A.Daughter and son. | B.Father and daughter. |
C.Husband and wife. | D.Mother and son. |
2 . As countless unmade beds and unfinished homework assignments prove, kids need rules. Yet how parents make demands can powerfully influence a child’s social skills, psychologists at the University of Virginia recently found after the conclusion on a study investigating the transition from adolescence to adulthood.
Initially 184 13-year-olds filled out multiple surveys, including one to assess how often their parents employed psychologically controlling strategies, such as threatening to withdraw affection. The kids rated, for example how typical it would be for Dad to suggest that “if I really cared for him, I would not do things that caused him to worry” or for Mom to become “less friendly when I did not see things her way.”
The researchers followed up with the subjects at ages 18 and 21, asking the young adults to bring along a close friend. These pairs were asked to answer questions that were purposefully written to cause a difference of opinion. “We wanted to see whether they could handle a disagreement in a healthy way,” says study leader Barbara Oudekerk, now at the U.S. Department of Justice’s Bureau of Statistics.
In the October issue of Child Development, Oudekerk and her colleagues report that the 13-year-olds who had highly controlling parents floundered in friendly disagreements at age 18. They had difficulty stating their opinions in a confident, reasoned manner in comparison to the kids without controlling parents. And when they did speak up, they often failed to express themselves in warm and productive ways.
The researchers suspect that controlling parents affect their child’s ability to learn how to argue his or her own viewpoint in other relationships. Although parents do need to set boundaries, dominating strategies imply that any disagreement will damage the bond itself. Separate findings suggest that parents who explain the reasons behind their rules and turn disagreements into conversations leave youngsters better prepared for future disagreements.
The consequences of tense or dominating relationships appear to worsen with time. This study also found that social difficulties at 18 predicted even poorer communication abilities at age 21. Psychologist Shmuel Shulman of Bar-llan University in Israel, who did not participate in the work, thinks these conclusions convincingly reveal how relationship patterns “carry forward” into new friendships.
1. What did the researchers from the University of Virginia do in their research?A.They asked kids about how they got along with their parents. |
B.They surveyed some parents about what rules kids needed. |
C.They inquired into what the kids’ friends thought of them. |
D.They traced their subjects for nearly eight years. |
A.struggled with | B.dealt with | C.looked over | D.took over |
A.Shmuel Shulman thinks more evidence is needed for the new research. |
B.Controlling parents’ influence on their kids gets stronger as time goes by. |
C.21-year-olds are more eager to be free of parents’ control than 18-year-olds. |
D.Kids can handle disagreement better if their parents get along well with each other. |
A.Pushy parents could harm their kids’ social skills. |
B.Kids should learn what friendly disagreements are. |
C.Parents; affection matters in terms of kids; personality. |
D.Few parents explain the reasons why they set boundaries. |
3 . We do not stop playing because we are old: we grow old because we stop playing. That’s what I learnt from my new and special friend. On the first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t know.
I looked around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady with a smile. She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eight-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” She gave me a giant squeeze. “Why are you in college at such a young innocent age?” I asked jokingly. “I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she replied. After class we walked to the Students Union building and shared a chocolate milkshake there. We became instant friends.
Every day of the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends whenever she went. At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football dinner. I’ll never forget what she taught us.
“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. Any body can grow old. That doesn’t take any talent of ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunities in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”
She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Song of Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics(歌词)and live them out in our daily life. At the year’s end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
1. What happened to the author on the first day of school?A.He joined the Student Union. | B.He got to know an old professor. |
C.He got to know an old lady by chance. | D.He had to share a milkshake with others. |
A.Rose was silent and skilled. | B.Rose was talented and hardworking. |
C.Rose was innocent and generous. | D.Rose was courageous and her words were inspiring |
A.Rome was not built in a day. | B.One is never too old to learn. |
C.It is no use crying over split milk. | D.Great minds think alike. |
4 . My son, Toby, 17 months old, has just tested positive for COVID-19. He is the first in our household to test positive, and all the information provided for people in this situation is designed for adults who are(or should be) concerned about protecting their families. Toby, obviously, cannot comprehend such advice. He cannot keep a distance from everybody else, or eat and wash in a separate room. We called 911, and the medic we spoke to agreed that the official guidance didn’t really apply to our situation.
