Nowadays, we live in a strict and judgmental world where people are quick to point out the faults of others yet seem to ignore their own ones. Some misguided souls believe they have a moral duty to help you be a better person telling you what a failure you really are.
If you're the one placing criticism upon others, please stop. Make a conscious decision, rather than focus on the negative aspect of a person's performance or attitudes, and you can offer helpful suggestions. If I'm painting a living room and making a mess in doing so, I'd have my husband say to me, “This is a tough job. Can I offer a suggestion that might make it easier for you?” rather than have him point out what a careless painter I am.
If you're on the receiving end of criticism, the “OK” response is a perfect solution. When someone comments negatively on a task you're doing, the natural response is to defend and attack.
However, this approach is rarely effective as it puts both parties on the defensive. It diffuses (扩散) a potentially explosive situation. It's important to keep calm and listen without feeling, to be an objective observer. There is much that one can learn from a negative review. You can ask yourself: Could I have done better, and been more thoughtful? Did I give 100% of myself to the task at hand? Is there any truth in what the other person says? If so, how can I improve?
In any event, one should remember the saying, “Stop judging and you will not be judged. Stop condemning and you will not be condemned.” One can learn to be “OK” with criticism and not allow it to negatively impact his or her relationship with the other party. Let it go and that will be “OK”.
1. According to the author, today's people .A.ignore the mistakes of others |
B.focus on how to handle mistakes |
C.like to point out the mistakes of others |
D.have a moral duty to point out others' faults |
A.pointing out a fault needs a skill |
B.It's hard to avoid making mistakes |
C.we ought to accept others' criticism |
D.praise is more important than criticism |
A.Paying no attention to it. |
B.Learning something from it. |
C.Making excuses for your mistakes. |
D.Defending and attacking sometimes. |
A.To comfort yourself. |
B.To find out your potentials. |
C.To make yourself become better. |
D.To persuade yourself to admit your mistakes. |
A.Is criticism really necessary? |
B.What can you learn from criticism? |
C.What's the best way to voice criticism? |
D.How to criticize and reply to criticism? |
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【推荐1】Having friends may well keep you healthier and help you deal with stress better. Some studies show that people with close friends have a greater ability to fight disease than people who are alone.
Make friendship a priority. Find the time to be with friends even if it means letting the lawn go unmoved or the dishes unwashed for a while. When you can’t get together, use the phone to keep in touch.
Open up to close friends. Maintaining a deep friendship requires a level of “heartfelt” intimacy. Don’t be afraid to express your inner fears and disappointments. Listen to your friends when they have problems, but offer advice only when it’s wanted. Help raise friends’ self-esteem when they are shaken by a job loss, or other such events.
Have different friends for different activities, such as going to the movies, singing in a choir, and joining in a bowling league.
Don’t wait for a friend to ask a favor. When a friend has the flu, offer to go to the store or drive his or her children to their after-school activities.
Never take a friendship for granted. Like a good marriage, friendship needs care and patience. Become a joiner. Find a group that matches your interests.
Talk to strangers. Conversations started in museums, laundry rooms, or bookstores can lead to firm friendship.
Enroll in an adult-education course. A classroom is an ideal place to meet others with similar interests.
1. People with close friends have a________ ability to fight disease than people who are alone.A.less | B.greater | C.poorer | D.little |
A.at any moment | B.only when they are happy |
C.only when they want it | D.only when you are glad |
A.Make friendship a priority. | B.Open up to close friends. |
C.Never take a friendship for granted. | D.All the above. |
A.You should have different friends for the same activities. |
B.You should wait for a friend to ask a favor. |
C.You should avoid talking with strangers in museums, laundry rooms, or bookstores. |
D.You should never take a friendship for granted. |
【推荐2】Nowadays we all have hundreds of Facebook “friends”.
True friends stick with you through both good and bad times. In hard times, a true friend will never leave you in the shadow alone.
They allow you to have other friendships without getting jealous and possessive. Real friends feel confident enough in your friendship. They give you the freedom to pursue other friendships and activities in your life.
