1 . Being vulnerable (脆弱的) is not a choice. It’s a
Vulnerability
When some people
Indeed, it’s not easy for us to admit our vulnerability in front of others. In order to protect ourselves, we tend to struggle with
A.secret | B.reality | C.skill | D.purpose |
A.report | B.reveal | C.replace | D.prevent |
A.refers to | B.consists of | C.relies on | D.sticks to |
A.belief | B.error | C.rights | D.nature |
A.memories | B.lessons | C.experiences | D.pains |
A.follow | B.analyse | C.acknowledge | D.remove |
A.claim | B.doubt | C.celebrate | D.neglect |
A.hesitating | B.complaining | C.lying | D.waiting |
A.motivated | B.unwilling | C.desperate | D.unafraid |
A.blaming | B.spreading | C.teasing | D.exchanging |
A.criticism | B.fear | C.anger | D.hopelessness |
A.surprisingly | B.cautiously | C.safely | D.gratefully |
A.bravery | B.humor | C.ability | D.understanding |
A.impressed | B.affected | C.improved | D.reminded |
A.stand | B.request | C.strengthen | D.measure |
2 . When you’re meeting someone for the first time, you’re eager to make a good impression. Your body language can make a great difference.
●Shake hands firmly
Weak handshakes can make you seem shy and anything but confident.
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Stand up straight, but don’t tighten, or you may look nervous. Be sure to check your posture and straighten up as needed.
●Keep a suitable amount of eye contact
●Nod and smile when proper
Try nodding three times to show that you’re really absorbing what he is saying.
●Laugh genuinely
Even if you’re in a formal setting, if he has clearly said something that was intended to encourage a laugh, laugh! Show him that you have a sense of humor, and you’re listening to what he is saying.
A.Keep your posture relaxed |
B.Keep your feet close together |
C.This applies to both sitting and standing |
D.If you’re in a state of anxiety or tension |
E.Your handshake should be firm but not too tight |
F.It is important to keep eye contact in a conversation |
G.When it comes to smiling, make sure it reaches your eyes |
3 . When you set a foot outside of your door to drop trash, go to a social event or go for a walk, thoughts like “I hope I don’t see anyone I know” or “please don’t talk to me” may run through your mind. I’ve also said such things to myself. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is to talk with someone, especially someone new.
Why do we go out of our ways to avoid people? Do we think meeting new people is a waste of time? Or are we just lazy, thinking that meeting someone new really is a trouble?
Communication is the key to life. We have been told that many times. Take the past generations, like our parents, for example. They seem to take full advantage of that whole “communication” idea because they grew up talking face to face while Generation-Y grew up staring at screens. We spend hours of our days sitting on Facebook. We send messages to our friends and think about all of the things we want to say to certain people that we don’t have the courage to do in reality.
Nowadays, we are so caught up in our little circle of friends—our comfort zone. We love it that they laugh at our jokes, understand our feelings and can read our minds. Most importantly, they know when we want to be alone. They just get us.
Holding a conversation with someone new means agreeing with things that you don’t really believe and being someone you think they want you to be—it is, as I said before, a trouble. It takes up so much energy, and at some point or another, it is too tiring.
But meeting new people is important. Life is too short, so meet all the people you can meet, make the effort to go out and laugh. Remember, every “hello” leads to a smile—and a smile is worth a lot.
1. What do we learn about the author?A.He likes to meet someone new. | B.He feels stressed out lately. |
C.He’s active in attending social events. | D.He used to be afraid of talking to others. |
A.They rely on the Internet to socialize. | B.They are less confident in themselves. |
C.They have difficulty in communicating. | D.They are unwilling to make new friends. |
A.They think it troublesome. | B.They are busy with their study. |
C.They fear to disappoint their friends. | D.They want to do meaningful work. |
A.To stress the importance of friends. |
B.To give tips on how to meet new people. |
C.To encourage people to meet new people. |
D.To display the disadvantages of Generation-Y. |
4 . How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship
To repair a relationship can be difficult. Rebuilding trust in a relationship is more difficult. The biggest barrier to rebuilding trust is a lack of true desire to do so.
Keep your conversation open. Although trust is defined differently by different people, yet to talk it out can help you find the common ground.
