1 . The Internet has opened up a whole new online world for us to meet, chat and go where we’ve never been before.
But just as in face to face communication, there are some rules of behavior that should be followed when on line.
For anything you’re about to send: ask yourself, “Would I say this to the person’s face?” if the answer is no, rewrite and reread.
If someone in the chat room is rude to you, your instinct (本能) is to fire back in the same manner. But try not to do so.
It is not polite to ask others personal questions such as their age, sex and marital status. Unless you know the person very well, and you are both comfortable with sharing personal information, don’t ask such questions.
A.It’s natural that there are some people who speak rudely or make mistakes online. |
B.Repeat the process till you feel sure that you’d feel comfortable saying the words to the person’s face. |
C.Everyone was new to the network once. |
D.The basic rule is simple: treat others in the same way you would want to be treated. |
E.When you send short messages to a person online, you must say something beautiful to hear. |
F.You should either ignore the person, or use your chat software to block their messages. |
G.If you do decide to tell someone about a mistake, point it out politely. |
2 . We’ve been there: in a lift, in line at the bank or on an airplane, surrounded by people who are, like us, deeply focused on their smartphones or, worse, struggling with the uncomfortable silence.
What’s the problem? It is possible that we all have compromised conversational intelligence. It’s more likely that none of us start a conversation because it’s awkward and challenging, or we think it’s annoying and unnecessary. But the next time you find yourself among strangers, consider that small talk is worth the trouble. Experts say it’s an important social practice that results in big benefits.
Dismissing small talk as unimportant is easy, but we can’t forget that deep relationships wouldn’t even exist if it weren’t for casual conversation. Small talk is the grease (润滑剂) for social communication, says Bernardo Carducci. “Almost every great love story and each big business deal begins with small talk,” he explains. “The key to successful small talk is learning how to connect with others, not just communicate with them.”
In a 2014 study, Elizabeth Dunn, Associate Professor of psychology at UBC, invited people on their way into a coffee shop. One group was asked to seek out an interaction (互动) with its waiter; the other, to speak only when necessary. The results showed that those who chatted with their server reported significantly higher positive feelings and a better coffee shop experience. “It’s not that talking to the waiter is better than talking to your husband,” says Dunn. “But interactions with peripheral (边缘的) members of our social network matter for our well-being also.”
Dunn believes that people who reach out to strangers feel a significantly greater sense of belonging, a bond with others. Carducci believes developing such a sense of belonging starts with small talk. “Small talk is the basis of good manners,” he says.
1. What phenomenon is described in the first paragraph?A.Addiction to smartphones. |
B.Inappropriate behaviours in public places. |
C.Absence of communication between stranger. |
D.Impatience with slow service. |
A.Showing good manners. | B.Relating to other people. |
C.Focusing on a topic. | D.Making business deals. |
A.Big business doesn’t need to have small talk. |
B.communicating with others is the most important thing. |
C.Small talk can benifit a lot. |
D.Silence is necessary in daily life. |
A.It improves family relationships. |
B.It raises people’s confidence. |
C.It matters as much as a formal talk. |
D.It makes people feel good. |
3 . Most of us are already aware of the direct effect we have on our friends and family. But we rarely consider that everything we think, feel, do, or say can spread far beyond the people we know. Conversely(相反地), our friends and family serve as conduits(渠道) for us to be influenced by hundreds or even thousands of other people. In a kind of social chain reaction, we can be deeply affected by events we do not witness that happen to people we do not know. As part of a social network, we go beyond ourselves, for good or ill, and become a part of something much larger.
Our connectedness carries with it fundamental implications(影响) for the way we understand the human condition. Social networks have value precisely because they can help us to achieve what we could not achieve on our own. Yet, socialnetwork effects are not always positive. Depression, obesity, financial panic, and violence also spread. Social networks, it turns out, tend to magnify(放大) whatever they are seeded with.
Partly for this reason, social networks are creative. And what these networks create does not belong to any one individual—it is shared by all those in the network. In this way, a social network is like a commonly owned forest: We all stand to benefit from it, but we also must work together to ensure it remains healthy and productive. While social networks are fundamentally and distinctively human, and can be seen everywhere, they should not be taken for granted.
If you are happier or richer or healthier than others, it may have a lot to do with where you happen to be in the network, even if you cannot recognize your own location. And it may have a lot to do with the overall structure of the network, even if you cannot control that structure at all. And in some cases, the process feeds back to the network itself. A person with many friends may become rich and then attract even more friends. This richgetricher dynamic means social networks can dramatically reinforce two different kinds of inequality in our society: situational inequality and positional inequality.
