Strangers Under the Same Roof
Does every dinner with your parents seem to turn into an argument? Have your once warm and open conversations become cold and guarded? Do you feel that you just cannot see eye to eye with them on anything? You are not alone. Heated arguments and cold silences are common between teenagers and their parents.
Teenagers' physical changes may result in such family tensions. You may feel anxious that you are developing at a different rate to your friends, shooting up in height or getting left far behind. You might worry about your changing voice, weight problems or spots(粉刺).When it all gets too much, your parents are often the first targets of your anger.
It can be a big headache to balance your developing mental needs too. You enter a strange middle ground --- no longer a small child but not quite an adult. You have both a new desire for independence and a continued need for your parents' love and support. You feel ready to be more responsible and make decisions on your own. Unfortunately, your parents do not always agree and that makes you feel unhappy. "Why can't they just let me go?" you may wonder. On the other hand, when you are struggling to control your feelings, you wish they could be more caring and patient---sometimes they forget that growing up is a rough ride. It can be difficult when your parents treat you like a child but expect you to act like an adult. All of this can lead to a breakdown in your relationship.
Although sometimes it may seem impossible to get along as a family, you can take action to improve the situation. The key to keeping the peace is regular and honest communication. When you disagree with your parents,take a minute to calm down and try to understand the situation from their point of view. Perhaps they have experienced something similar and do not want you to go through the same pain. After you have thought it through, explain your actions and feelings calmly, listen carefully,and address their concerns. Through this kind of healthy discussion, you will lean when to back down and when to ask your parents to relax their control.
Just remember that it is completely a common thing to struggle with the stress that parent child tensions create, and that you and your parents can work together to improve your relationship. The good news is that this stormy period will not last. Everything will turn out all right in the end, and the changes and challenges of your teenage years will prepare you for adulthood.
1. The first paragraph is mainly introducing ___________.A.the importance of close family relationships |
B.the quarrels between teenagers and their parents |
C.the wall of trust between parents and their teenagers |
D.the common conversations between parents and children |
A.Their parents' attitude towards them. |
B.Parents' strict control over their teenagers. |
C.Parents' expectation on their children's development. |
D.Teenagers' physical changes and their mental needs. |
A.Parents should let go of the control over their teenagers. |
B.Teenagers should always follow their parents' points of view. |
C.Parents and teenagers should always keep open conversations. |
D.Teenagers should not depend on their parents' love and support. |
A.normal | B.terrible |
C.avoidable | D.natural |
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【推荐1】Study Tips and Techniques
If you find yourself struggling with your studies, here are some useful study tips and techniques that can help you out.
Self-study and research
It is a common wrong idea that self-study can begin only after a particular topic is taught in class.
Yes, one of the important habits that you must acquire to improve the studying process is to involve yourself in group discussions about the subjects that you are studying. Group discussions can be a great way to broaden your viewpoint over important problems since group discussions give every group member a chance to voice their understanding. Group discussions are thus a healthy and a rather informal way of exchanging information and discussing issues.
Regular Planning
Balanced study
Yes, there exist many students who burn the midnight oil.
Build the right attitude
Normally students get too caught up with the grades, the percentage and the entire marking system. Always remember that if you study with the aim of acquiring knowledge, the grades will be brighter. However, if you just aim for the high grades, there is a chance you might get the grades, but you will miss out on acquiring overall knowledge on a particular subject.
A.Debates and Conversations. |
B.Organized and overall notes. |
C.You should start preparing for the class in advance. |
D.Having a clear project makes it easier for a person to reach the goal. |
E.Try and answer these questions yourself with the help of books or Internet. |
F.The studying process should leave enough room for entertainment and relaxation. |
G.Always study with the right point of view, and you will never have to worry about your grades. |
【推荐2】How to deal with stress
Stress is a negative reaction that the body has to various factors and events. It is often caused by poor health and then leads to various health problems. However, frequent emotional stresses may cause chronic (慢性的) stress.