They forgive you when you make a mistake. Don’t expect perfection from true friends, and they won’t expect it from you. They know that you will slip up (出现疏漏) from time to time.
A.They treat their friends as treasure. |
B.So you don’t have to give them a long apology. |
C.That’s because they know your friendship is rock solid. |
D.True friends will congratulate you when you reach a new goal. |
E.Instead, they offered to give you a helping hand whenever they can. |
F.That’s because they probably know things about you that many others don’t. |
G.We can instantly connect with them online, but does that make them true friends? |
【推荐3】Sixteen years ago, a boy gave me an important gift. It was a smile.
It was the early autumn of my first year at a middle school, and my old school was far away. As a result, no one knew who I was. I was very lonely and afraid to speak to anyone. Every time I heard the other students talking and laughing, I felt my heart broken. I couldn’t talk with anyone about my problems.
Then one day, when my classmates were talking happily with their friends, I was sitting at my desk unhappily. At that moment a boy came into the classroom. I didn’t know who he was. He passed by me and then turned back. He looked at me with a smile. Suddenly, I felt something bright and friendly. It made me feel happy and warm. That smile changed my life. I started to talk with other students and make friends. Day by day, I became closer to everyone in my class. The boy with the lucky smile has become my best friend now.
One day I asked him why he smiled, but he couldn’t remember doing so! It doesn’t matter because all the dark days have gone. I believe that the world is what you think it is. If you think it is cloudy, you might always be alone. So smile at the world and it will smile back.
1. When did the writer get the gift?A.At the age of 16. |
B.After making friends with the boy. |
C.In the first year at a middle school. |
D.After becoming closer to everyone in the class. |
A.Excited. | B.Lonely. | C.Happy. | D.Worried. |
A.A book. | B.A smile. | C.A letter. | D.A card. |
A.He started to make friends. |
B.He became the best student in class. |
C.He started to fight with his classmates. |
D.He was more interested in his lessons. |
【推荐1】In six months, I will be 50 but I already know what I’ll regret. This is the answer. “if anything had been different, I wouldn’t be who I am today.” Being like what I am today is so great that I’d never want to change it. But…
KIDS. I wish I had spent more time with my kids.
MONEY. I wish for 15 years or so I wasn’t so focused on money.
CREATIVITY. I began my career in my 20s doing things that were really creative that I loved. I was trying to write a novel. I was trying to do a TV show. I was always around people I loved so much. And I spent time with them because I loved them and not because I wanted anything else. I wish I had stuck with that. Now, in my 40s, I’m trying to catch up.
HUMILITY. When I first made some money, I became a bit too proud. I started investing in all of these horrible companies and having horrible friends.
DISAGREEMENT.
Anyway, if I had a time machine, would I go back in time? I’m not sure. It’s OK to feel regretful some times.
A.It's never too late, of course. |
B.I couldn't say “no" to people. |
C.Sure, I spend quality time with them now. |
D.It's the double-horrible that finally kills you. |
E.I used to disagree with others' unreasonable requests. |
F.I wish I could have done something differently in the past. |
G.I would have held my daughter's hand when she came home from school. |
【推荐2】Imagine you are talking with a friend. Your friend tells you that they have a big test or job interview coming up soon.
Social situations give us many chances to wish other people well. Such wishes can come in the form of sentence fragments(片段)or complete sentences .A fragment is a kind of incomplete sentence—it is missing part of the sentence.In general,fragments that wish other people well are missing the subject(主语) .
Consider,for example,the phrase“good luck”,which is used to say that you hope someone will succeed. But the phrase suggests something more.
In any case,English speakers often just use the phrase“good luck” .So,a person might say, “Good luck with the job interview!”In terms of complete sentences,English speakers often use words such as“wish”or“hope” .For example,a person might say,“I hope the job interview goes well tomorrow.”Or“
English speakers also use complete sentences to express trust in another person. Such expressions are another way to show kindness or warmth to other people.For example,a person might say,“I know you are worried about the test tomorrow.