Lawmakers have not yet considered the consequences of positional inequality. Still, understanding the way we are connected is an essential step in creating a more just society and in carrying out public policies affecting everything from public health to the economy. We might be better off vaccinating(接种疫苗) centrally located individuals rather than weak individuals. We might be better off helping interconnected groups of people to avoid criminal behaviour rather than preventing or punishing crimes one at a time.
If we want to understand how society works, we need to fill in the missing links between individuals. We need to understand how interconnections and interactions between people give rise to wholly new aspects of human experience that are not present in the individuals themselves. If we do not understand social networks, we cannot hope to fully understand either ourselves or the world we inhabit.
1. Why is a social network like a commonly owned forest?A.It remains healthy and productive. |
B.What it creates can be enjoyed by everyone in the network. |
C.It is creative and shared by people in the whole society. |
D.It tends to magnify negative things. |
A.whether we are richer depends on the number of friends we make |
B.the wealth we possess has nothing to do with individual continuous efforts |
C.sometimes our success may be largely due to our position in social networks |
D.we won't succeed unless we fully control the overall structure of the network |
A.To introduce the characteristics of social networks. |
B.To urge people to understand how our society works. |
C.To show the significance of understanding social networks. |
D.To explain the possible consequences of ignoring social networks. |
A.We can't be easily affected by strangers. |
B.We have negative effects on other social members. |
C.We are connected and form a social network. |
D.We will not make a difference in a specific group. |
4 . When we are young we are taught that it’s wrong to lie and we should always tell the truth. Unfortunately, most children lie even if they’re told not to. Research carried out at the Institute of Child Study at Toronto Univercity has shown that this might not be such a bad thing. Apparently (显然地), children who tell lies when they’re two years old have a good chance of becoming successful adults (成年人).
According to the research, at the age of two, 20 per cent of children lie. At the age of three, 50 per cent lie, and at four almost 90 per cent lie. By the age of 12 almost every child tells lies.
Lying needs much brain work, and the better the lie is, the more work the brain has to do. By training the brain early, researchers believe children will be able to think more clearly when they are adults.
Recent research, carried out by the Science Museum in London, has shown some interesting facts about the way we lie as adults. According to the research, the average British man tells three lies every day; that’s over 1,000 lies a year. However, the average woman apparently only lies twice a day.
Most people think women are better liars (说谎者) than men although in fact they tell fewer lies. Popular women’s lies include ‘Nothing’s wrong, I’m fine’, ‘I don’t know where it is, I haven’t touched it’, and ‘It wasn’t that expensive’.
Some people say you can lie as long as it’s a white lie. A white lie is a lie told to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. One of the most common lies for both men and women is ‘It’s just what I’ve always wanted’, said after opening a present from their partner.
1. What will happen to young children who lie?A.They will possibly do wrong later. |
B.They’re likely to succeed in the future. |
C.They will keep lying when they grow up. |
D.They may have a good chance of losing others’ trust. |
A.Older children tell bigger lies than younger ones. |
B.As they grow, they often lie about their age. |
C.The older they are, the more likely they lie. |
D.It’s quite natural for them to tell lies. |
A.Men lie more than women. | B.Women are better liars than men. |
C.Women’s lies are usually not serious. | D.Men sometimes have to lie to women. |
A.You know me so well. | B.I don’t like the present. |
C.You are good at picking presents. | D.I haven’t received a present I really like. |
5 . My wife and I were at a crowded grocery store not long ago. It was a weekday evening, cold and wet and tense. People were carelessly blocking aisles, complaining and cutting one another off with their carts. At one point, two women quarreled for several minutes in the freezer section.
Things got worse at the checkout line. The cashier scanned a man’s discount card, but he misread the savings on her screen as an additional charge. He decided she was acting on purpose and began to argue.
Other customers looked away as the cashier tried to reason with him. She called a manager, who took him to customer service. Shaken, she moved to the next customer in line.
We’ve all witnessed uncomfortable scenes like this in public places. My reaction when I see them is both personal and professional. I am a data analyst and sociologist who studies how and why people interact with one another — or why they choose not to. To me, the grocery scene was another example of how our trust in others has disappeared. But it was also a teachable moment on how we can rebuild our faith — starting with just one person.
Therefore, my wife and I reached the disturbed cashier. I grabbed a bottle of water from a nearby cooler and handed it to her. We learned her name was Beth.
