1 . Some people can walk into a room and instantly put everyone at ease. Others seem to make teeth clench and eyes roll no matter what they do. A small body of psychology research supports the idea that the way a person tends to make others feel is a consistent and measurable part of his personality. Researchers call it “effective presence.”
This concept was first described nearly 10 years ago in a study led by No ah Eisenkraft, a business professor at Washington University. He put business-school students into groups, had them register for all the same classes for a semester, and do every group project together. Then the members of each group rated how much every other member made them feel eight different emotions: stressed, bored, angry, sad, calm, relaxed, happy, and enthusiastic. The researchers found that a significant portion of group members ‘ emotions could be accounted for by the effective presence of their peers.
It seems that “our own way of being has an emotional signature.” says Elfenbein.
It’s been known for some time that emotions are infectious. But effective presence is an effect one has regardless of one’s own feelings—those with positive effective presence make other people feel good even if they personally are anxious or sad, and the opposite is true for those with negative effective presence
Unsurprisingly, people who consistently make others feel good are morn central to their social networks—in Elfenbein’s study, more of their classmate considered them to be friends. Sector Madrid, an organizational-behavior professor, has found that leaders with positive affective presence have teams that are better at sharing information, which leads to creativity. Inferiors are more likely to voice their ideas, too.
However, Elfenbein notes that positive effective presence isn’t naturally good. Psychopaths(精神变态者) are infamously charming and nay well use their positive effective presence for calculating ends. Neither is negative effective presence necessarily always a bad thing in a leader— think of a football coach yelling at the team at half time, motivating them to make a comeback. She suspects that effective presence is closely related to emotional intelligence which one can use to cure cancer or to be a criminal master mind.
1. What does the underlined phrase “make teeth clench” in Paragraph 1 mean?A.Make people upset or angry. | B.Make people glad or refreshed. |
C.Make people comfortable or relaxed. | D.Make people amazed or thrilled. |
A.To suggest leaders are better at sharing information. |
B.To prove leaders also have negative effective presence |
C.To indicate positive effective presence has a greater influence, |
D.To show positive effective presence can promote social interaction. |
A.It is for calculating ends. | B.It is a double-edged sword. |
C.It is affected by one’s own emotion, | D.It is the positive emotional influence on others. |
A.Effective Presence: How You Make People Feel |
B.Emotional Signature: Why Emotions are Infectious |
C.Effective Presence: Negative Part of Your Personalities |
D.Emotional Intelligence: Big Part of effective Presence |
2 . There’s a song by the great Jamaican singer Bob Marley called So Much Trouble In The World. Marley understood that part of the reason why there are so many problems in the world is the lack of tolerance between people. The UN understands this too that’s why it made Nov 16 “International Day for Tolerance”.
But first of all, what is tolerance? French philosopher Voltaire (1694 — 1778) can give us some help. According to him, tolerance “is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty (脆弱) and error; let us pardon each other’s folly — that is the first law of nature.”
Nobody’s perfect. When we’re tempted to criticize another person, we should perhaps remember our own imperfections first.
Very often, people don’t realize that they’re intolerant. This is because intolerance has a lot to do with ignorance. For example, the UN’s campaign is in part about the treatment of females by males. But often, the behavior of men toward women is intolerant because men don’t put themselves in the shoes of women.
It’s worth thinking a little about the words “tolerance” and “intolerance”. Are they the best words to describe the evils of which we’re speaking here? To agree to be “tolerant” of someone isn’t necessarily a very respectful thing. When someone is tolerated, it implies that there’s something wrong with them.
But it seems wrong that people should agree to “tolerate” people with black skin, for example. And should women think they have received the respect they are due when men agree to “tolerate” them?
Still, what Voltaire said stands: We humans are not perfect and this weakness is something that we all share. That’s the reason we should be tolerant.
It’s a little like generosity. We can give things to another person, and we can also give our forgiveness. Bob Marley understood this. In the song mentioned above, he advised: “Write your love on a rock so it stays for eternity (永恒); write your hate in the sand so the waves will wash it away.”