Indeed. Not much we can do. So, here we are, trapped within our four walls with a little baby infected with COVID-19, who continues to climb on us, spit in our faces, love us and hug us. It seems inevitable that we, and our elder son, are going to get COVID now. Not much we can do.
My first reaction, after absorbing his diagnosis, was to cook sausages. I didn’t even know that was my comfort food of choice. Perhaps an afternoon crisis would have caused a different cooking desire? Anyway, a full stomach helped me take stock. Yes, it may now be inevitable that we’re going to contract the very virus we’ve spent a year avoiding, but as long as we don’t contract it at the same time, then, hopefully, one other of us will be available to look after our kids (thus answering my five-year-old’s most pressing concern: “…but who will make the pudding?”).
So, to minimise transmission, we’ve opened all the windows. And we’ve decided to wear face coverings whenever we are with Toby. This decision has been insignificant to him—I imagine he literally cannot remember life before masks—but for me, it’s distressing. I’ve become accustomed to wearing masks in supermarkets and coffee shops, of course, but to actually walk around with half my face covered in my own house is quite another matter—it is telling me that my home has been infected, That it’s no longer a safe space.
And so it was, when I sat down to write this column, that I ended up writing about COVID, which is probably the last thing you wanted to read. Sorry about that. COVID has coloured my thoughts today, even though I know that my wife and children will be fine, and that really we should just be grateful we haven’t passed it on to my grandmother.
I predict there will be more sausages in the morning.
1. By repeating the sentence “Not much we can do” in paragraph 2, the writer implies that ________.A.he feels inspired | B.he is really helpless |
C.he wants professional support | D.he needs to keep a distance from Toby |
A.Appetite. | B.Concern. | C.Relief. | D.Sadness. |
A.It discourages him from writing about COVID. |
B.It brings him back to the days before COVID-19 |
C.It makes him feel at a loss for how to help his son. |
D.It is a reminder of what is happening to his family. |
A.The diagnosis leaves the writer’s family in a tough spot. |
B.Being infected with COVID-19 leaves Toby in a bad mood. |
C.The writer is sure that his other kids won’t contract the virus. |
D.Sausages have long been considered by many to be comfort food |
A.He hasn’t had a chance to meet Kathy yet. |
B.Kathy had already told him the news. |
C.He didn’t know that Kathy was being moved. |
D.His new office will be located in New York. |
6 . The Advice Gap
Advice My Parents Gave Me: Go to college and major in what you love.Advice I Will Give My Kids: Go to college only if you’ll major in science, engineering, or money. It’s a depressing job market, and majoring in English literature or anything with the word English in it has been useless since 1910s.
My Parents: Never show up to a party empty-handed.
Me: Never show up to a party. Send a text to the host twenty minutes before the party starts to say that you’re “sooooooo sorry” to cancel but your stomach is feeling “weird.”
My Parents: To find a job, walk into the offices of ABC News’s “This Week with George Stephanopoulos” and ask for one.
Me: Apply to jobs via LinkedIn, Zip-Recruiter, or your connections. Write a cover letter and attach your résumé, then manually enter the same information through the company’s portal, which looks as though it were designed in Microsoft Paint. Do this twenty times a day for two years, and you’re bound to make it to a third round of phone interviews before getting ghosted.
My Parents: Learn the difference between a 401(k) (an employer-sponsored defined-contribution pension account) and a Roth I.R.A. (a special retirement account) so that you can start investing early.
Me: Learn the difference between a 401(k) and a Roth I.R.A. so that you can explain it to me.
My Parents: Never wait to do your taxes.
Me: If you wait long enough to do your taxes, there might be a global crisis that forces the federal government to extend the deadline: Then you can wait some more and do them right before the new deadline.
My Parents: Work hard so you can save for retirement.
Me: Retirement is something you’ll read about in your history books under the tile “Abstract Ideas.”
My Parents: When we’re gone, look after your siblings and never fight with them over money!
