1 . The word listen, as is shown in Longman Dictionary, means paying attention to what someone is saying or to a sound that you can hear. Listening is definitely an important skill in communication. “When people talk, listen completely.” Those words of Ernest Hemingway might be a pretty good guiding principle for many managers. After all, people like being listened to.
Some firms use a technique known as a “listening circle”. In such a circle, only one person can talk about the issues they face at a time and there is no interruption. A study cited in the Harvard Business Review found that employees who had taken part in a listening circle subsequently suffered less social anxiety and had fewer worries about work-related matters than those who did not.
Listening has been critical to the career of Richard Mullender, who was a hostage (人质) negotiator, dealing with everything from suicide interventions to international kidnaps (绑架). He defines listening as “the identification, selection and interpretation of the key words”. It is crucial to all effective communication.
Plenty of people think that good listening is about nodding your head or keeping eye contact. But that is not really listening, Mr Mullender argues. A good listener is always looking for facts, emotions and indications of the other person’s values. Another important point to bear in mind is that, when you talk, you are not listening. The listener’s focus should be on analysis.
Of course, a listener needs to speak occasionally. One approach is to make an assessment of what the other person is telling you and then check it with them. For example, you can check with the other person by saying “It seems to me that what you want is…”. That gives the other party a sense that they are being understood. The fundamental aim is to build up a relationship so the other person likes you and trusts you, Mr Mullender says.
1. What can we learn about a “listening circle”?A.A listening circle focuses on personal issues. |
B.In a listening circle, a speaker won’t be interrupted. |
C.A listening circle increases worries about work-related matters. |
D.Employees get rid of social anxiety by taking part in a listening circle. |
A.Critical. | B.Opposed. | C.Cautious. | D.Favorable. |
A.To be liked and trusted by the other person. |
B.To check our assessments with the other person. |
C.To make assessments of what the other person is saying. |
D.To have a sense of being understood by the other person. |
A.The Analysis of a Listening Circle |
B.The Tricks of Successful Listening |
C.The Misunderstanding of Listening |
D.The Necessity of Effective Listening |
2 . We are often reminded of Oscar Wilde’s saying that “sarcasm (讽刺) is the lowest form of wit” while forgetting the following “but the highest form of intelligence”. Parents or teachers of teenagers, in particular, may find it hard to believe that it is actually a sign of a flexible and inventive mind.
Yet that is exactly what psychologists and neuroscientists have been arguing. They have found that sarcasm requires the brain to jump through numerous hoops (圈) to arrive at a correct interpretation, requiring more brainpower than literal statements.
If you’re still not convinced that your teen’s love of sarcasm is a thing worth celebrating, consider a recent experiment from Li Huang, a psychologist at Insead’s business school in Fontainebleau, France.
In the experiment, participants were presented with a candle, a pack of matches and a box of tacks (图钉). Their task was to find a way to attach the candle to the wall so that it could burn without dripping wax on the floor. The correct answer is to empty the box of tacks, pin it to the wall, and then place the candle inside a solution that will only come to mind if you are prepared to think about the functions of each object.
Before working on the problem, some participants were asked to recall a sarcastic interaction, while others remembered a sincere or neutral exchange. Quite amazingly, the sarcastic memories more than doubled the participants’ success rate, from around 30% to more than 60%.
It may initially feel like a shock when parents notice their children using sarcasm——a sign, perhaps, of a more adult-like cynicism (愤世嫉俗) that conflicts with their impressions of their children’s youthful innocence. Parents may feel particularly helpless when dealing with a teenager who uses it in almost all interactions, as if they struggle. to express any sincere emotions.
But should we blame teens for applying this handy tool? Perhaps it’s better seen as the useful practice of a vital ability. Penny Pexman, a psycholinguist at the University of Calgary agrees and it is for this reason that she has produced Sydney Gets Sarcastic, a storybook that provides multiple examples of sarcasm and the reasons it was used. In a recent experiment on 5-to 6-year-olds, she showed that children who read and discussed the story found it easier to detect sarcastic statements in a following test.
1. Why does the author refer to Oscar Wilde’s words at the beginning of the text?A.To give a definition of sarcasm. |
B.To stress the significance of sarcasm. |
C.To express his concern about sarcasm. |
D.To show the misunderstanding of sarcasm. |
A.They tended to stay long with participants. |
B.They offered clues to the problem to be solved. |
C.They could force participants to face problems. |
D.They contributed greatly to participant’s success. |
A.It shows their innocence. |
B.It helps them express emotions. |
C.It is not appropriate for their age. |
D.It allows them to behave like adults. |
A.To urge parents to learn from their children’s sarcasm. |
B.To teach parents how to respond to their children’s sarcasm. |
C.To show parents the positive side of their children’s sarcasm. |
D.To remind parents to teach their children to use words properly. |
3 . Helping others is not only good for them but a good thing to do. It also makes us happier and healthier too. Giving also connects us to others, creating stronger communities and helping to build a happier society for everyone. So if you want to feel good, do good!