Introduce sports into your life.
If you are often stressed and not exercising, this is the very sign to start exercising.
Not many people are able to completely give up a cup of coffee in the morning or a glass of wine after a long day at work, but everything should be taken properly. Get rid of the habit of drinking coffee several times a day and drinking a bit too much with friends at every given opportunity — the result will change your mental and physical state in countless ways.
Observe your sleep patterns.
If flowing a good seeping schedule makes it so easy to avoid stress, then why do so few people do it? It’s simple: people often think they are in good condition and if they manage to get through the day with minimal seep they will repeat this unhealthy behavior. Get into the habit of waking up and going to bed at almost the same time, leaving you feeling well-rested and balanced for the day ahead.
Don’t take up other people’s problems.
A.Drink less alcohol and coffee. |
B.Make time for yourself every day. |
C.Balance your personal life and work. |
D.Many people give up exercise at a young age. |
E.To encourage high-quality sleep is a more attractive choice. |
F.It is worth considering different methods of dealing with this condition. |
G.For many sport is a perfect way to overcome stress and gain strength for the whole day. |
【推荐3】Joyce LeMay is an associate professor of business at Bethel University. She said that college seniors are always amazed by how much work goes into finding a job. “Many college seniors have great resumes(简历) from internships and other part-or full-time jobs. But they are surprised by how long the interviewing process takes,” Many even become discouraged when they are rejected for a role, too. However, there are a lot of ways to increase your chances of finding the perfect role.
“Don’t just look for jobs online,” said LeMay. “Although it’s easy to find jobs on the internet, over 85 percent of job seekers are also looking at the same jobs. Hundreds of people can apply for each position and employers get inundated with responses,” she said. If you do find a job online, LeMay recommends first looking within your own contacts. “It’s good to find out if you have someone in your network that could help you get connected,” she said.
LeMay also advises writing a separate application for each role. “Your resume needs to stand out from your competition and the best way to do that is to customize(定制) it to the specific job you are applying for,” said LeMay. In the experience section, be sure to highlight accomplishments that match the job description. This will show a future employer that you’re qualified for the role.
A job search can take three to six months or longer, so don’t take rejection personally. You will not get a job offer from every interview, but don’t let that affect your confidence. It’s important to keep trying. “Many college graduates have their hopes set on one or two companies and when the job doesn’t come through they are devastated(难以承受),” said LeMay. “Keep your mind and your options open—there are many incredible career opportunities you haven’t heard of yet.”
1. What does Joyce LeMay mainly talk about?A.Job rejection is common and frustrating. |
B.College seniors prepare their resumes well. |
C.College seniors needn’t get frustrated in job rejection. |
D.Job interview s consume too much energy. |
A.charged. | B.flooded | C.trapped | D.equipped. |
A.The incredible jobs are always there. |
B.Hunting a job helps improve abilities. |
C.Each interview guarantees a job offer. |
D.A positive mind ensures a good interview, |
A.How can you avoid frustration in job hunt? |
B.Why should you make resumes stand out? |
C.Why should you keep your options open? |
D.How can you find your perfect jobs? |
【推荐1】Nowadays,being a parent has become harder than ever before.When it comes to useful parenting methods,advice from experts is different.One of the things researchers and educators agree on,however,is that if you want to raise successful children,you must"give them wings and let them fly."
Let go.It's natural to want to help your kids but raising independent kids requires you to fight the urge(欲望)to help at all times.
Be present.Raising independent kids is difficult.It requires you to find the right balance between being present and letting go.
A.Be their model. |
B.Focus on their strengths. |
C.Kids need to take chances. |
D.You must inspire independence. |
E.The competition among parents is very fierce. |
F.They are worried that their kids will get left behind. |
G.Your presence is necessary to help your kids become independent. |
【推荐2】I am Lucy, a 15-year-old girl from India and I think believing is a great power that can change anything in your life.
