1 . There’s a song by the great Jamaican singer Bob Marley called So Much Trouble In the World. Marley understood that part of the reason why there are so many problems in the world is the lack of tolerance between people. The UN understands this too— that’s why it made Nov16th “International Day for Tolerance”.

But first of all, what is tolerance? According to French philosopher Voltaire, tolerance is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty (脆弱)and error; let us pardon each other’s fool— that is the first law of nature.”

Very often, people don’t realize that they’re intolerant. This is because intolerance has a lot to do with ignorance. For example, the UN’s campaign is in part about the treatment of females by males. But often, the behavior of men toward women is intolerant because men don’t put themselves in the shoes of women.

It’s worth thinking a little about the words “tolerance” and “intolerance”. Are they the best words to describe the evils of which we’re speaking here? To agree to be “tolerant” of someone isn’t necessarily a very respectful thing. When someone is tolerated, it implies that there’s something wrong with them.

Still, what Voltaire said stands: We humans are not perfect and this weakness is something that we all share. That’s the reason we should be tolerant. It’s a little like generosity. We can give things to another person, and we can also give our forgiveness.

4 . Everyone can benefit from better communication.     1    . Of course, we know that isn’t true, but this shouldn’t stop you improving you communication skills. Here are a few tips to help you become a better communicator.

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Verbal language is only one aspect of the communication—body language is another aspect. If you ever wanted to know how to tell if someone is lying, body language is the answer. Your body language tells other people what you aren’t verbally saying, such as if you are anxious, confident, confused, angry or any other type of emotion or state of mind. If you become great at reading body language,it will help you become a better communicator.

Listen to others

Before you ever begin to speak, take a minute to see if anyone else has something to say.     3     Listening to others has many benefits, such as allowing you to learn new things or get information that you may later need.

Think before you speak

You parents probably told you this as a child, but many people still do not take a moment to think about the words they are about to say.     4    . There is a time and place for all words and tones of voice.

    5    You will have to practice your communication skills before you can ever become an excellent communicator.

5 . There was a time when I was very concerned about what other people thought of me, especially when I was misunderstood and labeled incorrectly.     1     Of course, you need to do something to let go of that mental suffering if you are stuck in such a similar situation.

    2     What makes what other people think of you so important? If other people’s opinions cause you to worry, chances are that you have a tendency to be pleased. Being favored might be a winning formula for you in the past. Certainly, there are advantages to having someone’s high regard. But if it doesn’t come as expected, ignore it.

·Understand you can’t control others. The reality is that you cannot control what another person thinks of you. What most people don’t understand is that we often form opinions of others based on associations we had in the past.     3     That’s his or her private views.

·Practice daily self-love and acceptance. Your situation may come from a concept that we are not as worthy as another person and our needs are not as important as theirs.     4     That’s to say, there is no one above or below you. We all have different roles but that does not make anyone more valuable as a human being.

·Live a life that pleases you. Constant worry about what others think of you must create considerable stress and will impact your relationships, your health, and your peace of mind.

·Stay true to your values and do your own thing. You will not need to be concerned with the few people who just don’t seem to understand you.     5    

6 . Eyes can speak

Much meaning can be conveyed, clearly, with our eyes, so it is often said that eyes can speak.     1    In a bus you may look at a stranger, but not for too long. And if he senses that you are staring at him, he may feel uncomfortable.

The same is true in our daily life. If you are stared at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up and down to see if there is anything wrong with you.     2    Eyes do speak, right?

Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and aggressive.     3    If a man stares at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to look away from her, his intentions are obvious. He wishes to attract her attention and let her know that he is admiring her.

However, when two people are engaged in a conversation, the speaker will only look into the listener’s eyes from time to time to make sure that the listener does pay attention to what the former is speaking.     4    If a speaker looks at you continuously when speaking as if trying to control you, you will feel awkward. A poor liar usually exposes himself by looking too long at the victim. He wrongly believes that looking straight in the eye is a sign of honest communication.     5    

Actually, eye contact should be made based on specific relationships and situations.

7 . Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit: we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellows the warm sunshine of praise.

    1     Perhaps it’s because few of us know how to accept compliments gracefully. Instead, we are embarrassed and shrug off the words we are really so glad to hear. Because of this defensive reaction, direct compliments are surprisingly difficult to give. That is why some of the most valued pats on the back are those which come to us indirectly, in a letter or passed on by a friend.

It’s especially rewarding to give praise in areas in which effort generally goes unnoticed or unmentioned.     2     A cook is praised for a perfect meal. But do you ever tell your laundry manager how pleased you are when the shirts are done just right? Do you ever praise your paperboy for getting the paper to you on time 365 days a year?

Praise is particularly appreciated by those doing routine jobs: gas station attendants, waitresses-even housewives.       3     Since so often praise is the only wage a housewife receives, surely she of all people should get her measure.

    4     It only takes a moment’s thought and a moment’s effort perhaps a quick phone call to pass on a compliment, or five minutes spent writing an appreciative letter. It is such a small investment and yet consider the results it may produce.     5    

So, let’s be alert to the small excellences around us and comment on them. We will not only bring joy into other people’s lives, but also, very often, add happiness into our own.

I’m sorry to hear about your problem. Don’t be too concerning about it. Now I’d like to give you some advices. Firstly, you may have a heart-to-heart talk with your roommates. Perhaps they will realize their mistakes or correct them. Secondly, if you find hard to have a good talk with them, you may write a letter about them. Lastly, if these ways don’t work, you’d better to report it to your teacher, whom will help solve the problem. Good communication is the key to deal with the relationship with others. Maybe someday you should become good friends. I hope my advice will be of greatly help to you.