1 . If you identify as a people-pleaser, you might feel like it’s impossible to change. Well-meaning friends can try to encourage you to just be yourself, but no matter how hard you try, you can’t shake that urge to keep everyone happy.
Lots of times, people who try to please other people are extremely quick to react in social settings. They know what to say right away and they move into care taking immediately.
As you slowly start to become aware of your needs and even state them out loud, it can bring in some essential changes in your relationships. You might realize that as you mature, some friendships are not as rewarding or even as equal as you would like them to be.
A.So, it’s time to end the relationship. |
B.Change your habits and please yourself. |
C.Slow down and check in with yourself before reacting. |
D.This could be because, since childhood, they have developed this habit. |
E.However, that doesn’t mean you always have to cut people out of your life. |
F.Therefore, here’s how to slowly stop people-pleasing and start being yourself. |
G.General polite behavior to one person can be people-pleasing to someone else. |
2 . Despite being connected online, no matter what state you’re from, each city still retains its own language and slang. At my public high school in Los Angeles, we had our own secret language. A party was a “yart”. A beer was a “brewsky”. If I tried to use these words in front of anyone that didn’t live in Los Angeles, they would have no idea what was going on. When I came to college and used these words around my roommate from the East Coast, she would look at me with a blank stare.
Teenagers are often blamed for pulling apart standard linguistic patterns. The way my parents used to talk isn’t the same way that teenagers talk now. But it reflects the dynamic nature of language, which evolves over time due to various influences, including generational shifts and technological advancements. Teenagers, at an age when they are actively exploring their identity and seeking to differentiate themselves from previous generations, often play a significant role in this evolution.
It’s interesting to note that people around the world all have different terms for everyday things. Last year, I came across a British show called Love Island, which is a reality show that mixes people from different parts of the U. K. in a “villa”(another word Americans don’t typically say) for about eight weeks. As a bystander, the way they talked felt so elegant and fun, but to them, it was just normal.
Whether the way we talk is regional or from online, the soul of communication lies in its power to connect people, foster understanding, and facilitate interactions that shape our personal and social lives. I have often found it’s the way we connect with the people we live around.
What is mainly talked about in the last paragraph?A.The means of communication. | B.The nature of communication. |
C.The elements of communication. | D.The process of communication. |
3 . PEER PRESSURE
Have you ever been forced to do anything? Have you ever felt that you are in a tight corner because of someone’s comment?
Peer pressure can influence how people dress, how they talk, what music they listen to, what attitudes they adopt and how they behave. Teenagers want to be liked, to fit in and to be accepted.
Students can do a lot to avoid peer pressure. The most important thing is to build up self-confidence, so that it is easier to say “no” to the peer group.
A.Why does peer pressure happen? |
B.Teens can talk to a grown-up they trust. |
C.Students can do this by choosing their friends wisely. |
D.If they give in to peer pressure, what could be the result? |
E.This means peer pressure can be powerful and hard to resist. |
F.We’ve all experienced the situations like that—peer pressure. |
G.We need to recognize when it is positive and when it is negative. |
4 . While scientists have many ideas, they are not certain why humans yawn(打哈欠). Still, there is one thing experts know—yawns seem to be contagious(传染)!
Have you ever caught a yawn from someone else? Most people have. In fact, a person is six times more likely to yawn after seeing someone else do so. Experts have done many studies into why yawns seem to pass from person to person. As a result, they have a few theories(理论) for the reason behind it.
One possible explanation has something to do with social mirroring, which is caused by mirror neurons(镜像神经元) in the brain. These mirror neurons help the brain notice useful behavior of others and then copy it. When one person sees another yawn, his mirror neurons observe the action and consider it to be beneficial. That may cause him to yawn, too.
Another popular theory is that yawns are contagious because of social relationships. Being social creatures, humans form friendships, families and live together in groups. That’s why many people mirror others, such as smiling when another person smiles. Yawning may be just another example of this. In fact, research has shown that one is most likely to catch yawns from another person if the two share a social relationship.
