve received about dressing to impress or putting on a cheesy smile. It turns out that the true secret to building a lasting connection reaches much deeper than what you wear.
According to Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School professor who has researched first impressions for more than 15 years, everyone asks two questions when they meeting someone new: Can I trust this person? And can I respect this person?
Both questions help you measure a person’s warmth and competence, respectively. But, Cuddy says, you should put gaining your peers’ trust over winning their respect—even in a workplace setting. “If someone you’re trying to influence doesn’t trust you, you’re not going to get very far; in fact, you might even draw suspection because you come across as a controller,” Cuddy wrote in her book Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. “A warm, trustworthy person who is also strongly admired, but only after you’ve established trust does your strength become a gift rather than a threat.”
But that’s not the only way you can start off on the right foot with a stranger. Your physical appearance matters, too. A 2017 study by psychologist Leslie Zebrowitz of Brandeis University found that people use four clues to judge your face: babyfacedness, familiarity, fitness, and emotional resemblance. While you can’t control all of these factors, you can improve your “emotional resemblance” by using body language that builds trust naturally.
The next time you meet someone new, focus on gaining their trust—not winning them over with a firm handshake.
1. What’s the main misunderstanding described in the first paragraph?A.dressing to impress. |
B.putting on a cheesy smile. |
C.making a good first impression. |
D.building a lasting connection. |
A.gaining your peers’ trust. |
B.winning your peers’ respect. |
C.trying to influence your peers. |
D.drawing your peers’ suspection as a controller. |
A.You can control your “fitness”. |
B.You can control your “familiarity”. |
C.You can improve your “babyfacedness”. |
D.You can improve your “emotional resemblance”. |
A.Judge one by a firmly-made handshake |
B.Judge one by a naturally-built trust |
C.Judge one by the first impression |
D.Judge one by the physical appearance |
10 .
For example, someone might say, “I just won a hundred dollars on the lottery (彩票). It was great. I took that dollar ticket back to the store and turned it in for one hundred dollars!”
He didn’t say anything that was false, but he left out important information on purpose. That’s called a half-truth.
Some politicians often use this trick. Let’s say that during Governor Smith’s last term, her state lost one million jobs and gained three million jobs.
Advertisers will sometimes use half-truths.
This kind of deception happens too of often. It’s a sad fact of life: Lies are lies, and sometimes the truth can lie as well.
A.This guy’s a winner, right? |
B.Then she seeks another term. |
C.Do you know of anyone who uses the truth to deceive? |
D.Half-truths are not technically lies, but they are just dishonest. |
E.Half truths are aimed at economic and social science academics |
F.It’s against the law to make false statements so they try to mislead you with truth. |
G.When it comes to advertisements, we must all use our intelligence and not be a slave to them! |