1. What’s the purpose of the UN “International Day For Tolerance”?A.To arouse peoples awareness of tolerance among people. |
B.To celebrate the founding of the UN. |
C.To solve the problem of global community. |
D.To change people’s opinions towards globalization. |
A.being willing to express your love to others |
B.trying to overcome your imperfections |
C.giving a hand to vulnerable groups (弱势群体) |
D.accepting each other’s weaknesses |
A.They are used to finding faults. |
B.They consider tolerance a kind of frailty. |
C.They don’t see things from the angle of others. |
D.They are intolerant of themselves too. |
A.Humans are advised to treat others better. | B.Humans learned to find faults in others. |
C.Humans need to give something to others. | D.Humans will change their attitudes to others. |
A.The origin of the International Day of Tolerance. |
B.The meaning and importance of tolerance. |
C.The philosophy behind Bob Marley’s song. |
D.Effective ways to show tolerance. |
3 . Have you ever felt the need to be alone for a while? I don’t mean situations when you should be alone, but occasions where you are with a group of people at a party or a restaurant. You get tired of jumping from conversation to conversation, and your mind starts to wander towards that interesting book you left halfway done, or that movie you have been meaning to watch.
A common misunderstanding about introverts is that they are loners or anti-social.
A.Society appears to favor extroverts. |
B.Most introverts, however, are just regular people. |
C.These are feelings usually typical of an introvert. |
D.Introverts tend to recover by spending time alone. |
E.You might have ignored that “strange” thought you had before. |
F.Introverts, just like extroverts, have their own set of advantages. |
G.Even if standing alone for a while, they get asked “Why are you all by yourself?” |
4 . When romantic partners argue over things like finances, jealousy, or other interpersonal issues, they tend to employ their current feelings as fuel for a heated argument. But thinking about the future helps overcome relationship conflicts, according to a University of Waterloo study just published online in Social Psychological and Personality Science. Alex Huynh, a doctoral candidate in psychology is the lead author of the study, which he published with Igor Grossmann from the University of Waterloo, and Daniel Yang from Yale University.
Previous research has shown that third-perspective reasoning can be a positive strategy for reconciliation (调解) of interpersonal struggles. Huynh and his collaborators investigated whether similar benefit can be induced by simply thinking about the future. Study participants were instructed to reflect on a recent conflict with a romantic partner or a close friend. One group of participants were then asked to describe how they would feel about the conflict one year in the future, while another group was asked to describe how they feel in the present.
The team examined participants’ written responses through a text-analysis program for their use of pronouns — such as I, me, she, he. These choices of pronouns were used to capture participants’ focus on the feelings and behaviour of those involved in the conflict. Written responses were also examined for forgiveness and reinterpreting the conflict more positively, both of which implied the participants’ use of reasoning strategies.
The researchers found that envisioning future relationship affected both participants’ focus on their feelings, and their reasoning strategies. As a result, participants reported more positivity about their relationship altogether, especially when study participants extended their thinking about the relationship a year into the future.
“Our study demonstrates that adopting a future-oriented perspective in the context of a relationship conflict — reflecting on how one might feel a year from now — may be a valuable coping tool for one’s psychological happiness and relationship well-being,” said Huynh.
1. What do romantic partners do in face of most disagreements?A.They lose faith in their future. | B.They focus on their present feelings. |
C.They look forward to a fierce conflict. | D.They care more about financial problems. |
A.Caused. | B.Explained. |
C.Reduced. | D.Improved. |
A.All the study participants described how they felt both in the present and in the future. |
B.Study participants described their recent relationship with their romantic partners or friends. |
C.A text-analysis program was employed to examine participants’ use of negative words. |
D.The reasoning strategies in participants’ written responses were well worthy of note. |
A.You have a year to solve your interpersonal problems! |
B.Thinking about future is essential for relationship maintenance! |
C.Your current feelings are the real cause of your heated arguments! |
D.Beneficial reasoning is a positive strategy for reconciliation! |
5 . Everybody needs casual relationships or "weak ties" while growing up.
Fewer friends as we age
Young adults gather lots of friends but by the mid-20s when responsibilities increase and free time reduces, so does the number of friendships.
Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer of psychology at the University of Essex, studies social interactions(互动). She found that sustaining these minor connections keeps us involved in the community, particularly after a move away from close friends and family or after the loss of a loved one.
How to make more friends
Don't just ask about the weather or something like "How's your day going?" Take time to get to know that person so the exchange and the relationship become more meaningful for both of you.
A.Start with something you are really interested in. |
B.Many think those interactions are not worth the time. |
C.As we get older, we no longer have the need to be out with friends. |
D.When you talk to someone, you’re actually brightening their day. |
E.If you don't normally chat with people, you may wonder how to start. |
F.They seem unimportant, but they actually benefit your emotional well-being. |
G.The more involved the chat becomes, the more likely a friendship will develop |
6 . Criticism is harmful to healthy relationships.