A.Good luck with your language learning. |
B.This is a good time to wish them well. |
C.But I also know you are prepared for the challenge. |
D.It suggests something like this:“I wish you good luck.” |
E.Today we’ve explored a few ways to wish others well. |
F.I wish you the best of luck with your job interview tomorrow. |
G.Ask yourself if they are using fragments or complete sentences. |
【推荐3】Active listening is a structured form of listening and responding that focuses the attention on the speaker.The listener should listen to the speaker fully,and then repeat in the listener's own words what he or she thinks the speaker has said.
Active listening has several benefits.
A.The listener does not have to agree with the speaker. |
B.For example,it forces people to listen attentively to others. |
C.What's more,it tends to open people up,to get them to say more. |
D.Often when people talk to each other,they don't listen attentively. |
E.Often,the listener needs to interpret the speaker's words in terms of feelings |
F.They realize that they should focus on how they can respond to win the argument |
G.This makes people defensive,and they will either make verbal attacks,or say nothing more. |
【推荐1】It is a common question to ask yourself: What do you want to be when you grow up?
In the past it has generally been accepted that a person will follow one career path, but an emerging group of people have changed this idea. By pursuing jobs across several walks, this group has come to be known as “slashers (斜杠青年)”.
There are many reasons why this has become popular, particularly among those under the age of 30. In modern competitive society, having multiple income streams (多种收入来源) is one of the best ways to create financial security.
Zhao Sichen is one follower of the slasher movement. The 34-year-old is an English teacher at Tsinghua University High School. Outside the classroom, Zhao also works as project manager in charge of education programs at the Internet tech company NetEase.
In addition to providing a sense of job security, becoming a slasher reduces boredom and prevents becoming burned out on (不再热衷) focusing on a single path.
According to the Guardian, “Entrepreneurs (创业者) are a typical example of a group that expects to spread their careers across multiple areas.” Erin Albert is a typical slasher in the UK. Apart from having written books, Albert is an assistant professor, an entrepreneur and a law student. Albert often asks his students to think about, “why they can’t both take an immediate job offer they are not sure about as well as work toward their ‘dream’ job”.
Technology has also promoted this choice. Online tools and platforms have allowed people to pursue different interests and career paths as they have promoted the ability to work remotely. Never has it been easier for those who have interests in a variety of careers to pursue them at the same time. It seems that right now the sky is the limit for those who are considering what they want to do in the future.
1. What do we know about slashers?A.They are mostly 30 years old. | B.They follow one career path. |
C.They change jobs frequently. | D.They tend to work several jobs. |
A.It gives people more free time to relax. |
B.It helps people gain financial security. |
C.It gets people to pursue their dream. |
D.It makes people feel less bored in a single job. |
A.Technology allows people to work remotely. |
B.Doing more than one job might be encouraged. |
C.Most people will work several jobs at the same time. |
D.It has become more common for people to pursue multiple jobs. |
A.Pursuing Your Dreams. | B.Slashers in China. |
C.Slashing through Jobs. | D.Choosing Multiple Jobs. |
【推荐2】As a student at a medical school, Sam thinks poetry is a big part of his life, thanks to his new teacher, Rafael Campo, who believes poetry can benefit every doctor’s education and work. Rafael is a physician, professor and a highly respected poet.
“Poetry is in every encounter with my patients. If we do anything when we’ re with our patients, we’re really immersed in their stories, really hearing their voices. And, certainly, that’s what a poem does, ” he said.
Rafael worries that something important has been lost in medicine and medical education today: humanity, which he finds in poetry. To end that, he leads a weekly reading and writing workshop for medical students and residents. He thinks medical training focuses too much on distancing the doctor from his or her patients, and poems can help close that gap.
Third-year resident Andrea Schwartz was one of the workshop regulars. She said, “I think there’s no other profession other than medicine that produces as many writers as it does. And I think that is because there’s just so much power in doctors and patients interacting when patients are at their saddest moments. ” Not everyone believes that’s what doctors should do, though.
