3 . Frustration (挫败感) usually occurs when you feel stuck or trapped, or unable to move forward in some way. It could be caused by a coworker blocking your favorite project, a boss who is too disorganized to get to your meeting on time, or simply holding on the phone for a long time.     1    , because they can easily lead to more negative emotions, such as anger. Here are some suggestions on dealing with frustration.

Stop and evaluate —     2    . If you find that feelings of frustration are coming around inside your mind, ask yourself why you feel frustrated. Write it down in a notebook and be specific. Then think of one positive thing about your current situation. For instance, if your boss is late for your meeting, then you have more time to prepare.     3    .

Find something positive about the situation — Thinking about a positive aspect of your situation often makes you look at things in a different way. This small change in your thinking can improve your mood.     4    , they’re probably not doing it on purpose to annoy you. And if it’s a thing that’s bothering you — well, it’s certainly not personal! Don’t get mad; just move on.

    5     — Stop hanging out with people who make fun of your issues if you want to find the solution of how to deal with frustration. It will only push you further deep into your problem. Be in the company of people who listen to your problems and stand by you. They will be able to help you figure out the cause and the solution of the problem. You will feel better when you have someone to listen to you and help you with the difficult times.

5 . Expressing emotions is difficult as it's not always encouraged in society. People rely on comfort zones and a secure mask to get them through the day. You may wonder, "Why am I so sad?" and not know how to answer that question. We ignore warning signs of sadness, depression and other forms of suffering because we cannot be open about such feelings in society. It shouldn't be something we are afraid of. With the release of emotion, we find who we want to be and quickly to a previous good condition. Sadness is one emotion of many. But it is often the one most ignored. We don’t want to appear weak to others.

Sadness is different from depression. Typically, sadness comes and goes, while depression holds us down for long. When feeling sad, you are most likely feeling alone, helpless and hopeless. But depression lasts almost nonstop at a depth that can overrule your behavior.

We feel it our duty to be our own heroes. We feel like we need to hold on rather than let go and let others in. When this happens, sadness increases, and we are no longer engaged with those we love. When sadness hits, we have to tell someone and build a support system. You just need to allow others to see your weaknesses, which aren't even true weaknesses. Feeling sad is not a weakness. Holding back in an effort to appear strong is, however, a weakness.

When people know what you're going through, they can better assist you.

Our sadness does not show what we are worth. It only tells us the story we tell ourselves. And when we change that story, we can breathe. We start to realize we deserve to be happy. Self talk like "I am worth it" is sending message of love and hope to ourselves when the world fails to do so for you.

6 . Too often we get caught up with negative (消极的) opinions, attitudes, actions and thoughts of those around us, which then brings a negative lifestyle. So to avoid falling into this trap, we need to begin changing.     1    

Change your negative responses. If someone asks you, “How are you?”, instead of responding by saying, “Not bad.” Why not say, “I’m doing great.”     2     If you’re in a conversation where everybody is just being negative, try saying something positive and see what happens. You’ll actually get them to stop being so negative and start looking at things in a more positive way.

Focus on the good qualities. Too often we focus only on a person’s negative qualities when being made upset or angry.     3     As the old saying goes, “What goes around comes around.” You focus on the positive in other people and other people will see the positive qualities in you.

    4     Another thing you can do is to be encouraging. Offer encouragement when people have questions or concerns instead of discouraging them. Listen to what people say and try to offer a positive suggestion to help. When you do this you get your mind to go in a positive direction, and you also back it up with action.

Try smiling.     5     It’s true. Researchers and scientists have found that you actually use fewer muscles to smile than you do when you frown (皱眉). Take some time to laugh at yourself and at things you find funny. Be a kid at times — having fun frees the soul and the mind. Do things you enjoy and you’ll start creating a positive lifestyle.

7 . Have you ever had a stressful day? And on these high-pressure days, many people might find themselves reaching for a sugary snack. Perhaps this is part of their daily routine. Or perhaps on this particular day, heir self-control is a bit low and they want to take a sugar hit.

Stress is natural. That feeling of pressure is a biological response, and under the right circumstances can be a great source of motivation. However, too much stress, has been linked to sleep disruption, heart-attack, ulcer or depression, among other things. But why should stress make a person comfort eat?

When we become stressed, our bodies enter “fight or flight” mode. Because our body believes it’s under attack, it releases glucose (葡萄糖) into the blood to provide energy for muscles. However, if we don’t use that energy, our body then releases insulin (胰岛素) to make the blood sugar levels drop. This drop causes a hunger response: you want to eat. And what you particularly want is sugary food, which rapidly refills the energy you have lost. If this happens repeatedly, over a long enough period, these high-calorie foods can lead to obesity.

So what can we do to fight the stress? Dr Michael Mosley recommends exercise, gardening, mindfulness or other activities you enjoy. But his strongest recommendation is trying to get a goodnight’s sleep. So, try sleeping to decrease stress.

9 . The human mind suffers from a lot of stress and anxiety in daily life. There are many sounds that can help the people to concentrate on current situation or matters.     1     The following is the best relaxing music to improve your concentration.

Classical music is music played with instruments including orchestra, sitar, etc.     2     It is best for introverts (内向的人) as well as for the people who want to focus on their studies and want to be quiet.

Spa music is the music that is used in spa centers. This music has special slow beats which arouse the relaxing cells. It feels relaxing and good to the mind and ear. These sounds are used as a soul spa therapy in many countries.

    3     Sounds of whispering grass, the hustle of leaves, the humming of birds, sound of the raindrop, a cool breeze, a wind, etc. These sounds greatly affect the ability to do work and provide relaxation to mind and soul.

Electrical music is also instrumental music, but it is different from classical. Classical is Sufi music. On the other hand, this music is produced with the help of new digital instruments and devices.     4     Mostly, it is composed of beats or instrumental sounds.

These mentioned sounds are those few that help the people to rebuild their concentration.     5     Some introverts like slow and rhythmic music while some like sounds with lyrics (歌词). Hence, it depends on the mental ability and nature of the people.