Me: When I’m gone, clear my browser history. Don’t quarrel with your siblings over who gets my monthly ten-cent payments from Medium (an American online publishing platform).1. Why do you think the author has written this passage?
A.To present a better guide for young people today. |
B.To show his annoyance with his parents’ advice. |
C.To exhibit his capability of living a worthy life. |
D.To demonstrate the contemporary generation gap. |
A.Science majors should be favored over those related to English in college. |
B.Job seekers should try various means and prepare for gloomy prospects. |
C.You should check your stomach first before texting to the host of a party. |
D.Siblings shouldn’t fight with each other but protect their gone parents’ privacy. |
A.saving for retirement contributes to a better grasp of history books about abstract ideas |
B.the younger generation may inherit the legacy of their parents’ payment bills in the future |
C.the knowledge about a 401(k) and a Roth I.R.A is quite significant for early investment |
D.doing taxes is absolutely urgent, even allowing for unpredictable economic conditions |
7 . A screen door (纱门) allows for an open view while at the same time affording a degree of privacy.
For the happy student adjusting well at school, calls to home can be infrequent. This is not necessarily a cause for parents to worry. While parents are naturally
For the student who is not adjusting well at school, calls to home will probably be made more
For the student away at school, unhappiness can be lonely and frightening and in some cases, it can lead to depression and illness. There is a sense of
A.Relatively | B.Contrarily | C.Typically | D.Similarly |
A.sacrifice | B.privacy | C.appreciation | D.communication |
A.sensitive | B.confident | C.casual | D.modest |
A.uninformed | B.curious | C.happy | D.sensible |
A.accustomed | B.married | C.contributed | D.appealed |
A.adding | B.referring | C.adjusting | D.leading |
A.strange | B.increasing | C.awakened | D.normal |
A.formally | B.frequently | C.sincerely | D.patiently |
A.disappointing | B.recovering | C.challenging | D.training |
A.damaging | B.disturbing | C.demanding | D.exhausting |
A.protectors | B.reminders | C.inspectors | D.individuals |
A.maintain | B.establish | C.restore | D.cut |
A.relief | B.responsibility | C.achievement | D.embarrassment |
A.get bored with | B.get upset with | C.be ignorant of | D.be honest with |
A.opportunity | B.uncertainty | C.unhappiness | D.nervousness |
A.She is a chef. | B.She is a nurse assistant. |
C.She is a medical transcriptionist. | D.She is a housewife. |
A.Listening to the conversation between the doctor and patients. |
B.Writing down the medical report on the computer. |
C.Finding the problems in the medical treatment. |
D.Helping the doctor to take care of patients. |
A.She gets paid every two weeks. |
B.She can explain it to her son. |
C.She can learn from different medical cases. |
D.She can balance work with domestic duties. |
A.He regards the job meaningless and looks down upon it. |
B.He insists that it should be done by the doctor himself. |
C.He is proud of his mother and understands her choice. |
D.He feels sorry that it is not paid as well as his father’s job. |
9 . MY GARDEN IS MY REFUGE; I find reflective isolation in it. I have seven children, so our house is a scene of lively confusion. For a long time, I guarded this place of peace and quiet. When the children followed me into the garden, I would hand out chores. “Here: you weed the beans, you water the onions.” Soon they would be hot or their backs would hurt from bending over, and they would leave me to myself.
Then one day, I was trying to prepare the soil, and I honestly wasn’t enjoying my time of peace and loneliness. My 13-year-old son, Josiah, picked up a spare spade and began helping. Working as a team, we had the pea patch dug up and fertilized in no time at all. I thanked Josiah, realizing that l had enjoyed his company.
The same thing happened with picking up rocks and planting the seeds —one or two of the children would appear to watch and then participate. Each time, I would feel surprised to find the work was lighter for their help, and their laughter made time pass faster. So I stopped resenting their company and instead I began to share my gardening secrets. As spring became summer and the real work began, I expected the children to disappear, but no, there they were, watering, pulling weeds and checking for insects.
One day I slipped out by myself to the garden, feeling a little bit guilty. I had a suspicion that the sugar snap peas were ripe, and I wanted a taste. As I walked along the row, a little voice piped up behind me. “What are you eating, Mama?”