The answer could even be that yawns aren’t truly contagious at all. Instead, people yawn together simply because they’re in the same environment. Experts say many things may cause yawning, including temperature and time of day. Whatever the explanation is, experts do know that contagious yawns aren’t limited to humans. One study found that lions in South Africa also caught each other’s yawns.
1. What kind of behavior may be copied by mirror neurons?A.Important and attractive. | B.Useful and beneficial. |
C.Hard to understand. | D.Easy to copy. |
A.Those who yawn a lot. | B.Those who like smiling. |
C.Those closely connected with them. | D.Those sharing the same interest with them. |
A.Tips on how to avoid yawning in public. |
B.A real explanation for contagious yawning. |
C.Other examples of animals yawning together. |
D.Things that may cause yawning among humans. |
A.Why yawns are contagious | B.What causes people to yawn |
C.Who yawns more than others | D.Why humans yawn now and then |
5 . For lots of kids, toddlerhood(幼儿期)is an important time for friendship. Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing together also helps these kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation.
Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament. Some toddlers are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler’s way of saying “I like you” during play is likely to come in the form of copying a friend’s behavior.
This seemingly unusual way of demonstrating fondness can result in unpleasant behavior. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules. That’s why it’s so important to take an active role in your toddler’s social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them.
Begin by helping your child learn sympathy (“Ben is crying. What’s making him so sad?”), then suggest how he could resolve the problem(“Maybe he would feel better if you let him play the ball.”). When your child shares or shows empathy(同理心)toward a friend, praise him(“Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.”).
Another way to encourage health y social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words—not fists—to express how they feel. It’s also important to be mindful of how your child’s personality affects playtime. Kids are easy to get angry when they’re sleepy or hungry, so schedule playtime when they’re refreshed.
1. What does the underlined word “temperament” in Paragraph 2 probably mean?A.Appearances. | B.Ages. | C.Characters. | D.Interests. |
A.They are fond of their playmates. |
B.They are interested in acting. |
C.They are shy with the strangers. |
D.They are tired of playing games. |
A.Find them suitable playmates. |
B.Design games for them. |
C.Play together with them. |
D.Help them understand social rules. |
A.Explaining concepts. | B.Giving examples. |
C.Providing evidence. | D.Making comparisons. |
6 . “Individuals of all ages who have empathy (共情) understand that sometimes telling little white lies can protect other people from getting hurt,” says Barbara Greenberg, a clinical psychologist in Connecticut. “Most people that I have come across tell these little white lies because they understand that 100 percent honesty all the time is not beneficial.” A white lie, she explains, spares people from unnecessary hurt.
At the same time, Dr. Julia Breur, a marriage and family therapist in Florida, emphasizes the importance of paying attention to the way we respond to someone. The fact is that not telling the truth can result in something unpleasant on you; it’s not just about the person the white lie is being told to. For example, she says someone who always tells others that “all is good” when it comes to a sick parent in an effort to avoid discussions about how serious their health issue really is, can eventually face stressful experiences. When that parent eventually passes away, the person who always gave an “all is good” response ends up emotionally broken.
Sometimes, telling white lies often depends on the situation, Dr. Breur says. For example, consider a woman who has not seen her mother for several months. The daughter has gained noticeable weight, yet the mother responds by excitedly declaring that she looks great. “I emphasize during psychotherapy sessions with my patients that context helps define meaning,” Dr. Breur says. “So when we look at the context of a mother saying you look great when she clearly sees that her daughter has gained weight, it can be acceptable. It reflects the intention of the white lie which is kindness, protection and unconditional love. Otherwise, white lies — especially when told to avoid personal accountability — can start a cycle of mistrust between people, ultimately compromising integrity,” she adds.
Therefore, it’s important to ask ourselves when it is and isn’t appropriate to deliver the honest truth, and when it’s best to step back and offer a more delicate response. More often than not, it’s about finding a balance between the two.