When I was 13, almost everyone just thought I was a kid so I did not have to worry about anything. But that was not true because I was bored with everything I was learning. Besides, my mother didn’t understand me.
When I was 14, things changed. My friend encouraged me to learn music and I just found out that I had a strong interest in music so I started spending much time on it. Soon I wanted to be a part of it. So I researched it and then I wanted to be a part of an academy(专科院校) that trains musicians. But the problem was that it was in a different country. Although my parents might not be on my side, I never gave up my dream.
During the next year, I practised my skills in dancing, singing and flexibility. I was in senior high school and had to be a boarder(寄宿生). My mother made me focus on my study. But I was busy preparing for auditions(试镜) of that academy and I was doing everything I could to prove it. To get what I wanted, I had that academy’s photos all over my room and that city’s main monument on my phone’s wallpaper.
After a year in 2022, I finally gave my best audition of that academy on the Internet and I got in! I was happy but sometimes I wondered whether my parents were going to agree to it or not, Fortunately, my parents agreed and I flew to that country to give the last phase of an interview to join that academy. I passed and later was sent there for training.
It was not surprising that I finally got the chance to live in the city of my dream and train in the academy of my dream, as I believed everything was going to work out as long as I held on to my dream.
1. What can we infer about the 13-year-old Lucy?A.She had fun every day. | B.Everyone supported her. |
C.She was unhappy with her life. | D.A dream started in her heart. |
A.Her teacher. | B.Her mother. | C.Her friend. | D.Her father. |
A.Her effort and determination. | B.Her family background. |
C.Her curiosity about new things | D.Her talent for performance. |
A.It was a stage to make her famous. | B.It was within her expectation after hard work. |
C.It made her love her mother more. | D.It was a new way to make friends. |
【推荐3】A new study found that 15-year-olds told more coherent (连贯的) stories about turning points in their lives if their mothers had been taught the new conversational techniques 14 years earlier. These adolescents also reported fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety compared to adolescents in the study whose mothers had talked with their toddlers (初学走路的孩子) as usual.
In the research,115 mothers of toddlers were assigned to either a control group without any training or an experimental group given training in elaborative reminiscine (详尽回忆) for a year. The training involves open and responsive conversations with young children about every day past events.
Project lead Professor Elaine Reese says adolescents whose mothers had participated in the earlier coaching sessions narrated difficult events from their lives — such as parental divorce or cyber-bullying with more insight into how the experience had shaped as people.
Professor Reese says, “Our findings suggest parents’ sharing memories early in children’s lives can have long-lasting benefits, both for the way adolescents process and talk about difficult life events and for their well-being. For example, it helps children develop more complete, specific, and accurate memories of their experiences, providing a richer store of memories to use when telling their own stories. It also teaches children how to have open discussions about past feelings when they’re no longer in the heat of the moment.”
Professor Reese hopes parents and policy makers realize the importance of early childhood as the ideal time for starting to have positive conversations with children, and to know that these conversations can make a difference as children grow older. “The ultimate goal is to encourage parents to have more sensitive and responsive conversations about events in their children’s lives.”
The researchers intend to continue the study, following up with participants in emerging adulthood to determine any ongoing effects of their theirs mother’s elaborative reminiscine.
1. According to the text, all mothers involved in the research ________.A.were trained how to talk with kids for a year |
B.had children who were about one year old |
C.took part in the follow-up research annually |
D.had experienced some difficult events in life |
A.Coaching sessions with parents benefit toddlers. |
B.Parents need to learn new conversational techniques. |
C.Parents’ elaborative reminiscing can fight depression. |
D.Sharing memories sets kids on path to better well-being. |
A.They went through more turning points in life. |
B.They had a richer store of memories to refer to. |
C.They could well remember what happened in life. |
D.They had better language skills to describe events. |
A.Uncertain. | B.Favorable. | C.Concerned. | D.Doubtful. |
【推荐1】It is difficult to imagine what life would be like without memory. The meanings of the thousands of everyday perceptions, the bases for the decisions we make, and the roots of our habits and skills are to be found in our past experiences, which are brought into the present by memory.