Changing Your Behavior
●Think before you speak.
●Separate the individual from their actions. If you work on separating the person from the action, you may naturally want to criticize less. As you realize you cannot judge a person’s character based on a single choice or decision, you will be unable to call someone out for being rude or disrespectful.
●Focus on positives. Oftentimes, being critical results from how you’re choosing to see a situation. Everyone has shortcomings. However, the vast majority of people have good qualities that outweigh bad ones.
Communicating More Effectively
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●Ask for what you want directly. Inefficient communication often results in heavy criticism.
●Consider the other party’s perspective. If you criticize others too often, you may be shutting out the other person’s point of view. Try to step in another person’s shoes before criticizing and you may get some new and special ideas.
A.Give feedback rather than criticism. |
B.However, there are ways to avoid criticism. |
C.Try to focus on a person’s positive qualities over their negative ones. |
D.If you find yourself making assumptions about a person’s character, stop yourself. |
E.If you’re not telling someone what you want, that person cannot be expected to know. |
F.Criticism should, ideally, be working towards an effective solution to a negative situation. |
G.When you want to dish out criticism, pause and consider whether you really need to say anything. |
A.An old friend. | B.A street cleaner. | C.A new neighbor. |
1. Where does the conversation probably take place?
A.On the phone. | B.In a cafe. | C.At a concert. |
A.A film star. | B.A musician. | C.A football player. |
A.On Wednesday. | B.On Thursday. | C.On Friday. |
9 . When it comes to team assembly, people who are both trustworthy and competent are the most sought after. However, those who are friendly and trustworthy are more likely to be selected than those who are known for just their skill competence and personal reputation, according to a new research from Binghamton University.
“We assume that people are selected due to their knowledge, skills and abilities. However, this research suggests that people may often get picked because team members feel comfortable with them,” said Cynthia Maupin, assistant professor in Binghamton University’s School of Management. “People may be willing to sacrifice a bit in terms of performance in order to have a really positive team experience.”
Maupin and her colleagues focused on a group of MBA students to conduct their study. Students were randomly assigned to different teams to carry out class projects. Toward the end of the semester, they were asked to form their own teams and evaluate why they selected each member.
“To find out how the students signaled to others that they might be someone who would be good to team up with in the future, we studied their use of either challenging or supportive voice, Maupin said.
•Challenging voice: Communicating in a way that challenges the present situation and is focused on new ideas and efficiency.
•Supportive voice: Communicating in a way that strengthens social ties and trust.
The researchers found that students who exhibited both voices were the most in-demand people when it came to assembling teams. However, students who only used supportive voice to exhibit their friendliness and trustworthiness were more sought after than those who only signaled their competence through the use of challenging voice.
Maupin said the findings have major implications for the workplace. “People should realize the way they speak up can have a strong effect on informal teaming up at a later point and that supportive voice helps establish harmonious relationships and a sense of trust amongst individuals.”
1. Who are preferred as team members?A.Those easy to get along with. | B.Those with skill competence. |
C.Those willing to make sacrifices. | D.Those with good personal reputation. |
A.Displayed. | B.Promised. | C.Replied. | D.Gestured. |
A.They make people more supportive. |
B.They help improve work competence. |
C.They make sense for better team assembly. |
D.They have strong effects on formal teaming up. |
A.The Secret of Communication |
B.The Importance of Competence |
C.Challenging Voice or Supportive Voice |
D.Competent Teammates or Friendly Teammates |
10 . We moved into a new neighborhood in 1990, Andy was pretty much the first person we
Andy would proudly and regularly
But the real
Andy died this month. I will miss him, more than he
A.met | B.recalled | C.thanked | D.admired |
A.treat | B.greet | C.criticize | D.comfort |
A.happiness | B.energy | C.knowledge | D.information |
A.still | B.even | C.ever | D.never |
A.wear | B.exhibit | C.wave | D.hold |
A.Different than | B.More than | C.Because of | D.Instead of |
A.do damage to | B.stare at | C.sit around | D.keep an eye on |
A.produce | B.crafts | C.cakes | D.money |
A.selling | B.feeding | C.walking | D.chasing |
A.health | B.financial | C.political | D.marriage |
A.rubbish | B.smog | C.snow | D.dirt |
A.welfare | B.influence | C.tie | D.faith |
A.prevented | B.separated | C.widened | D.strengthened |
A.interruption | B.performance | C.situation | D.presence |
A.evaluates | B.knows | C.forgets | D.regrets |