1. What can be learned about white lies according to Barbara Greenberg?A.They are short-lived. | B.They are unidentifiable. |
C.They are trouble-making. | D.They are common. |
A.White lies can harm both the liars and the listeners. |
B.We must respond to our family members truthfully. |
C.It’s wrong to tell white lies to a seriously ill parent. |
D.The “all is good” response is effective in dealing with patients. |
A.Uncaring. | B.Critical. | C.Supportive. | D.Doubtful. |
A.East or West, White Lies Are the Best |
B.Think Twice Before You Tell White Lies |
C.White Lies Signify Unconditional Love |
D.White Lies Are Empathetic People’s Favorable Choice |
7 . A few years ago, I walked into Panera and placed my order. As I sat down, I noticed that at the table next to me, there was an older man with a cap eating his soup alone. At the sight of this, a feeling of sadness began to wash over me. Why was he eating alone? Was he lonely? Did he want someone to keep him company?
This wasn’t the first time I’d felt sad when I noticed someone eating alone. I automatically assume they’re lonely and need someone to be there for them. For some reason, eating with other people is the norm. Modern society has evolved to the point where most people eat with others and do almost every activity together. If we need to get lunch before a class, we’d rather ask around to see if someone will come with us. But is it possible we just don’t want to appear lonely?
For me, it’s easy to get pressured to have to be around other people when I see everyone else around me accompanied by a friend almost all the time. So many people are always around someone else, and that may make people think we always need someone with us to feel better about ourselves.
But that’s not true. We can enjoy being alone not everyone needs to be constantly surrounded by friends to be happy. And we shouldn’t be afraid to eat alone if that’s what we want to do. We don’t have to do what everyone else does.
Ultimately, I don’t think I’ll ever not get sad if I see someone eating alone, but I’ll bear in mind that maybe they just want a break from the world, or maybe they prefer it that way. It’s important to realize seeing someone doing something alone doesn’t always mean they’re lonely.
1. Why does the author mention her experience at Panera a few years ago?A.To introduce the topic of caring for old people. |
B.To start the discussion about people eating alone. |
C.To describe a memorable encounter. |
D.To illustrate the benefits of eating alone outside. |
A.It is a good way to avoid awkwardness. |
B.It helps maintain social connections. |
C.It is common but deserves questioning. |
D.It is unreasonable and unacceptable. |
A.Uncomfortable. | B.Isolated. | C.Envious. | D.Relaxed. |
A.Social relationships are unnecessary. |
B.People need to be alone to recharge. |
C.Loneliness is unavoidable in our daily life. |
D.Being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness. |
8 . The Power of Peers
Do birds of a feather really flock together? People do tend to choose friends who are similar to them. Many behaviors spread socially. Activities in certain brain areas change when other people are around.
A research shows that even just having another peer around can change the reward response in the brain and also the risk-taking tendencies of teenagers. Some people seem to be more easily influenced than others and more sensitive to feeling included or excluded by others.
It’s the quality of friendships — not quantity — that really makes the difference. Friendships you feel you want to let go of may be low quality.
Spending time with friends can be especially helpful for people. Noticing that our behavior is influenced by other people, we can be intentional and try to focus on the people who are doing the things we want to get into ourselves.
A.Adolescence is such a risky period. |
B.That can affect what you choose to do. |
C.Peer pressure can sometimes lead to competition. |
D.People care about what others think across all different age groups. |
E.They are linked to poor academic performance and behavioral issues. |
F.Sharing your healthy habits could also make a real difference to others. |
G.The number of friends you have determines your level of social influence. |
9 . Everyone, at one time or another, has experienced some challenges in friendships and relationships with family members. We might find ourselves frustrated(懊恼的) or angry with other people, or even find that we argue with them. The reality is that nobody is perfect and we need to realise that we should find ways to live happier and less stressful lives. Here are some tips on how to make relationships happier and healthier.
Respect other people and accept themThis is the most important point. If we want to show someone we love them, we need to first respect who they are and show them we accept them for who they are: Everyone is unique with different experiences and lives. By always remembering this, we will be able to develop and maintain strong relationships.