Memory can be defined as the capacity to keep information available for later use. It includes not only “remembering” things like arithmetic or historical facts, but also involves any change in the way an animal typically behaves. Memory is involved when a rat gives up eating grain because he has sniffed (发觉) something suspicious in the grain pile. Memory is also involved when a sixyearold child learns to swing a baseball bat.
Memory exists not only in humans and animals but also in some physical objects and machines. Computers, for example, contain devices for strong data for later use. It is interesting to compare the memory storage capacity of a computer with that of a human being. The instantaccess memory of a large computer may hold up to 100,000 “words” —ready for instant use. An average US teenager probably recognises the meaning of about 100,000 words of English. However, this is but a fraction of the total amount of information which the teenager has stored. Consider, for example, the number of faces and places that the teenager can recognise on sight.
The use of words is the basis of the advanced problemsolving intelligence of human beings. A large part of a person’s memory is in terms of words and combinations of words.
1. According to the passage, memory is considered to be ________.A.the basis for decision making and problem solving |
B.an ability to store experiences for future use |
C.an intelligence typically possessed by human beings |
D.the data mainly consisting of words and combinations of words |
A.the computer’s memory has a little capacity than a teenager’s |
B.the computer’s memory capacity is much smaller than an adult human being’s |
C.the computer’s memory capacity is much smaller even than a teenager’s |
D.both A and B |
A.only human beings have problemsolving intelligence |
B.a person’s memory is different from a computer’s in every respect |
C.animals are able to solve only very simple problems |
D.animals solve problems by instincts rather than intelligence |
A.What Would Life Be Like Without Memory? |
B.Memory Is Of Vital Importance to Life |
C.How Is A person's Memory Different from An Animal’s Or A Computer’s ? |
D.What Is Contained In Memory? |
【推荐2】There are only a few truly pleasant smells to wake up to in the morning. It might be the aroma of freshly baked bread, or the scent of your freshly brushed teeth—but for me, it’s the smell of freshly brewed coffee.
If you’re a big fan of coffee, you’ll understand that opening a new packet of coffee releases an amazing smell—fresh, roasted coffee beans. Delicious! And if you’ve got a nose for the stuff, you’ll be able to identify the beans’ origin - Colombia, Vietnam or Brazil—the world’s biggest coffee producer. Tim Hayward is a food writer and coffee shop owner.
I know from experience when I walk into a café for my double espresso or flat white, my mouth begins to water in anticipation.
However, this feeling sometimes turns to disappointment when I actually start drinking my hot beverage—the taste just doesn’t match the smell.. This is particularly the case when I order a coffee to go in a tall paper cup and sip the liquid through a hole in the lid.
Tim Hayward describes this process as “weird” and “baffling”. He says, “You walk into the coffee shop, you get the smell, but when you actually take the drink out, you are drinking it from something that is designed to deliver the hot liquid directly past your tongue, but prevent any smell coming up to your nose.”
A.He believes the smell is absolutely vital. |
B.Coffee beans’ origin makes all the difference. |
C.In a word, saving our planet is on the top of our agenda. |
D.Yes, it’s convenient, but is it really the right way to appreciate it? |
E.As well as eliminating the smell, takeaway coffee cups create a lot of waste. |
F.Although it’s the caffeine hit I’m after, it’s the smell that makes me feel good. |
G.Just a sniff of it makes me jump out of bed and rush to the kitchen for a coffee. |
【推荐3】We all have them in our lives — Ms. Late and Mr. Early. They live among us just to try our patience. They can’t seem to get out of their own way and arrive on time. It’s a problem, and they know it, but that’s how they roll.