Doing things for others-whether small, unplanned acts or regular volunteering—is a powerful way to increase our own happiness as well of those around us. The people we help may be strangers, family, friends, colleagues or neighbors. They can be old or young, nearby or far away.
Giving isn’t just about money, so you don’t need to be rich. Giving to others can be as simple as a single kind word, smile or a thoughtful gesture. It can include giving time, energy, care, skills, thought or attention. Sometimes these mean as much, if not more, than financial gifts.
Scientific studies show that helping others boosts happiness. It increases life satisfaction, provides a sense of meaning, increases feelings of ability, improves our mood and reduces stress. It can help to take our minds off our own troubles too.
Kindness towards others is the glue which connects individual happiness with wider community and social wellbeing. Giving to others helps us connect with people and meets one of our basic human needs-relatedness.
Kindness seems to be contagious (传染性的). When we see someone do something kind or thoughtful, or we are on the receiving end of kindness, it inspires us to be kinder ourselves. In this way, kindness spreads from one person to the next, influencing the behavior of people who never saw the original act. Kindness really is the key to creating a happier, more trusting local community.
1. Why can giving help to build a happier society?A.It can bring confidence. | B.It can connect us to others. |
C.It can make us healthy. | D.It can make us rich. |
A.Helping others makes our trouble disappear forever. |
B.We feel more content with life by helping others. |
C.Helping others removes a sense of meaning. |
D.We feel no stress by helping others. |
A.Kindness. | B.Health. | C.Happiness. | D.Wealth. |
A.Helping others is good for ourselves. | B.We should learn to give. |
C.Helping others matters. | D.Kindness is a good virtue. |
4 . Humans, by nature, have always lived in groups and social interaction is fundamental for every part of our health. Lack of it can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. A strong support network and solid community bonds promote our emotional and physical health, and are critical components of a balanced adult life. However, just as with many other aspects of our lives, there seems to be a limit to how large our personal networks can grow.
Back in 1992, a British scholar named Robin Dunbar came up with a hypothetical (假设的) number defining the maximum sum of meaningful human relationships a person can have. The number, which was later named after him, was discovered accidentally while he was studying the cleaning and brushing tendencies — a social behavior —of non-human primates (灵长类动物). Around that time, researchers had discovered that the large brain of these primates was a result of their socially complex societies. The relevance was that the larger the brain, the larger the animal's social group was likely to be. Scientists could then theoretically use an animal's brain size to calculate how many members could make up this group. Dunbar applied this theory to humans, and the resulting number was roughly 150.
Dunbar's Number, however, only refers to the limit of meaningful contacts within our social network. It does not account for other relationships. Human social relationships tend to have numerous layers, and extend outward from the individual in circles with the same centre. The innermost circle contains five people: our loved ones. The next circle holds of our good friends. The third circle is reserved for people we consider friends, and the fourth is where the limit of 150 can be found. Nowadays, with various forms of electronic communication, such as websites for social networking and microblogging people find it very convenient to create online communities to share information, ideas, personal messages, and other contents. Consequently, it is possible for a human to get into the fifth (500acquainitances) circle, an impressive breakthrough that was difficult to achieve in the past.
1. What can be learned about Dunbar's Number in Paragraph 2?A.It is confirmed by the social reality. |
B.It serves as an accurate measurement. |
C.It is backed by a certain theoretical basis. |
D.It establishes links between health and network. |
A. | B. |
C. | D. |
A.Human brains are becoming bigger and bigger. |
B.Social media have contributed to the phenomenon. |
C.Meaningful contacts grow significantly with age. |
D.People are eager to improve every aspect of their lives. |
A.Group Living: A Solution to Health Problems |
B.Dunbar's Theory: A Ladder to Career Success |
C.Social Network: A Soured of Endless Pleasure |
D.Dunbar's Number: A Measure of Social Relations |
5 . Almost everyone gossips. And a new study finds that people spend about 52 minutes per day, on average, talking to someone about others who are not present
But here’s the surprise: Despite the assumption that most gossip is trash talk, the study finds the majority of gossip is nonjudgmental chat.
“People love to talk about others,” says Jeremy Cone, a psychologist at Williams College. “Think about your own conversations with a family member or friend: You talk about everyday things that keep you connected. You share your daughter got her driver’s license or your uncle has a kidney stone. Much of it is just documenting facts.”
Of course, the study also finds that some gossip is negative or mean-spirited. About 15% of the gossip included some type of negative judgement.
But even negative gossip can serve a purpose, as more research has found.
“I think gossiping can be a smart thing to do,” says Elena Martinescu who has studied gossip in the workplace. “It allows people to keep track of what’s going on and form social connection with other people.”
