1 . Why Do We Find It Hard to Say “No”?
As we all know, saying “no” to others is not easy at all. But sometimes we have to learn to say “no”.
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●Afraid of being rude. I was brought up under the idea that saying “no”, especially to people who are older, is rude. This thinking is common in Asian culture, where face saving is important.
●Wanting to be agreeable. You don’t want to alienate (疏远) yourself from the group because you’re not in agreement. So you agree to others’ requests.
●Fear of conflict.
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A.Wanting to help others. |
B.Fear of losing chances. |
C.Wanting to keep a good relationship. |
D.I slowly realized I needed to learn to say “no”. |
E.You are afraid the person might be angry if you refuse him/her. |
F.It means not making others look bad or lose face. |
G.To learn to say “no”, we have to first understand what’s stopping us from it. |
A.The boss treats Johnson in an unfair manner. |
B.Johnson is not willing to work far from home. |
C.Johnson is not intelligent enough to be promoted. |
D.The boss puts cooperation first while giving promotions. |
3 . Teens who have good, supportive relationships with their teachers enjoy better health as adults, according to research published by an American research center.
“This research suggests that improving students’ relationships with teachers could have positive and long-lasting effects beyond just academic success,” said Jinho Kim, a professor at Korea University and author of the study. “It could also bring about health implications in the long run.” Previous research has suggested that teens’ social relationships might be linked to health outcomes in adulthood. However, it is not clear whether the link between teen relationships and lifetime health is causal (因果的) — it could be that other factors, such as different family backgrounds, might contribute to both relationship problems in adolescence and to poor health in adulthood. Also, most research has focused on teens’ relationships with their peers (同龄人), rather than on their relationships with teachers.
To explore those questions further, Kim analyzed data on nearly 20, 000 participants from the Add Health study, a national study in the U. S. that followed participants from seventh grade into early adulthood. The participant pool included more than 3, 400 pairs of siblings (兄弟姐妹). As teens, participants answered questions, like “How often have you had trouble getting along with other students and your teachers?” As adults, participants were asked about their physical and mental health.
Kim found that participants who had reported better relationships with both their peers and teachers in middle and high school also reported better physical and mental health in their mid-20s. However, when he controlled for family background by looking at pairs of siblings together, only the link between good teacher relationships and adult health remained significant.
The results suggest teacher relationships are more important than previously realized and that schools should invest in training teachers on how to build warm and supportive relationships with their students. “This is not something that most teachers receive much training in,” Kim said, “but it should be.”
1. What does the underlined word “implications” in Paragraph 2 refer to?A.Recipes. | B.Habits. | C.Risks. | D.Benefits. |
A.Poor health in adolescence. | B.Teens’ relationships with their peers. |
C.Limitations of the previous research. | D.Factors affecting health in adulthood. |
A.Positive student-teacher relationship helps students’ adult health. |
B.Good family background promises long-term adult health. |
C.Healthy peer relationships leads to students’ academic success. |
D.Good adult health depends on teens’ good teachers. |
A.A medical report. | B.A health magazine. | C.A term paper. | D.A family survey. |
4 . Individuals with social intelligence can sense how other people feel, know clearly what to say in social situations and appear confident even in a larger crowd. You might think of these folks as having “people skills”, but what they truly possess is social intelligence.
People who are socially intelligent display core traits (核心、特质) that help them communicate and connect with others.
Some people may seem to develop social intelligence without really trying.
A.They are usually effective listeners. |
B.Social intelligence isn’t easy to master. |
C.But others have to work to develop it. |
D.They don’t directly reject another person’s ideas. |
E.And remember that you can mess up sometimes. |
F.Develop your social intelligence by working on your communication skills. |
G.Lack of arguing is another important trait that people with social intelligence exhibit. |
A.Boss and employee. | B.Shop assistant and customer. |
C.Host and guest. | D.Teacher and student. |
Is Small Talk Necessary?
What’s the first thing you do when you enter a crowded room? You probably look around for a familiar face. When you can’t find one, you have two choices: you can stand alone, or you can walk up and speak to someone that you don’t know.