I’ve ever been in the room with my bestie Tinkerbell and said, “It’s time to go.” She agreed. Then, she turned around and ordered a T-shirt she had seen online, checked her email, folded her laundry and searched for her purse while I was waiting by the door.
But as annoying as it is to have Ms. Late in your life, it’s equally painful to have Mr. Early.
My husband Hubby is in this category. He will time things to the minute. “The movie is at four. We have five stops to make before that, so estimating 15 to 20 minutes per stop, not counting traffic or unforeseen circumstances like a flat tire, we should leave after breakfast.”
Being too early or too late is a suffering, but it never seems to bother the person himself. It only affects the poor ones in their company who just do their best to show up when they’re supposed to.
I’d like to know how early in life this behaviour came into being. How does our internal clock leave one person unconcerned about time passing and the other constantly aware of it? Look at my kids. My son is very laid back, and he didn’t arrive until nine days after his due date. My daughler, a spitfire (烈性子), arrived before her Chrisimas Day due date, so maybe it’s nature from the very beginning.
The one thing that does happen is that this behaviour has become part of the charm of the person you love. You can’t imagine Mr. Early ever being late or Ms. Late ever showing up early. As long as they show up.
1. Why does the author mention Tinkerbell and Hubby?A.To make comparisons. | B.To provide examples. |
C.To explain a concept | D.To introduce the topic. |
A.She hates Mr Early and Ms. Late. |
B.She desires to change Mr. Early and Ms. Late. |
C.She shows understanding to Mr. Early and Ms. Late. |
D.She speaks highly of Hubby’s ability to time things accurately. |
A.To explain the importance of being on time. |
B.To teach people how to stick to the schedule. |
C.To share her views on Mr. Early and Ms. Late. |
D.To discuss the origin of Mr. Early and Ms. Late. |
【推荐1】In his 1939 essay Selfishness and Self-Lone, Erich Fromm, a world-famous psychologist declared that “modern culture teaches that to be selfish is evil and that to love others is virtuous.” In his essay, Fromm argues that such a teaching could make people feel guilty to show themselves healthy self-love, which he defines as the respect for one’s own happiness, growth, and freedom.
Fromm argues that selfishness, an interest only in oneself, is actually the opposite of self-love, which means the ability to give with pleasure and also to respect the needs of others. To Fromm, love is an attitude whether it is directed outward or inward. In contrast, Fromm argued that selfishness is a kind of greediness “which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy his own needs without ever reaching satisfaction”.
Inspired by Fromm’s essay, Abraham Maslow wrote an essay in which he distinguished “healthy selfishness” from unhealthy selfishness. Maslow argued that “we must not assume that selfish or unselfish behavior is either good or bad. It may be true that at certain times, selfish behavior is good, but at other times, it is bad. It is also the case concerning unselfish behavior.” Maslow goes on to state that what appears to be unselfish behavior may come out of selfish motivations. Maslow stressed that it is sometimes necessary to teach people at certain times to engage in a “healthfully selfish manner”—to have a healthy respect for one’s self coming out of inner riches.
A recent analysis of literature found that people who care about the welfare of others experience greater relationship well-being. However, such relationship well-being is maximized when people are not neglecting themselves in their care for others. Therefore, although the benefits of caring about others’ welfare have been well-documented, the role of healthy selfishness in contributing to relationship well-being may have been ignored.
1. To Fromm, modern culture teaches that people should .A.feel ashamed to be selfish |
B.be punished if they’re selfish |
C.be forbidden to talk about selfishness |
D.feel guilty if they don’t love themselves |
A.By listing figures. | B.By analyzing causes. |
C.By providing examples. | D.By comparing definitions. |
A.Selfish behavior is bad all the time. |
B.Unselfish behavior should be valued more. |
C.Rich people have a healthy respect for one’s self. |
D.Selfish motivations may lead to unselfish behavior. |
A.Our welfare is only based on our care for others. |
B.People should care about themselves more than others. |
C.People who care about others don’t care about themselves. |
D.Healthy selfishness can contribute to our relationship well-being. |
【推荐2】A good way to study may help your academic results and make the leaning process more enjoyable. For many people, studying with friends is a very effective way to improve your learning outcomes. To find out why, take a look at some of the benefits it offers.