Abby’s big blue eyes sparkled as I showed her how to pull the strings off and pop (剥出) the peas into her mouth. She just loved how tasty they were. Then my sweet seven-year-old girl put me to shame. “Mama, I’ve got to pick a bunch. Won’t the others love them? I can’t wait to share.”
I realized how selfish I had been. I’d tried to keep the joys of gardening to myself, and here was a child who couldn’t wait to share with her brothers and sisters. I held back tears and said, “Sure, honey, let’s pick some and I’ll show you how to prepare them. We’ll make the most wonderful supper.”
1. Why did the writer ask her children to do chores whenever they were in the garden?A.She didn’t want to do all the work on her own. |
B.She intended to show the hard labor of gardening. |
C.She didn’t want them to get hurt or get too tired. |
D.She was determined to keep the garden to herself. |
① loud ② lively ③ guilty ④ loving ⑤ strong
A.①②③④ | B.①②④ | C.①②③ | D.④⑤ |
A.dislike | B.expect | C.keep | D.sacrifice |
A.The best way to communicate with children is by working together. |
B.The golden rule of gardening is that many hands make light work. |
C.Everything feels better when shared with your family or your friend. |
D.Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible. |
10 . Growing Up in the Library
I grew up in libraries, or at least it feels that way. I was raised in the suburbs of Cleveland, just a few blocks from the brick-faced Bertram Woods branch of the Shaker Heights Public Library system. I went there several times a week with my mother. She and I would walk in together, but as soon as we passed through the door, we each headed towards our favorite sections. The library might have been the first place I was ever given autonomy.
Even when I was maybe four or five years old, I was allowed to head off on my own. Then, after a while, my mother and I would reunite at the checkout counter with our finds. Together we'd wait as the librarian pulled out the date card and stamped it with the checkout machine — that giant fist thumping the card with a loud chunk-chunk, printing a crooked due date underneath a score of previous crooked due dates that belonged to other people, other times.
Those visits were dreamy, frictionless (没有摩擦的) periods that held the promise of leaving me richer than I'd arrived. It wasn't like going to a store with my mom, which guaranteed a tug-of-war between what I wanted and what my mother was willing to buy me; in the library, I could have anything I wanted.
After we had finished checking out the books, I loved being in the car and having all the books we'd gotten stacked on my lap, pressing me under their solid, warm weight, their Mylar covers sticking a bit to my thighs. It was such a thrill leaving a place with things you hadn't paid for; such a thrill expecting the new books we would read. On the ride home, my mother and I talked about the order in which we were going to read our books, a serious conversation in which we planned how to pace ourselves through this charmed period of grace until the books were due.
When I was older, I usually walked to the library by myself, lugging back as many books as I could carry. Occasionally, I did go with my mother, and the trip would be as engaging as it had been when I was small. Even when I was in my last year of high school and could drive myself to the library, my mother and I still went together every now and then, and the trip unfolded exactly as it had when I was a child, with all the same beats and pauses and comments and daydreaming, the same perfect rhythm we'd followed so many times before. After my mother passed away two years ago, I plunged into a deep shadow of grief for a long time. When I miss my mother these days, I like to picture us in the car together, going for one more magnificent trip to Bertram Woods, during which we talked, laughed — as if she were still in my company, giving me inexhaustible strength.
1. In this passage, the word “autonomy” (paragraph 1) is closest in meaning to “________”.A.vitality | B.freedom | C.inspiration | D.entitlement |
A.they would plan to read their newly-borrowed books with feverish enthusiasm |
B.they would have a serious conversation about which book attracted them the most |
C.they would be anxious to recommend to each other the books they had borrowed |
D.they would agree on buying the books they had just borrowed if they enjoyed them |
A.Grieved. | B.Shocked. | C.Miserable. | D.Comforted. |
A.One specific memory of a childhood trip to the library. |
B.The fond childhood memories of her mother taking good care of her. |
C.How her affection for going to the library has endured into her own motherhood. |
D.Why her own child made up their mind to become a librarian after finishing college. |