Starting a conversation with a stranger, though, is often uncomfortable and can be a little scary. Yet as you go through life, you’re sure to encounter strangers in many different situations, when a need to connect with others will hopefully outweigh your fears. In order to prepare, it helps to learn the art of small talk.
Small talk is the beginning stage of a casual conversation, which usually takes place between strangers or casual acquaintances. With small talk, two or more people search for common interests and points of connection. If one is discovered, the conversation usually begins to flow more naturally, often resulting in deeper discussion.
Mastering a few techniques will allow you to enter a room full of strangers with confidence.
When you walk up to a group, notice anyone trying to make eye contact with you because this is often a sign that the person is interested in talking. Begin by introducing yourself, and then, you should begin with one of three topics: talk about yourself, the other person or something you can both observe, like the weather.
Another way to begin a conversation is with a compliment. Your praise of someone’s scarf might lead to a discussion about favorite places to shop.
Radio host Terry Gross, who has interviewed thousands of people over the years, says one opening request works for her every time: “Tell me about yourself.” This approach gets the ball rolling because people enjoy talking about themselves.
Though small talk takes practice, it’s worth the effort and it’s the stimulus that can lead to deeper conversations.
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7 . The ability to communicate information accurately, clearly and as intended, is a vital life skill and something that should not be overlooked.
Be open. There needs to be a give-and-take when it comes to sharing information with one another. To deepen intimacy (亲近). people need to open up to you. but you also have to he willing to let others in and share details about your experiences, emotions, and opinions.
Listen actively. It involves being engaged with what your conversation partner is talking about.
Use appropriate body language and eye contact.
A.Maintain boundaries. |
B.Communicate politely. |
C.These nonverbal signals can convey the true feelings. |
D.It's impossible to work on your communication skills. |
E.You're not just being quiet and letting them say their piece. |
F.You get to know each other through the interactive sharing. |
G.Most people can benefit from improving their communication skills. |
8 . How would you feel if you were sharing a personal story and noticed that your friend wasn't really listening? You probably wouldn’t be too excited. Without active listening, people often feel unheard and unacknowledged.
Listen without making judgements. Most people tend to judge others during conversations.
Ask questions. Asking questions is one of the best ways to show you're interested. If someone is telling you about their ski trip, don’t respond with “That’s nice.”
Think before responding. After the speaker has finished talking, a good listener may take some time before responding. Simply take a few seconds to think or say, “Give me a second to think about that.” Doing so either makes the speaker first feel you’re listening to what they’re saying.
A.Use positive body language. |
B.Pay attention to the speaker’s judgement |
C.That would show a lack of interest and disrespect. |
D.Give the speaker a chance to correct your understanding. |
E.But judging isn’t helpful when you’re having a conversation. |
F.Then they will know you want to be thoughtful in your response. |
G.That’s why it’s important for everyone to learn how to be a better listener. |
9 . Is being different around different people like putting on a mask? When I am around different people I act differently. I switch my attitude around so it is similar to that of my friends.
The honest truth is that every person has many different parts of his or her personality that make up the whole person. For example, there are times when I am excited and noisy. At other times I like to be more quiet and reserved. During neither of these times am I being dishonest; just another aspect of my personality is coming out. And sometimes I behave differently depending on the social situation that I am in. For example, I am a pretty casual guy, so I really do prefer wearing jeans and T-shirts whenever possible.
This is not wearing a mask. It is just being respectful and appropriate to the situation. And there are even groups of people that bring out certain parts of my personality. For example, when I am hanging out with ray male friends, I can be loud and wild. But when I am at home with my wife and kids after a long day at work, I am much more reserved and quiet.
By contrast, what if I were with a group of people who support abortion?
A.Is this considered putting on a mask? |
B.Only you can decide if you are wearing a mask. |
C.I don't feel that I must act in a certain way to be accepted. |
D.However, at a funeral or wedding, I always wear a suit and tie. |
E.So I do not believe I am wearing a mask in any of these situations. |
F.If they asked me my opinion, it would totally be a mask for me to agree with them. |
G.So if we are not being the same person in the presence of any group, we are wearing a mask. |
A. uncomfortable;B. critically;C. balance;D. nonsense;E. temptation F. responding;G. effectively;H. practice;I. demands;J. reasoning;K. delivering |
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