Let go of mistakes when it is possible.
It’s important to remember that trust rebuilding won’t happen immediately when it is broken. Don’t feel worried if you’re not feeling comfortable.
A.Treat others how you wish to be treated |
B.Take time to calm yourself |
C.Heart-to-heart communication can make sure you two are on the same page |
D.All you need to do is to find the ins and outs of the relationship |
E.So having the eagerness is the very first step |
F.Research suggests that’s true |
G.That means saying goodbye to the past |
5 . We often hear honesty is the best policy, and no one likes to be called a liar. But is dishonesty always wrong? Not necessarily.
According to psychologists, there are two types of lies: lies that help your relationships and the people around you are called pro-social lies;and lies that hurt them are called antisocial lies.
How often have you clicked “Like” on Wechat Moment, not because you actually like what your friends posted, but because you want to show your support? This white lie is an example of a pro-social lie. But who people tell lies on social networks to make their own lives seem more exciting, or to make others jealous, this is antisocial lying.
Workplace lies range from harmless lies to destructive untruthful statements. An example of a pro-social workplace lie is complimenting someone on their presentation — even though it was only average — because you know they were nervous beforehand. In this case your intention is simply to protect your colleague’s feelings. However, people sometimes tell bigger lies at work for the purpose of avoiding blame or to stay on the boss’s good side. These are antisocial lies. They are antisocial because your boss is likely to discover the truth and as a result, will probably stop trusting you.
Lying is also a significant part of the natural world. So it’s little wonder we resort to it almost reflexively. Human babies sometimes pretend to cry, check to see if anyone is listening. and then start crying again. By the age of five, children learn to say things that are completely untrue, and most nine-year-olds have mastered keeping secrets to protect themselves.
Lying can be incredibly harmful to our relationships and to the people around us. But that’s only true for antisocial lies. Pro-social lies. have the opposite effect — they can actually help us.
1. What may help us tell a pro-social lie from an antisocial lie?A.The purpose it serves. | B.The way it is told. |
C.The occasion where it is told. | D.The people it is told to. |
A.Admit to | B.Turned to. |
C.Show respect to | D.Look forward to. |
A.We usually tell pro-social lies to protect our own feelings. |
B.Lying always hurts both the liar and the person being lied to |
C.Lying on social media is pro-social, but face-to-face lying isn’t . |
D.Sometimes, making people feel good outweighs telling the absolute truth. |
A.Lies That Harm Us | B.Lying is A Second Nature |
C.Lies That We Need to Tell | D.Honesty is the Best Policy |
6 . Saying farewell to someone you love, even for a night, can be difficult, much less saying goodbye for a lifetime or forever in death. Juliet bid Romeo adieu (再见) for the evening with the words, “Parting is such sweet sorrow.” Sweet sorrow is an oxymoron. But this seeming contradiction is true in the context of relationships.
Relationships are based on feelings, emotions, and passion. Deep friendships and loving relationships are measured by the level of emotional attachment. Emotions intensify over time. People spend time with the people they like. The more one person likes another person, the closer the relationship becomes. Each person in the relationship receives an emotional benefit from knowing the other person.
Saying goodbye means separating from the people who make up a significant part of your emotional identity. Separation, even a temporary absence, from the people you have a deep emotional connection with can cause sorrow because you will no longer be able to enjoy their company.
The sweet side of saying goodbye is the emotional fulfillment of being in a close relationship. The time spent together is emotionally rewarding, especially if that person is seen as a soulmate. Humans are social beings. We seek the love and comfort of other people. Loneliness devastates the human condition and leads to sadness. Sad people will do anything they can to find fulfilling relationships. Likewise, happy people will do anything they can to maintain or enhance relationships. Herein lies the essential point of the emotional problem.
The more intense relationships become, the more devastating the emotional loss that is felt upon separation. The exhilaration of relationships cannot be truly measured without experiencing the overwhelming loss of a deep emotional connection.
Enjoy the company of the person you are with as long as you can; knowing the pain you will feel at the end of the relationship is the true measure of the relationship. If it doesn’t hurt to say goodbye, perhaps it wasn’t worth saying hello.
