1 . It’s never easy to say no, especially when we’re invited somewhere by someone close to us.
Put off your response. Avoid immediately responding to a request that you believe you will turn down. A quick “No” will deprive (剥夺)you of time to come up with a kind refusal. Instead, a simple “Let me check my calendar and get back to you” will often work.
Check your calendar for conflicts. If you are lucky, you may discover a scheduling conflict that enables you to honestly decline due to the previous promise.
Remember to respond.
A.Avoid admitting your schedule is open. |
B.Identify the exact reason why you want to decline. |
C.However, the person may ask you for another time. |
D.This gives you time to create a response in your head. |
E.But often, we find ourselves saying yes and later regretting it. |
F.Keep these in mind if the other party asks why you are declining. |
G.Forgetting a request may hurt people or make you an impolite person. |
2 . It’s a great feeling when someone gives you a compliment (赞美), isn’t it?
When someone does an activity or a task particularly well, let him/her know about it by saying “You did a great job!”
When you’ve bought something new, it feels great when other people are excited about it. For example, if you take out your new mobile phone and a colleague says, “What a cool phone!”, it makes you feel like you made the right decision to buy it.
Compliment someone on their personalities and you'll make a new friend. For example, if you like how happy a coworker is, you can tell him/her, “You are always so happy. It makes my day better.”
A.It’s a useful way to start a conversation, too. |
B.Everyone likes compliments about their appearance. |
C.Be careful with compliments about appearance, though. |
D.So, try giving someone a compliment and see their reaction. |
E.Return the favor by complimenting others on nice things they own. |
F.To make the compliment more meaningful, make it more specific. |
G.Use compliments like this for any quality that you appreciate in a person. |
3 . Have you ever been in mid-conversation with someone, when you look over and find them standing in the same position as you or holding the same facial expression? It may seem like they have consciously copied you, but it is much more likely that it is the chameleon (变色龙) effect at play.
The chameleon effect is the unconscious imitation of another person’s gestures or behavior. Just as a chameleon attempts to match any environment’s colors, people acquire the behavior of others to bring them closer together and help make their interactions smooth.
The chameleon effect was confirmed in an experiment by psychologists John Bargh and Tanya Chartrand in 1999. The part of their experiment included 78 people, who each spoke with an experimenter. During the test, Bargh and Chartrand studied whether participants would copy the actions of someone they hadn’t met before, like moving the foot and touching the face. The second part measured the impact that copying someone has on the person being imitated.
In the first stage, participants increased their face touching by 20% and their foot movement by 50% while in conversation about a photograph with the experimenter. The individuals weren’t aware of what they were being studied for, and the photograph was used to catch their attention to insure unconscious acts. The second stage involved half of the participants being copied, and then rating the likability of the experimenter. The results, showed that those who were imitated scored the experimenter higher. It has shown that when someone copies our behavior, we develop more positive feelings about them. These interactions could be a person unconsciously willing to be liked, and forming a moment of connection.
The main reasons behind humans’ imitation are positive. However, when people carry this chameleon effect to the extreme, they can lose their sense of self. Those who change their entire personalities in different groups often go undetected. But more common signs of the chameleon effect are easier to notice. Next time you are in a social gathering, take a look around and you might just see some chameleons for yourself.
1. Why do people imitate others’ behavior?A.To show admiration for others. | B.To adapt to the surroundings. |
C.To establish a connection with others. | D.To attract others’ attention. |
A.By directing their attention to a photo. | B.By keeping an eye on their actions. |
C.By telling them the purpose of the study. | D.By evaluating the impacts of imitation. |
A.People tend to like those who imitate their behavior. |
B.Too much of the chameleon effect can be beneficial. |
C.People imitating others are not easy to be detected. |
D.The copied movements help people to feel relaxed. |
A.Students adopt teachers’ accents for fun after class. |
B.People change their habits to please others on purpose. |
C.A comedian copies a celebrity vividly on stage. |
D.A husband and his wife share similar behaviors over time. |
4 . Our neighbors had a loud party last night. We weren’t
What
And it really worked in their favor. My husband and I were so friendly that even when the event went past the