Rafael said, “I was afraid of how people might judge me, actually. In the medical profession, as many people know, we must always put the emergency first. But, you know, that kind of treatment, if it’s happening in the hospital, very regrettably, sadly, results in a bad outcome. The family is sitting by the bedside. The patient hasn’t survived the cancer. Don’t wve still have a role as healers there?”
In a poem titled “Health”, Rafael writes of the wish to live forever in a world made painless by our incurable joy. He says he will continue teaching students, helping patients and writing poems, his own brand of medicine.
1. What does the underlined word “immersed” in paragraph 2 mean?A.Committed. | B.Forced. | C.Persuaded. | D.Absorbed. |
A.It has nothing to do with doctors. |
B.It is mostly produced by doctors. |
C.It contributes to medical work. |
D.It keeps doctors away from patients. |
A.Capable and responsible. |
B.Gifted but overconfident. |
C.Honest and modest. |
D.Cold but respected. |
【推荐3】Scientists say only enlarging the world’s nature reserve to help protect plants and animals may be useless. The main reason is that levels of human activity are rising in and around the nature reserves. In fact, recognizing spaces as protected areas is not reducing human activity there.
The researchers found that a lack of money to pay for land conservation(保护)is affecting conservation efforts. And it is a lack of communication between people who live in protected natural areas and outsiders. About 17 percent of the world is within protected areas, including the national parks, nature reserves and wilderness areas. Protected areas are important for supporting environments with many different kinds of plants and animals.
The researchers again found increasing human activity in most protected areas in every country. However, they said that human activity appeared to be more of a problem in nations with fewer roads and lower life standards on the Human Development Index(指数). The index uses information about life length, education and earnings to grade countries on human development.
Across the northern Australia, protected areas often proved effective at slowing human activity when compared with unprotected areas. But in South America, Southeast Asia and African countries, pressure from human activity inside protected areas was higher.
Experts say governments need to provide fund support to help protected areas. Simply recognizing a place as a protected area can’t be the beginning and the end of a conservation effort. Working with local people to take efforts is also important. If they’re not partners in the protected areas, then wildlife conservation is much more difficult.
1. What are protected areas mainly affected by according to the text?A.Human activity. | B.Climate change. |
C.Population growth. | D.Environmental pollution. |
A.Record more roads in the world. |
B.Improve education in all countries. |
C.Grade countries on human development. |
D.Lead more people to make more money. |
A.People May Cause Harm to Plants and Animals |
B.Nature Reserves May Not Protect Wildlife Safely |
C.Nature Reserves in the World Should Be Increased |
D.Local People Should Focus on the Natural Environment |
【推荐1】“Do not tell anyone”. We often hear these words when someone tells us a secret. But keeping a secret is hard. We’re often tempted to “spill the beans”, even if we regret it later.
According to the professor, Asim Shah, keeping a secret may well “become a burden”. This is because people often have an “eager and anxious urge to share it with someone”. An earlier study, led by Anita, a scientist at the University of Notre Dame, US, suggested that keeping a secret could cause stress. People entrusted with secrets can suffer from depression, anxiety, and body aches, reported the Daily Mail.
Secrets are so often getting out. Why do people share them at all? Shah explained that people often feel that it will help them keep a person as a friend. Another reason people share secrets is guilt over keeping it from someone close to them. A sense of distrust can develop when people who are close do not share it with each other. “Keeping or sharing secrets often puts people in a position of either gaining or losing the trust of someone, ”according to Shah.
He added that talkative people could let secrets slip out. But this doesn’t mean that it is a good idea only to share secrets with quiet people. A quiet person may be someone who keeps everything inside. To tell such a person a secret may cause them stress, and make them talk about the secret.
Shah said that to judge whether to tell someone a secret, you’d better put yourself in their position. Think about how you would feel to be told that you mustn’t give the information away. Shah also recommended that if you accidentally give up someone’s secret you should come clean about it. Let the person know that their secret isn’t so secret any more.