1. Which of the word group can create the same effect as “sweet sorrow”?A.icy cold | B.clicking sound | C.deafening silence | D.endless speech |
A.Saying goodbye is unavoidable in our daily life. |
B.The companion of close friends can lessen sorrow. |
C.A person’s identity is connected with relationship. |
D.Separation is the sorrowful part of saying goodbye. |
A.Making more communication with others. |
B.Building deep emotional connections with others. |
C.Comforting friends with love and intense feelings. |
D.Being a thoughtful person by standing in others’ shoes. |
A.Sweet sorrow is very common in close relationships. |
B.The pain of separation is the measure of relationships. |
C.Human beings are eager to get emotional fulfillment. |
D.Happiness is meaningless without sadness to compare it. |
7 . Talking to strangers during your travels can change your trip into an adventure. Here are rules of thumb to serve as your guide.
Don’t ignore your fellow tourists. When you go to some place off the beaten path, you’re likely to meet other tourists there. Find them, and ask where they would go.
Abandon your phone. Phones often get between you and the surroundings, ruining your chances to make contact with the people you see.
Use a map — or none at all.
Most importantly: ask good questions.
A.Let strangers make your plans |
B.Maps can be of great assistance |
C.When the unwillingness gets in the way |
D.They are going to offer quite useful advice |
E.Those fellow tourists can make sense of your journey |
F.Finding good questions means observing and noticing |
G.If abandoning your phone isn’t practical or makes you feel insecure |
8 . Bullying (霸凌) is a big problem, which can make kids feel hurt, scared, sick, lonely, embarrassed, and sad. Bullies might use words to call names, tease or make fun of others.
Bullying is a big deal.
Bullying is a big problem that affects lots of kids. Being bullied can make kids feel really bad and even not want to go to school.
Some bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. Some bullies come from families where everyone is angry and shouting all the time. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act. Some bullies are copying what they’ve seen someone else do. Some have been bullied themselves.
How can you handle it?
So now you know that bullying is a big problem that affects a lot of kids, but what do you do if someone is bullying you?
Always have a friend nearby.
A.Stand tall and be brave. |
B.Why do bullies act that way? |
C.Some bullies even hit, kick or threaten kids. |
D.Bullying bothers not just the kids who are getting picked on. |
E.Be brave to offer support if your friend is having bully trouble. |
F.Two is better than one if you’ re trying to avoid being bullied. |
G.The good news is that kids who are bullies can learn to change their behavior. |
9 . It goes without saying that everyone has bad days at work. You hit an unexpected problem with a project you’ve been working on for weeks.
When you’re feeling upset about a problem at work, take a minute to think of someone in your life that you’re grateful to and write a sentence or two on a notepad about what you appreciate.
Picking one of those folks out and reminding yourself of why you’re grateful to them has two benefits.
A.You have a quarrel with your beloved. |
B.In those moments, a little gratitude can help |
C.Here are some reasons to explain these situations. |
D.All of us have people in our lives who fit that bill. |
E.Research shows practicing gratitude can make you happier. |
F.You forget the appointment with a VIP customer and keep him waiting. |
G.For one, it gets you thinking about something positive and lifts your mood |
10 . How does it feel when someone listens to you without interrupting (打断) or giving their opinion ? This is called active listening.
What is active listening ?
Active listening means trying to understand how someone feels by listening carefully to what they’re saying and by paying attention to their body language.
Annie , aged 11, explains what it means to her. “When my friend tells me something important, I listen to what they’re trying to say. I can tell by the tone (语气) of their voice and the look on their face if they’re sad or happy.
How is active listening good for me ?
Listening closely to someone without interrupting or giving your own opinion shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying , even if you don’ t agree.
Listen carefully to what your friend is saying, and avoid jumping in with your own thoughts and feelings. If you get the urge (强烈的欲望) to talk , make a listening sign like nodding your head instead. Ask questions or say things that need more than a yes or no answer, like “Tell me more”.
A.How can I become an active listener? |
B.Why is listening important to me? |
C.This makes me feel like I understand them better. |
D.Instead, you’re focusing on what’s going on around you. |
E.Try watching how they’re feeling in their face and body too. |
F.This helps to avoid mistakes and arguments and can strengthen friendships. |
G.It is a great way to understand other people’s feelings and build trust between friends. |