“We felt bad about how that man treated you and wanted to buy this for you.” I said.
Beth’s face lit up, and we talked as she scanned our items. She told us she had been working that evening through severe foot pain and would be having surgery later that week. We wished her well in her recovery, and she thanked us as we left.
That is the balancing act, the moment of countering social and emotional pain with healing, that will add up to restore trust across the United States. You can start that pattern in someone else’s life, even in a place as ordinary as the neighborhood grocery store.
1. By describing the arguments, the author wants to show________.A.the job as a cashier is not easy | B.people in the U.S are unfriendly |
C.arguments in public are very common | D.trust in each other has worn off |
A.Sad and regretful. | B.Sorry and embarrassed. |
C.Cheerful and rewarded. | D.Grateful and relieved. |
A.Doubtful. | B.Optimistic. | C.Uncaring. | D.Cautious. |
A.A Miserable Cashier | B.A Helping Hand |
C.Learning to Trust Again | D.Starting a new life |
6 . Conformity involves changing your behaviour to “fit in” or “go along” with the people around you. In some cases, this social influence might involve agreeing with or acting like the majority of people in a specific group, or involve behaving in a particular way to be viewed as “normal” by the group. Actually, conformity is something that happens regularly in our social world. Sometimes we’re aware of our behaviour, but in many cases it happens without much thought or awareness on our parts. And even in some cases we go along with things we disagree with or behave in ways we know we shouldn’t.
There are countless examples of conformity in life. For instance, a teenager dresses in a certain style because he wants to fit in with the rest of the teenagers in his social group. A woman reads a book for her book club and really enjoys it. When she attends her book club meeting, the other members all dislike the book. Rather than go against the group opinion, she simply agrees with the others that the book is terrible.
Why do we conform? In many cases, looking to the rest of the group for clues for how we should behave can actually be helpful. Others might have greater knowledge or experience than we do, so following their lead can actually be instructive. And in some cases, we conform to the expectations of the group to avoid looking foolish. This tendency can become especially strong in situations where we aren’t quite sure how to act. Additionally, there are some situations where we conform just in order to avoid punishments or gain rewards.
There are many factors that influence conformity. For example, not knowing how to perform a difficult task makes people more likely to conform. Personal characteristics such as motivation to achieve and strong leadership abilities are linked with a decreased tendency to conform. And people are more likely to conform in situations that involve between three and five other people.
1. What can we learn about conformity from the first paragraph?A.Actually it is rare for us to conform. |
B.Blind conformity should be criticized. |
C.Sometimes people tend to conform unconsciously. |
D.Conformity means changing your behaviour reluctantly. |
A.Joining a certain organization. |
B.Following the ongoing fashion. |
C.Sharing something personal with others. |
D.Giving up your creative ideas cautiously. |
A.When we are at a loss. |
B.When we are rejected. |
C.When we feel threatened. |
D.When we feel uncomfortable. |
A.Conformity cannot be avoided by anyone. |
B.Conformity is linked to the size of the group. |
C.Conformity is a natural response to challenges. |
D.Conformity isn’t related to individual differences. |
7 . People sometimes think of moving among people and talking to them at a dinner party like it’s a mechanical process. I know some advice on it can give the impression that you need to approach it that way.
In my experience, at parties it’s best to go with the flow, talk to the people who look interesting to you, and see where the night takes you.
For whatever reason, two metaphors (暗喻) come to mind when I think about talking to people at parties.
The second metaphor is that I picture people at a party as a bunch of ping pong balls floating in a basin of water, and moving around on the surface. For a time a few balls may come together, but then they’ll break up and maybe temporarily group with a few others.
A.If you want to try, go for it |
B.In practice it’s not really a matter of that |
C.The first is to see a party like a fairground |
D.Again, go to a party intending to just move along like this |
E.I will spend the party making the rounds and speaking to people |
F.Basically, the movement of people from group to group is not planned |
G.You’ll decide if you have a better time when you keep chatting to the funny friends |
8 . We all know how important personal interaction is in family and friends. It is also crucial at work. It is the foundation on which happiness and successful results are built.
A study found a correlation (相关性) of 0.92 between employee happiness and their relationships with colleagues. The correlation between their happiness and relationships to directors was only 0.74.Since you may spend more time with coworkers than with your directors, personal interaction in a group, especially a new one, deserves much attention. Whenever people involve in a new company or organization, they need to get to know each other to be comfortable in working together. This does not mean just memorizing names, and team icebreakers are the way to begin.