It takes such little effort to make people feel that they
A.located | B.explored | C.challenged | D.invited |
A.struggled | B.impressed | C.ashamed | D.embarrassed |
A.later | B.closer | C.earlier | D.further |
A.exciting | B.frightening | C.confusing | D.amazing |
A.phone number | B.room number | C.account number | D.identification number |
A.anxiously | B.politely | C.regularly | D.intelligently |
A.imagination | B.consideration | C.assumption | D.comment |
A.appointed | B.reliable | C.informal | D.respectful |
A.come across | B.turn up | C.figure out | D.get through |
A.respond | B.refer | C.add | D.lead |
A.prefer | B.succeed | C.matter | D.access |
A.sleep | B.maintain | C.travel | D.relax |
A.noticed | B.delivered | C.rated | D.proved |
A.smile | B.noise | C.passion | D.trouble |
A.significance | B.apology | C.communication | D.inspiration |
1. What is the relationship between the speakers?
A.Colleagues. |
B.Interviewer and interviewee. |
C.Manager and customer. |
A.Two. | B.Four. | C.Six. |
A.What the job requirements are. |
B.Where the interview will be held. |
C.Whether the equipment is ready. |
6 . For 85 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has tracked an original group of 724 men and more than 1,300 of their male and female descendants (后代) over three generations, asking thousands of questions and taking hundreds of measurements to find out what really keeps people healthy and happy.
Through all the years of studying these lives, one crucial factor stands out for the consistency and power of its bond to physical health, mental health and longevity: good relationships.
In 2008, researchers telephoned the wives and husbands of Harvard Study couples in their 80s every night for eight nights. Researchers spoke to each partner separately and asked them a series of questions about their days.
On days when these men and women spent more time in the company of others, they were happier. Like most older people, those in the Harvard Study experienced day-to-day rises and falls in their levels of physical pain and health difficulties. But researchers found that the people who were in more satisfying relationships were cushioned (缓冲) somewhat from these ups and downs of mood—their happiness did not decline as much on the days when they had more pain. Simply put, their happy marriages seemed to have a protective effect.
Elizabeth Gillespie, a therapist of couples, stated that although most of us found that our experience of relationships might be hard, and at times, impossible, it is essential to our well-being.
Today we live in much more complicated environments, so meeting our social needs presents different challenges. We might be sitting on a gold mine of vitality that we are not paying attention to, because it is hidden by the shiny appeal of smartphones or pushed to the side by work demands.
1. What’s the purpose of the Harvard Study of Adult Development?A.To study their lives over three generations. |
B.To reveal the secret to health and well-being. |
C.To track the descendants of an original group. |
D.To study the relationship between health and happiness. |
A.By working with other researchers. |
B.By tracking specific groups of people. |
C.By helping participants with social difficulties. |
D.By comparing the results from different people. |
A.To provide evidence for the bond of health and longevity. |
B.To introduce the concept of physical pain and health difficulties. |
C.To show the negative impact of unhappy marriages on older people’s mood. |
D.To support the positive impact of satisfying relationships on people’s lives. |
A.Having good social connections. |
B.Declining pains and difficulties. |
C.Overcoming ups and downs of mood. |
D.Experiencing rises and falls of physical health. |
7 . When you set a foot outside of your door to drop trash, go to a social event or go for a walk, thoughts like “I hope I don’t see anyone I know” or “please don’t talk to me” may run through your mind. I’ve also said such things to myself. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is to talk with someone, especially someone new.
Why do we go out of our ways to avoid people? Do we think meeting new people is a waste of time? Or are we just lazy, thinking that meeting someone new really is a trouble?
Communication is the key to life. We have been told that many times. Take the past generations, like our parents, for example. They seem to take full advantage of that whole “communication” idea because they grew up talking face to face while Generation-Y grew up staring at screens. We spend hours of our days sitting on Facebook. We send messages to our friends and think about all of the things we want to say to certain people that we don’t have the courage to do in reality.
Nowadays, we are so caught up in our little circle of friends—our comfort zone. We love it that they laugh at our jokes, understand our feelings and can read our minds. Most importantly, they know when we want to be alone. They just get us.
Holding a conversation with someone new means agreeing with things that you don’t really believe and being someone you think they want you to be—it is, as I said before, a trouble. It takes up so much energy, and at some point or another, it is too tiring.
But meeting new people is important. Life is too short, so meet all the people you can meet, make the effort to go out and laugh. Remember, every “hello” leads to a smile—and a smile is worth a lot.
1. What do we learn about the author?A.He likes to meet someone new. | B.He feels stressed out lately. |
C.He’s active in attending social events. | D.He used to be afraid of talking to others. |
A.They rely on the Internet to socialize. | B.They are less confident in themselves. |
C.They have difficulty in communicating. | D.They are unwilling to make new friends. |
A.They think it troublesome. | B.They are busy with their study. |
C.They fear to disappoint their friends. | D.They want to do meaningful work. |
A.To stress the importance of friends. |
B.To give tips on how to meet new people. |
C.To encourage people to meet new people. |
D.To display the disadvantages of Generation-Y. |
8 . It is so easy to just go home and shut your door without getting to know your neighbors. But being an active neighbor will turn your living place into a kinder and more caring neighborhood.