Stop Procrastinating
Procrastinating can mean that you don’t leave yourself enough time to complete your work. Typically, this means you’ll hand in work at the last minute and not perform at your best. For students, procrastination can be a major barrier to success. When you have a study partner, you’ll keep each other accountable. With regular joint study sessions, for example, you’ll be less likely to put off doing your work and achieve better results because of it.
Understanding New Concepts
When you’ re learning now material, things can come to a standstill if you don’t understand the concepts or theory behind it. Fortunately, two heads are better than one. When you can share your ideas and understanding with other people, you can help them advance. Similarly, you can benefit from your friends’ knowledge and insight when you’re struggling to understand a new topic or subject.
Testing Each Other
Tests are an easy and effective way to determine what you know. Of course, it can be difficult to test yourself, and someone who doesn’t know the material might not ask the right questions, which is why a study partner is the perfect person with whom to share tests!
Staying Active
When you become hopeless, it can be hard to concentrate. Due to this, staying active is essential when it comes to getting the grades you’re capable of and reaching your potential. If you have a study partner, you’ll have his or her encouragement and help to rely on.
1. What docs “Procrastinating” in Paragraph 2 mean?A.Looking for things. | B.Making up stories. | C.Putting things off. | D.Giving up things. |
A.They spend most time with you. | B.They know what to ask you. |
C.They can encourage you to study. | D.They can learn from your mistakes. |
A.High school students. | B.The general public. |
C.Educational experts. | D.College teachers. |
【推荐3】Debates over the benefits of recycling started in 1996 when a writer called John Tierney said “recycling is garbage”. According to him, “Recycling programs offer mainly short-term benefits to a few related groups while diverting money from real social and environmental problems. It doubles energy consumption and pollution while costing taxpayers more money than dealing with old garbage. Recycling may be the most wasteful activity in modern America.”
Environmental groups were quick to respond to Tierney by issuing reports detailing the benefits of recycling and showing how municipal (市政的) recycling programs reduce pollution and the use of resources while decreasing the amount of garbage and the need for landfill space — all for less, not more, than the cost of regular garbage collection and disposal(处置).
But in 2002, New York City, an early municipal recycling pioneer, found that its much-praised recycling program was losing money, so it eliminated glass and plastic recycling. According to the Mayor, the benefits of recycling plastic and glass were outweighed by the price—-recycling cost twice as much as disposal. Meanwhile, low demand for the materials meant that much of it was ending up in landfills anyway. NYC closed its last landfill and brought in a more efficient system, with more famous service providers than it had used previously.
The lessons learned by New York are applicable everywhere. Some early recycling programs waste resources and lead to new trash. But the situation has improved as cities have gained experience. If managed correctly, recycling programs should cost cities and taxpayers less than garbage disposal for any given amount of material. Even though the benefits of recycling over disposal are various, individuals should keep in mind that it better serves the environment to reduce and reuse materials before recycling even becomes an option.
1. John Tierney thought that recycling ___________.A.is a waste of money |
B.leads to a lack of employers |
C.is beneficial to the environment |
D.will become popular in the future |
A.Required. | B.Forgot. |
C.Encouraged. | D.Cancelled. |
A.We should make recycling an option. |
B.Public recycling programs are in a bad situation. |
C.We should develop the awareness of resource saving. |
D.Cost-saving should be considered first in recycling work. |
A.The harm of recycling |
B.Is recycling really beneficial? |
C.The recycling work in New York City |
D.Is environmental protection making progress? |