1 . Being a people-pleaser(讨好型人格)is second nature to many people. We tend to calm those around us, often regardless of our own needs. Actually, it is unhealthy to do so.
Be sure of your own value.
You were created differently from every other human. Overcoming people-pleasing starts with clearly knowing the value of your thoughts and actions, and that your presence matters. By pleasing people at the cost of your own desires, you’re forgetting that you are here for a reason.
When something goes wrong, it’s quite natural for me to say sorry. It is pretty true of you if you’re a people-pleaser too. However, before words of apology trip from your lips, stop and look at the situation. Apologize sincerely and timely on condition that it’s really your fault. Otherwise just let it go.
Keep saying no.
Speak up.
People-pleasers like to agree with the masses. We are quiet, listening, waiting to agree on whatever decision is reached. Many times, I simply stayed quiet and agreed, even when I really didn’t like the plans at all. And bitterness surged when I was asked to deal with what I didn’t want.
Without any doubt, it’s difficult to go against the nature that you tend to please everyone around you.
| A．Say sorry actively. |
| B．Apologize properly. |
| C．It seems common to agree to everything. |
| D．Chances are that you’ll fail into old patterns midway. |
| E．What counts much is to change some of your daily habits. |
| F．Saying no is always the first choice for many people to make. |
| G．Learn to use your voice bravely if you’d like to overcome people-pleasing. |
1. What is a good topic to start a conversation at a party?
| A．Something about the host or hostess. |
| B．Good friends who are present. |
| C．A recent movie. |
| A．By looking other people in the eyes. |
| B．By using their first names. |
| C．By giving short answers. |
| A．To show their interest. |
| B．To hear the words clearly. |
| C．To create a relaxing atmosphere. |
| A．They make people feel bored. |
| B．They are difficult to understand. |
| C．They may cause disagreements. |
3 . While scientists have many ideas, they are not certain why humans yawn(打哈欠). Still, there is one thing experts know—yawns seem to be contagious(传染)!
Have you ever caught a yawn from someone else? Most people have. In fact, a person is six times more likely to yawn after seeing someone else do so. Experts have done many studies into why yawns seem to pass from person to person. As a result, they have a few theories(理论) for the reason behind it.
One possible explanation has something to do with social mirroring, which is caused by mirror neurons(镜像神经元) in the brain. These mirror neurons help the brain notice useful behavior of others and then copy it. When one person sees another yawn, his mirror neurons observe the action and consider it to be beneficial. That may cause him to yawn, too.
Another popular theory is that yawns are contagious because of social relationships. Being social creatures, humans form friendships, families and live together in groups. That’s why many people mirror others, such as smiling when another person smiles. Yawning may be just another example of this. In fact, research has shown that one is most likely to catch yawns from another person if the two share a social relationship.
The answer could even be that yawns aren’t truly contagious at all. Instead, people yawn together simply because they’re in the same environment. Experts say many things may cause yawning, including temperature and time of day. Whatever the explanation is, experts do know that contagious yawns aren’t limited to humans. One study found that lions in South Africa also caught each other’s yawns.
1. What kind of behavior may be copied by mirror neurons?| A．Important and attractive. | B．Useful and beneficial. |
| C．Hard to understand. | D．Easy to copy. |
| A．Those who yawn a lot. | B．Those who like smiling. |
| C．Those closely connected with them. | D．Those sharing the same interest with them. |
| A．Tips on how to avoid yawning in public. |
| B．A real explanation for contagious yawning. |
| C．Other examples of animals yawning together. |
| D．Things that may cause yawning among humans. |
| A．Why yawns are contagious | B．What causes people to yawn |
| C．Who yawns more than others | D．Why humans yawn now and then |
4 . How to Deal with Nosy (好管闲的) People
Nosy people are everywhere. They are just too much for us to tolerate. However, no matter what type of nosy people you meet, there are ways you can use to get out of the situation.
Respond. Do not react.
When someone starts asking personal questions one after another, you might get confused as to why. When you find yourself in this situation, remind yourself to slow down.
Answer them reasonably without showing too much.
One great way is to give a satisfactory answer without saying too many details. This way, you will satisfy their curiosity and keep your personal boundaries (界线) .
Sometimes, you just don’t feel like answering the other person’s questions. It could be because they have no business knowing the details. It could also be that they are rude. So, if someone asks you a personal question, you could politely decline to answer by saying, “Sorry, but I am not comfortable discussing my private matters like this.”
Show a lack of enthusiasm.