Then get out of your comfort zone and make efforts to know more about your neighbors.
Another way to show your neighbors that you care is by making your small acts of kindness a regular practice. This can be cleaning up the litter or even cleaning up after the pets have made a mess on your block.
Remind yourself that being connected feels good and boosts your mood in the long run. If you take the first step, your small acts of kindness can encourage others to pay that kindness forward.
A.Or if you have an amazing garden |
B.Remember, every small gesture counts |
C.If you want to be respected and cared by your neighbors |
D.For example, ask for their names and learn what they do for work |
E.Your attitudes towards your friends also set an example for your kids |
F.It doesn’t take a lot of money or a generous gesture to be an active neighbor |
G.In the end, more and more people in the neighborhood will feel much better |
9 . Apologizing for a mistake might seem difficult, but it will help you repair and improve your relationships with others after that offense (冒犯).
Acknowledge the offense. This is an essential element of a good apology.
Express regret.
Tell them how you’ll change. Let them know how you’ll change and what you’d do to make that possible. For instance, if you’ve been late once again, instead of just apologizing, share how you’d keep an early alarm to be on time!
A.Provide a proper explanation. |
B.Express your intention clearly. |
C.But many apologies don’t do this enough. |
D.When you hurt someone, it’s natural to feel shame or regret. |
E.A true apology is one where you promise it won’t be repeated again. |
F.This might show that you aren’t taking full ownership for what happened. |
G.This will enable you to know what means the most to the offended person. |
10 . We’ve all been in a position where life gets busy, schedules are difficult to coordinate and connecting with friends feels harder than ever. With some friendships, we may lose touch and want to reconnect. However,the more time that passes, the more uncertain it can feel if they want to hear from us.
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology says it’s time to reach out. Researchers found numerous benefits when reaching out to friends and old acquaintances. Especially if you’re unsure of how well they’ll receive hearing from you. The study, led by Dr Peggy Liu, is called The Surprise of Reaching Out: Appreciated More Than We Think. In the study, researchers posed the question: Do people accurately understand how much other people value being reached out to by someone in their social circle? To answer this question, researchers carried out 13 experiments with more than 5,900 participants. In the experiments, researchers measured how much people estimated their friends or acquaintances would appreciate them reaching out versus how much those on the receiving end did appreciate it. They also examined different forms of communication-phone calls, texts, emails, notes or even small gifts—and their impact.
Over the series of experiments, experts discovered a similar trend: those reaching out significantly underestimated how much their friends would appreciate hearing from them. Plus, the more unexpected the communication was, the more the friend on the receiving end appreciated it. “People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others,” the researchers wrote.
In fact, what made these moments of reaching out so impactful was the effort they showed—no matter the form of communication. Dr Amie Gordon, a social psychologist at the University of Michigan, emphasises the importance of small moments and making efforts in relationships in a Psychology Today article. “In a busy life, these little moments might feel just like that—little moments that don’t really matter ... But each moment we ignore is a missed opportunity to connect and build up an emotional bank of positive moments.”
The science is clear—people appreciate the effort we put into our friendships. And we greatly underestimate it. One phenomenon that may explain why those who reached out underestimated their positive impact is because of “the liking gap”. Psychologist Terri Apter writes in Psychology Today that the liking gap is a tendency to “how we often underestimate other’s responses to us”, and the reality that other people like us more than we may think.
1. In writing Paragraph 1, the author aims to ______.A.state some disturbing problems |
B.present the background of the following topic |
C.introduce the theme of his argument |
D.make comparisons between different opinions |
A.The way of communication matters in reconnecting with friends. |
B.An unexpected calling to an acquaintance will not be highly valued. |
C.People tend to appreciate hearing from friends more than reaching out to them. |
D.We are more well-liked and well-received than we expect in our friendships. |
A.To present the discovery of the study. |
B.To support the findings theoretically. |
C.To explain the causes of losing friendships. |
D.To make suggestions about the topic. |
A.Estimate Friendships in a Scientific Way |
B.Appreciate Being Reached Out to by friends |
C.Remove the Misunderstanding between Friends |
D.Don’t Hesitate to Reconnect with Your Old Friends |