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Li Hua
2 . “How are you?” These are the three most useless words in the world of communication. The person asking doesn’t really want to know, and the person responding doesn’t tell the truth.
But the key to making the most out of small talk, according to Harvard researchers, is, to simply ask the other person follow-up questions. In a series of experiments, researchers analyzed more than 300 online conversations and found that those who were asked more meaningful follow-up questions (a.k.a. questions that aren’t “how are you?” or “what do you do?”), found the other person much more likable.
So how do you move from tongue-tied to being an interesting person? It depends on questions you start with, and then you can focus on the stream of follow-up questions.
Open your eyes before you open your mouth. Find something to focus on in your surroundings, like the piece of art on the wall, a family picture on their desk, a race car helmet, scattered coins from various countries and so on. There’s bound to be something that will spark small talk and help lead the conversation into unique follow-up questions.
Share some news (that actually happened).
If you have “news”, share it: “I adopted a pet over the weekend” or “My 6-year-old rode a bike for the first time yesterday”. Believe it or not, most people actually do want to know more about others, especially if they both work at the same company.
If you’re new to a company and leading a team, for example, start your first meeting by going around the room and asking each person to say one interesting thing that recently happened in their lives.
It’s not just what you say.
No matter what or how much you say, your tone of voice, facial expression and eye contact will broadcast so much more. In person, look at the other person when you speak, not at the conference table or the wall.
A.Avoid any small talk in our daily life. |
B.Be in the moment and observe your surroundings. |
C.It will also contribute to your success in your work. |
D.On the phone, smile — it will make your voice sound warmer. |
E.What follows is a meaningless exchange with zero connection. |
F.Here are some strategies on having a meaningful conversation. |
G.Due to the momentary sharing, you’ve allowed everyone to feel more personally and genuinely connected with each other. |
3 . Meeting people is the first step to make friends.
Make small talk even if you don’t feel like it
Small talk can make people feel false and meaningless.
When you talk to someone new and realize that you have similar interests, the conversation usually goes from stiff (生硬的) to fun and interesting. Therefore, make it a habit to find out if you have any mutual interests or something in common. You can do this by mentioning things that interest you and seeing how they answer.
Don’t write people off until you know them
Don’t judge people too quickly. Try not to think that they are shallow (肤浅的), boring, or that you have nothing to talk about. If everyone seems uninterested, it might be because you have been in small talk.
Make people like being around you
When you try to make people like you, it will become easier for you to make friends.
A.But it does have a purpose. |
B.Help people get to know you. |
C.Being used to talking to people is important. |
D.Figure out what you might have in common. |
E.If you only make small talk, everyone will sound shallow. |
F.But how do you actually become friends with someone? |
G.When you make sure that people like being around you, they will like you. |
4 . How To Stop Bein g A People Pleaser
As a recovering people pleaser, I spent much of my life keeping others happy. Breaking this habit meant stepping on a few toes. However, I’ve become a happier person as a result. Here are some tips I used to stop being a people pleaser.
Identify your priorities. Take a moment to think about why you are trying to learn how to stop being a people pleaser.
Just say “no”. One reason why people pleasers say “yes” to everything is that they fear disappointing others.
Accept yourself. Many people pleasers are insecure about who they are.
Remember that you cannot please everyone. No matter what you do there will always be someone who is unhappy with your choices.
A.Learn to set healthy boundaries. |
B.Don’t mix up your boundaries with others’. |
C.Who are the people that you feel the need to please? |
D.Spend some time learning to love yourself for who you are. |
E.So why bother trying to please everyone if it isn’t possible? |
F.But saying “no” is the best way to take care of your own needs. |
G.That is why the more you seek security, the less of it you have. |
5 . As humans, we’re meant to be social creatures. Being socially connected is key to our mental and emotional health.
People aren’t thinking about you — at least not to the degree that you think.
People are much more tolerant than you think. In your mind, the very idea of doing or saying something embarrassing in public is frightening. You’re sure that everyone will judge you. But in reality, it’s very unlikely that people are going to make a big deal over a social faux pas (失礼).
A.But that’s not the case. |
B.We should learn to self-evaluate (自我评估) our social awkwardness. |
C.Everyone makes mistakes; it’s part of being human. |
D.Yet many of us are shy and socially introverted (内向的). |
E.Most people are caught up in their own lives and concerns. |
F.Many other people feel just as awkward and nervous as you do. |
G.Everyone has done it at some point so most will just ignore it and move on. |
6 . Being a social butterfly just might change your brain: In people with a large network of friends and excellent social skills, certain brain regions are bigger and
The research suggests a
To investigate these brain
The researchers also tested whether the size of a person’s social network was connected with
The researchers couldn’t say whether social interaction
A.better | B.more directly | C.less closely | D.worse |
A.conflict | B.similarity | C.link | D.contrast |
A.tell | B.show | C.ask | D.find |
A.intentions | B.preferences | C.behaviors | D.habits |
A.structures | B.highlights | C.differences | D.origins |
A.academic difficulties | B.social interactions | C.personal problems | D.career advances |
A.removed | B.adapted | C.replaced | D.enlarged |
A.joyful | B.familiar | C.inspirational | D.distinct |
A.Networked | B.Remote | C.Respective | D.Functional |
A.positions | B.changes | C.roles | D.compositions |
A.However | B.Again | C.Therefore | D.Rather |
A.urban | B.smooth | C.twisty | D.country |
A.minimized | B.drove | C.eliminated | D.demonstrated |
A.assumed | B.rejected | C.concluded | D.announced |
A.causality | B.feasibility | C.productivity | D.effectiveness |
7 . In our lives, we deal with different people every day. Some of them are easy to get along with, while others can be rather challenging. When it comes to the latter (后者), most people would advise you to simply stay away from them. But what if you can’t? What if you need to work with them or even depend on them for certain tasks?