1. What does the underlined phrase “spill the beans” mean?A.Keep silent. | B.Tell the truth. | C.Let out a secret. | D.Eat our words. |
A.2. | B.3. | C.4. | D.5. |
A.Quiet people are more likely to keep the secrets to themselves. |
B.Sharing secrets helps establish friendship or get over the sense of guilt. |
C.A person asked to keep a secret will suffer from psychological problems only. |
D.Putting yourself in others’ shoes helps realize the difficulty of keeping secrets. |
【推荐2】Letters to the Editor
Nurses’ strikeSir, I have worked in the public sector for more than 30 years and know that the idea that nurses will be “driven out” of the health service by the 1 per cent pay offer is poppycock(胡说) (news, Mar 8). What attracts and keeps people working in these areas is public service and, as the Queen said in her message, a “selfless devotion to duty”.
Tim Kerin
London E7
Doorstep heroesSir, I can understand why so many people now like to have their milk delivered (“Pint-sized heroes are back on doorstep”, Mar 8) but don’t know why it has to be at such antisocial hours. I have often been woken up by the loud noise of Milk & More delivering to one of my neighbours in the early hours, and one day last week it was even at 1:50 a.m. ,which made me sleepless the following hours.
Helen Hinde
Ruislip, Middx
Wine of the weakSir, Jane MacQuitty excelled(突出) herself in her wine column this week (“Red wine for lightweights: the best 12% and under bottles”, Weekend, Mar 6). The eight bottles on offer were flavoured as follows: forest-fruited, meaty, mocha, beetrooty, tobacco leaf, lemony and samphire. The star flavours(调味) in a Reisling from Chile were fat and lime pickle(酸菜味). Of the eight bottles of wine only one was described as “grapey”.
Tony Stafford
Harston, Cambs
Note: Letters to the Editor should be sent to letters@thetimes.co.uk or by post 1London Bridge Street, London SE1 9GF.
1. Why did the three people write these letters?A.To make themselves famous. | B.To make some complaints. |
C.To promote The Times. | D.To improve their writing skills. |
A.the health service | B.the nurses’ devotion to their work |
C.the practical idea | D.the medical workers’ strike |
A.Shocking. | B.Pleasant. | C.Unbearable. | D.Popular. |
A.Nine flavours of wine were offered. |
B.A wine from Chile had a pleasant taste. |
C.Jane MacQuitty won famous for the travelling column. |
D.More species of wine are expected to have flavours of wine. |
A.They can be sent through the Internet. |
B.They should be sent to the editors face to face. |
C.They can be mailed to the famous London Bridge. |
D.They can be mailed to the addresses of different editors. |
【推荐3】The booking notes of the play “the Age of Innocence ”:
Price: $10.
BOOKING
There are four easy ways to book seats for performance”
——in person
The Box Office is open Monday to Saturday, 10am-- 8 pm.
——by telephone
Ring 01324976 to reserve your tickets or to pay by credit card( Visa, MasterCard and Amex accepted) ——by post Simply complete the booking form and return it to Global Theatre Box Office.
——on line
Complete the on-line booking form at www.Satanfiedtheatre.com
DISCOUNTS:
Saver: $2 off any seat booked any time in advance for performances from Monday to Thursday. Savers are available for children up to 16 years old, over 60s and full-time students.
Supersaver : half price seats are available for people with disabilities and one companion. It is advisable to book in advance. There is a maximum of eight wheel chair spaces available and one wheelchair space will be held until an hour before the show.
Standby : best available seats are on sale for $ 6 from one hour before the performance for people suitable for Saver and Supersaver discounts and thirty minutes before for all other customers.
Group bookings: there is a ten percent discount for parties of twelve or more.
School : school parties of ten or more can book $6 standby tickets in advance and will get every tenth ticket free.
Please note: we are unable to exchange tickets or refund money unless a performance is cancelled due to unforeseen circumstances.
1. According to the passage, you can’t go to the Box Office to book tickets on _______.A.Wednesdays | B.Thursdays | C.Fridays | D.Sundays |
A.there are only 8 wheelchair spaces in the theatre. |
B.you can’t book a ticket at www. Satanfiedtheatre.com |
C.a group of ten persons can get 10 percent discount. |
D.you can refund money if the performance is on show. |
A.$120 | B.$150 | C.$180 | D.$200 |