Be interested in others’ interestsWe might have friends who are crazy about sports, while we prefer reading. Or perhaps a parent’s hobby seems boring to us but it is something they love. If we want to keep our relationships strong and positive, we should at least take time to listen to them and talk about what matters to them. By doing this, we show them that we care about them and their interests
Apologise when you make a mistakeThis is the hardest thing for most of us to do, yet a simple “I’m sorry” can undo a lot of tension. By being humble when you make a mistake, you can fix any problem you may have caused and also show that you are a mature person
Stay connected through communicationGood communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing.
So, try and follow the advice and you will find that you have happier and stronger relationships with your friends and loved ones
1. What can be concluded from Paragraph 2?A.We need to realise that others are often wrong in our dealings with them. |
B.Our friends and loved ones can cause us stress by being wrong. |
C.Everyone can be right and wrong at times and we need to remember that. |
D.We should accept the people we love and respect them. |
A.be positive and confident |
B.discuss our partner’s concerns |
C.put our friends’ interests first |
D.be familiar with our parents’ hobbies |
A.Ignore our friends’ preferences. |
B.Never apologize for our mistakes. |
C.Check in with our friends regularly. |
D.No need to be mature. |
A.Being mature and admitting our mistakes when we make them. |
B.Respecting the fact that others may not appreciate our hobbies and interests. |
C.Showing our love for others when they hurt us or disrespect us. |
D.Accepting that our friends will eventually grow apart from us. |
A.To offer some tips on making healthier relationships |
B.To remind us about the challenges in friendships and relationships. |
C.To help us maintain relationships with family members. |
D.To share ways to live happier and less stressful lives. |
10 . There’s a long line of research showing that when we make contact with people who’re socially different from us, we tend to feel less prejudice towards them. According to the contact theory, contact seems to work best for reducing prejudice when the contact is generally positive. But what happens when the conditions for interpersonal contact may not be ideal? For example, what if you feel threatened in some way by a group of people you see as “the other”?
Researchers from Ghent University in Belgium analyzed the results of 34 studies surveying nearly 64,000 people from 19 countries to see how intergroup contact affected their viewpoints about “outgroups” under conflict situations. For example, people were asked to report on how they viewed other groups. The researchers also had data from the surveys that measured attitudes towards outgroup members, such as how positive people felt towards them and how much they could trust them.
After analyzing the data, the researchers found strong feelings of threat were associated with more negative views of outgroup members. But having contact with outgroup members still reduced prejudice just as much under those unfavorable conditions. To Jasper Van Assche, the lead author of the paper, this suggests contact theory holds even under conflict situations.
Van Assche says that contact is so powerful probably because just being around people from an outgroup affects how we think and feel about them. As we become accustomed to even the me re presence of people from other groups, that can reduce our anxiety, especially if the encounters are positive—and that can lead to warmer feelings. Also, contact can enhance our knowledge about others’ customs and practices, so that they don’t seem so foreign or “other” to us.
Van Assche hopes his research can lead people to see the benefits of integrating the spaces where they live. This could be done through top-down methods, such as the government requiring school integration, but also from the bottom up. For example, suggests Van Assche, communities could create low-cost, low-key events that bring people together, helping to promote tolerance.
1. Why are the questions raised in paragraph 1?A.To inspire readers’ imagination. | B.To argue against the contact theory. |
C.To show the author’s curiosity. | D.To offer the purpose of the study. |
A.It improves people’s adaptive capacity. | B.It increases people’s desire to socialize. |
C.It promotes each other’s understanding. | D.It makes people emotionally stable. |
A.Expanding communities on the whole. |
B.Increasing chances of positive contact. |
C.Strengthening interactions between schools. |
D.Offering equal education opportunities to diverse groups. |
A.People involved in equal contact are generally positive | B.Opportunities for intergroup contact are on the rise |
C.The interventions based on contact are unhealthy | D.Interpersonal contact can help people connect |