Research has shown that gossip can help build group cohesion (凝聚力) and cooperation. “When you gossip, you can keep track of who is contributing to the group and who's being selfish,” Martinescu explains. “And by sharing this information, you can exclude those group members who are social loafers (游手好闲的人).”
“We also found negative gossip makes people likely to repair the aspects of their behavior that they were criticized for,” Martinescu says.
So, say, for instance, you were criticized for always arriving at work late. Hearing that gossip about yourself may motivate you to want to be on time.
Of course, this isn’t a license to be loose lips or to repeat baseless claims that can damage someone’s reputation unfairly. But confiding (吐露个人隐私) in your friends and colleagues and sharing impressions about another person — even when they’re negative — may be helpful.
1. Why do people often gossip according to Jeremy Cone?A.Because gossip can satisfy their curiosity. | B.Because they can share social information. |
C.Because they want to correct others’ mistakes. | D.Because spreading negative facts is unavoidable. |
A.People can be improved in an all-round way. | B.People can get rid of immoral behavior rapidly. |
C.People can be kept informed of others' privacy. | D.People can change their behavior for the better.. |
A.It is plain to see that people gossip all the time. |
B.Based on the study, the majority of gossip is trash talk. |
C.It’s advisable that we turn a deaf ear to negative gossip. |
D.It’s likely that gossip helps us know more about one's quality. |
A.Gossip is the last thing people could do. | B.Gossip should be advocated by the society. |
C.Gossip may not be as harmful as it sounds. | D.Gossip is the best way to build social bonds. |
6 . Most of us are already aware of the direct effect we have on our friends and family. But we rarely consider that everything we think, feel, do, or say can spread far beyond the people we know. Conversely(相反地), our friends and family serve as conduits(渠道) for us to be influenced by hundreds or even thousands of other people. In a kind of social chain reaction, we can be deeply affected by events we do not witness that happen to people we do not know. As part of a social network, we go beyond ourselves, for good or ill, and become a part of something much larger.
Our connectedness carries with it fundamental implications(影响) for the way we understand the human condition. Social networks have value precisely because they can help us to achieve what we could not achieve on our own. Yet, socialnetwork effects are not always positive. Depression, obesity, financial panic, and violence also spread. Social networks, it turns out, tend to magnify(放大) whatever they are seeded with.
Partly for this reason, social networks are creative. And what these networks create does not belong to any one individual—it is shared by all those in the network. In this way, a social network is like a commonly owned forest: We all stand to benefit from it, but we also must work together to ensure it remains healthy and productive. While social networks are fundamentally and distinctively human, and can be seen everywhere, they should not be taken for granted.
If you are happier or richer or healthier than others, it may have a lot to do with where you happen to be in the network, even if you cannot recognize your own location. And it may have a lot to do with the overall structure of the network, even if you cannot control that structure at all. And in some cases, the process feeds back to the network itself. A person with many friends may become rich and then attract even more friends. This richgetricher dynamic means social networks can dramatically reinforce two different kinds of inequality in our society: situational inequality and positional inequality.
Lawmakers have not yet considered the consequences of positional inequality. Still, understanding the way we are connected is an essential step in creating a more just society and in carrying out public policies affecting everything from public health to the economy. We might be better off vaccinating(接种疫苗) centrally located individuals rather than weak individuals. We might be better off helping interconnected groups of people to avoid criminal behaviour rather than preventing or punishing crimes one at a time.
If we want to understand how society works, we need to fill in the missing links between individuals. We need to understand how interconnections and interactions between people give rise to wholly new aspects of human experience that are not present in the individuals themselves. If we do not understand social networks, we cannot hope to fully understand either ourselves or the world we inhabit.
1. Why is a social network like a commonly owned forest?A.It remains healthy and productive. |
B.What it creates can be enjoyed by everyone in the network. |
C.It is creative and shared by people in the whole society. |
D.It tends to magnify negative things. |
A.whether we are richer depends on the number of friends we make |
B.the wealth we possess has nothing to do with individual continuous efforts |
C.sometimes our success may be largely due to our position in social networks |
D.we won't succeed unless we fully control the overall structure of the network |
A.To introduce the characteristics of social networks. |
B.To urge people to understand how our society works. |
C.To show the significance of understanding social networks. |
D.To explain the possible consequences of ignoring social networks. |
A.We can't be easily affected by strangers. |
B.We have negative effects on other social members. |
C.We are connected and form a social network. |
D.We will not make a difference in a specific group. |
7 . Some people are so rude. Who sends an e-mail or a text message that just says “Thank you”? Who leaves a voice mail message rather than texts you?
Maybe I’m the rude one for not appreciating life’s little courtesies (礼节). But many social norms (规范) just don’t make sense to people drowning in digital communication.