Recent studies have shown that people with difficult personalities often perform better than others in stressful environments. They are typically more determined and better at handling pressure. If you have to deal with such a person, here are a few tips for you.
Firstly, you need to be realistic about the challenges that may happen when working with a person of this nature. They may often be aggressive (好斗的), stubborn, and indifferent (漠不关心) to others’ feelings. However, it is important to remember that their behavior is not personal. They are not purposely trying to make your life difficult. It is simply a product of their personality.
Secondly, you need to set clear expectations and boundaries. Let them know what is expected of them and what you expect in return. They may resist (抵抗) in the beginning, but over time, they will appreciate the clarity and foreseeability of the situation.
Finally, while it may be challenging at times, try to focus on what they are good at. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. If someone is good at what they do, appreciate their efforts and contributions, even if they are difficult to deal with. This will help create a positive atmosphere, making the task at hand easier.
1. What do most people advise others to do when dealing with challenging individuals?A.Stay away from them. | B.Learn to tolerate them. |
C.Get along with them. | D.Depend on them for support. |
A.They are easygoing and caring. | B.They are independent and self-centered. |
C.They are determined and pressure-resistant. | D.They are creative and demanding. |
A.Appreciate their behavior. | B.Ignore their resistance. |
C.Set expectations for them. | D.Forget their past mistakes. |
A.Set unrealistic goals for them. | B.Overlook their negative qualities. |
C.Accept their challenging behavior. | D.Understand and respect them. |
8 . I was never very neat, while my roommate Kate was extremely organized. Each of her objects had its place, but mine always hid somewhere. She even labeled (贴标签) everything. I always looked for everything. Over time, Kate got neater and I got messier. She would push my dirty clothing over, and I would lay my books on her tidy desk. We both got tired of each other.
War broke out one evening. Kate came into the room. Soon, I heard her screaming, “Take your shoes away! Why under my bed!” Deafened, I saw my shoes flying at me. I jumped to my feet and started yelling. She yelled back louder.
The room was filled with anger. We could not have stayed together for a single minute but for a phone call. Kate answered it. From her end of the conversation, I could tell right away her grandma was seriously ill. When she hung up, she quickly crawled (爬) under her covers, sobbing. Obviously, that was something she should not go through alone. All of a sudden, a warm feeling of sympathy rose up in my heart.
Slowly, I collected the pencils, took back the books, made my bed, cleaned the socks and swept the floor, even on her side. I got so into my work that I even didn’t notice Kate had sat up. She was watching, her tears dried and her expression one of disbelief. Then, she reached out her hands to grasp mine. I looked up into her eyes. She smiled at me, “Thanks.”
Kate and I stayed roommates for the rest of the year. We didn’t always agree, but we learned the key to living together: giving in, cleaning up and holding on.
1. The author tidied up the room most probably because ________.A.she was scared by Kate’s anger | B.she hated herself for being so messy |
C.she wanted to show her care | D.she was asked by Kate to do so |
A.By analyzing causes. | B.By showing differences. |
C.By describing a process. | D.By following time order. |
A.The benefit of being organized. |
B.The daily routine in a dormitory. |
C.The effort into developing friendships. |
D.The sharing of learning to be roommates. |
9 . How to Talk to Strangers
We are often taught at a very young age not to talk to strangers. However, we grow up and have to talk to strangers all day long.
First of all, it is very important to have a warm approach if you want to avoid a cold communication. So when you are approaching a stranger for the first time next time, send off friendly signals (信号), such as smiling.
Now that you have approached with friendly and warm signals, what do you say to a stranger?
After or during your opening line, give out your hand for a nice solid handshake. But what if you don’t like shaking hands? Too bad, I advise you to step up and shake the other person’s hand anyway. Why? Because handshakes are so important.
My final tip for you is to use food and drink as an opener if you can. Sitting at the bar is an easy way to make conversation with the person next to you.
A.Now it’s time to introduce yourself. |
B.Give something as a gift to the stranger at the first time. |
C.Having a small talk while waiting to be seated is very simple. |
D.Opening lines tend to make people very nervous, but don’t worry. |
E.When discussing a problem you both meet, you will better understand each other. |
F.Here are some tips for you to develop a quick and good relationship with strangers. |
G.The moment your skin touches someone else’s skin, both of you will feel more connected. |
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