To everyone, except the most eager and outgoing few, icebreakers are a necessary evil. They are supposed to make awkwardness disappear, but forced icebreakers often make events even more tense. However, the benefits of icebreakers far outweigh(超过) any negatives. They can take care of introductions in a much more fun way than just simply going around the room and stating what's on your business card. When done right, icebreakers can quickly build a sense of community, set the tone for the upcoming session and share participants’ expectations of the days ahead. It helps participants to get involved, understand each other more and enable better cooperation and networking. Last but not least, it is a practical way to cheer the group up and have everyone focused and ready to go.
The best icebreakers should be tailored for a particular situation: icebreakers for a private company often have a different design from a non-profit organization and finding the right one for your purpose can help them be successful.
1. What can be inferred from Paragraph 2?A.Happiness is affected more by those closer to us. |
B.Directors should care more about workers’ happiness. |
C.Memorizing colleagues’ names is of great importance. |
D.Finding the coworkers you are comfortable with is hard. |
A.Something that is needed though people may not like it |
B.Something that must be involved in the new companies. |
C.Something that creates a strange atmosphere among people. |
D.Something that does great harm to companies in the long run. |
A.Objective. | B.Opposed. |
C.Favorable. | D.Doubtful. |
A.The characteristics of icebreakers. |
B.The general introduction of icebreakers. |
C.The common application of icebreakers. |
D.The methods to choose proper icebreakers. |
9 . Everyone, at one time or another, has experienced some challenges in friendships and relationships with family members. We might find ourselves upset or angry with other people, or even find that we argue with them. The reality is that nobody is perfect and we need to realize that we should find ways to live happier and less stressful lives.
Respect other people and accept them
This is the most important point.
We might have friends who are crazy about sports, while we prefer reading. Or perhaps a parent’s hobby seems boring to us but it is something they love. If we want to keep our relationships strong and positive, we should at least take time to listen to them and talk about what matters to them. By doing this, we show them that we care about them and their interests.
Apologize when you make a mistake
This is the hardest thing for most of us to do, yet a simple “I’m sorry” can undo a lot of tension. By being honest when you make a mistake, you can fix any problem you may have caused and show that you are an adult.
So, try and follow the advice from now on, and you will find that you have happier and stronger relationships with your friends and loved ones.
A.Be interested in others’ interests |
B.Making an apology to someone shows you are frank |
C.When you are in trouble, your friends are always there to help you |
D.Respecting your friends’ parents is more important than your friends |
E.Here are some tips on how to make relationships happier and healthier |
F.And there is little doubt that you can live and work in harmony with others |
G.If we want to show someone we love them, we need to first respect who they are and show them we accept them for who they are |
10 . They caused the first wound, but you are causing the rest; this is what not forgiving does. They got it started but you keep it going. Forgive and let it go, or it will eat you alive. You think they made you feel this way, but when you don’t forgive, you are the one creating the pain on yourself.
Whatever you do — don’t wait to forgive someone until they apologize, ask for your forgiveness or even admit they have harmed you. If you are waiting for someone to admit they have hurt you, you could be waiting forever and it puts them in the power position, where you need something from them to move forward in your own life.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with how wrong someone else was; no matter how wrong they are, when you forgive a person, you break the ties with their ill deeds that keep you in pain. Forgiving breaks the unhealthy bonds between you and the one who hurt you, and redefines you as an independent victor in your own life. Whether they accept their responsibility or not, you are no longer dependent on their participation for your healing (治愈). You can forgive them, and you can then move on. Boundaries are an essential part of forgiveness.
It is easy to hold a grudge (记仇). It is easy to blame. But these experiences are a lasting role of a powerless victim (受害者). When you hold grudges the victimization continues.
It takes emotional bravery to forgive. It takes a huge determination toward self-care to let go of painful past events and not let them identify your future. There is no self-love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without self-love. Forgiving others may be the ultimate act of self-love. Through forgiveness you can protect yourself from suffering from the lapses made by others.
1. According to the author, if you don’t forgive, you’ll _____.A.suffer further | B.keep your pride |
C.become stronger | D.receive an apology |
A.It counts a great deal. | B.It is tied to you firmly. |
C.It is nothing important. | D.It decides whether you forgive. |
A.decisions | B.mistakes |
C.contributions | D.apologies |
A.To advise us not to blame others. |
B.To tell us it is difficult to forgive others. |
C.To tell us the importance of forgiving others. |
D.To advise us to learn to forgive others for self-love. |