Take the thank-you note. Daniel Post Senning, a coauthor of Emily Post’s Etiquette, asked, “At what point does showing appreciation outweigh the cost?”
This isn’t the first time technology has changed our manners.
In the age of the smart phone, there is no reason to ask once-acceptable questions about: the weather forecast, a business’s phone number, or directions to a house, a restaurant, or an office, which can be easily found on a digital map. But people still ask these things.
How to handle these differing standards? Easy: Consider your audience. Some people, especially older ones, appreciate a thank-you message.
A.Then there is voice mail. |
B.Others, like me, want no reply. |
C.Who asks for a fact easily found on the Internet? |
D.Won’t new technology bring about changes in our daily life? |
E.And when you answer, they respond with a thank-you e-mail. |
F.Face-to-face communication makes comprehension much easier. |
G.When the telephone was invented, people didn’t know how to greet a caller. |
8 . Even with wonderful friends, family and a partner, I don't always want to be surrounded by people. “Table for one? Or will someone else be joining you?” A dinner reservation for one person never fails to raise a few eyebrows. I actively choose to spend time alone when possible. But not everyone has the luxury of choosing to be alone, of course, many are forced into one-on-one time because they have no one.
But for those of us who spend our days surrounded by colleagues in the workplace, our evenings and weekends with family, friends and partners, all the while being constantly bombarded by WhatsApp,social media and email, time to ourselves can be a rare treat. Time to yourself not only gives you the chance to do practical things you don't normally get round to but also the activities your pals don't want to do. In a less real way, spending time alone also allows-or perhaps forces- you to sit with your own thoughts, to think about things that might normally be drowned out by conversation and the noise of companionship. When you're alone you get time to think without purpose.
It is worth noting that I'm a real introvert(性格内向者),so perhaps sitting alone with my thoughts-refilling my energy reserves-might just be indulging personality traits that others don't have. But I believe more people could benefit from it.
Given this constant social conditioning since childhood that we should be surrounded by people , it's no wonder many hesitate to press forward at the idea of spending time alone-a sign we've failed at climbing that social ladder. And if you're an extrovert who gets their energy from other people, this must be even harder. But as someone who has come to love spending time alone, even when there are many wonderful souls in my life I can spend time with, I wish more people would give solo a go.
Reservation for one, please.
1. What can we learn from the first paragraph?A.The author wants to be alone all the time. |
B.The author feels bored with family and friends. |
C.Surrounded by people, the author still feels lonely. |
D.Reserving a table for one will draw disapproving looks. |
A.The benefits of alone time. |
B.The weaknesses of social media. |
C.The definition of being alone. |
D.The ways of spending time alone. |
A.By eating delicious food. |
B.By reflecting on their own thoughts. |
C.By socializing with others. |
D.By reading their favourite books. |
A.quote others' words |
B.answer the waiter's question |
C.excite the readers' appetite |
D.stress the author's determination |
9 . The Internet has opened up a whole new online world for us to meet, chat and go where we’ve never been before.
But just as in face to face communication, there are some rules of behavior that should be followed when on line.
For anything you’re about to send: ask yourself, “Would I say this to the person’s face?” if the answer is no, rewrite and reread.
If someone in the chat room is rude to you, your instinct (本能) is to fire back in the same manner. But try not to do so.
It is not polite to ask others personal questions such as their age, sex and marital status. Unless you know the person very well, and you are both comfortable with sharing personal information, don’t ask such questions.
A.It’s natural that there are some people who speak rudely or make mistakes online. |
B.Repeat the process till you feel sure that you’d feel comfortable saying the words to the person’s face. |
C.Everyone was new to the network once. |
D.The basic rule is simple: treat others in the same way you would want to be treated. |
E.When you send short messages to a person online, you must say something beautiful to hear. |
F.You should either ignore the person, or use your chat software to block their messages. |
G.If you do decide to tell someone about a mistake, point it out politely. |
10 . Concerts should be a fun and enjoyable occasion for everyone attending them,including the musicians.No matter what type of concert one is attending,he is still expected to follow the rules concert etiquette(礼仪).
Classical music concerts are often events where concert etiquette is considered to be very important.One should generally arrive a few minutes before the show starts,so he can be in his seat at the beginning of the first musical performance.If he arrives late,it may be considered rude to walk in and take his seat in the middle of a musical performance.
Rock and heavy metal concert etiquette is very relaxed.
A.This will usually be announced before the concert begins. |
B.Instead,he should wait for one song to end before taking his seat. |
C.Rock concert goers,on the other hand,can usually get a little louder. |
D.People are not usually discouraged from talking at these types of concerts. |
E.In large groups of people like this,it is not unusual to touch others at times. |
F.Concert etiquette for other types of concerts is usually a little more relaxed. |
G.And the concert etiquette can be different,depending on what type of concert it is. |