Your body language tells a lot about you. It tells other people whether you are interested in talking to them, whether you are having a good time and so on. So, if you want to communicate that you don’t appreciate them being nosy, you can do so with your body language. How do you do this? Easy! Just show a lack of enthusiasm.
| A．Avoid talking with them. |
| B．Politely decline to answer. |
| C．So, give yourself time to react. |
| D．There is no need to feel rushed at all! |
| E．Use this way when the other person is a loved one. |
| F．Give brief answers and don’t look them in the eye too much. |
| G．Follow the ones below and you will find it easy to deal with them. |
5 . Calling someone your partner sounds wonderful, but it becomes even more enjoyable when that person is also your best friend. Here are five things that happen when your partner is your best friend.
Make each other laugh.
Cheer for each other. We all need our own personal cheer leader. Having someone who believes the best in us helps us to know the best in ourselves. Real friends realize our advantages even when we don’t.
Bring out the best in each other. Some people show best parts of themselves while others can bring out the best in you.
Lend a helping hand. Good friends come together to lend a helping hand. They see the need and help to meet the need.
| A．Share your hidden side. |
| B．Never be afraid of weaknesses. |
| C．Great friends know how to get laughs out of one another. |
| D．When they join you, you can come up with creative ideasl |
| E．When you spend time alone, you feel better about yourselves. |
| F．For example, they often help to take out the litter or clean the floor. |
| G．They support us and encourage us when we are upset or disappointed. |
6 . Active listening is a communication skill that involves going beyond simply hearing the words that another person speaks but also seeking to understand the meaning and intention behind them. The word “active” implies that you are taking some type of action when listening to others.
Be fully present
Active listening requires being fully present in the conversation. It enables you to concentrate on what is being said. Being present involves listening with all your senses and giving your full attention to the speaker. To use this active listening technique effectively, put away your cell phone, ignore distractions, and shut down your internal dialogue.
Pay attention to non-verbal cues (非言语暗示)
As much as 65% of a person’s communication is unspoken,
Keep good eye contact
When engaged in active listening, making eye contact is especially important. This tells the other person that you are present and listening to what he or she says.
Be patient
Patience is an important active listening technique because it allows the other person to speak without interruption. Being patient involves not trying to fill periods of silence with your own thoughts or stories. This also requires listening to understand, not to respond.
| A．Don’t prepare a reply while listening. |
| B．It also shows that you aren’t distracted. |
| C．This isn’t helpful during active listening. |
| D．So use open, non-threatening body language. |
| E．Don’t focus too much on insignificant details. |
| F．Place your focus on your conversation partner. |
| G．This involves using certain strategies or techniques. |
7 . We’ve all been there—you’ve sent a message and it’s marked “read”, but you haven’t heard anything back. What’s the deal? While being left on read (已读不回) can be confusing, it’s also pretty common.
Expect the best. Remind yourself that the person is probably just busy. Ask yourself if you actually know their schedule. There could be some time commitments you aren’t aware of. Here are a few other reasons for a delayed response.
Resist the temptation (诱惑) to double-text.
Read over your previous messages. See if there are any confusing texts that you need to clarify. It’s okay if you review your message again and notice that it might have been a little unclear—it happens!
| A．Put your phone away. |
| B．Fix your attention closely on text responses. |
| C．Give them a little space so they have a chance to reply. |
| D．They want to give you a longer response but can’t right now. |
| E．Ask yourself why being left on “read” frustrates or confuses you. |
| F．You can keep the situation from bothering you until you hear back. |
| G．You might feel relieved when you find something that is easy to misread. |
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9 . It can be a wonderful and satisfying experience to have roommates to share a home with. Living with others can often help you develop close relationships and learn some life skills along the way.
Honest communication
In order to solve any problems that may arise, effective communication is necessary.
Nothing is more important than keeping your shared space clean and organized. Take the time to clean up shared areas like bathrooms and kitchens and respect each other’s standards of cleanliness.
Develop a sense of humor
Be considerate of your roommates’ needs
Being considerate of your roommates’ schedule, preferences and routines is part of living with them. A supportive living environment is created by small things, for example, offering to pick up groceries or helping with housework.
| A．Respect yourself |
| B．You can create an open-door policy |
| C．Keep shared space clean and organized |
| D．It is also wise to be mindful of noise levels |
| E．Here are practical tips on how to be a good roommate |
| F．Living with others can lead to disagreements and arguments |
| G．Being a good roommate is more than making your rent payments on time |
10 . You form an impression ofa person based on his postures, gestures and facial expressions, as soon as you meet, or even see him. This is why it is important to make a good first impression on the person who will be interviewing you. Within the first 60 seconds of meeting you, the interviewer will have formed an impression about what type of person you are and what kind of employee you would become, and
First of all, relax. Think positive thoughts and you are more likely to come across as a positive, confident person during the interview.
Another important issue is eye contact. Looking someone in the eye shows confidence in yourself and trust’in the other person. However, don’t overdo it, as too much eve contact or staring will make the other person uncomfortable. Use more eye contact when listening than when talking, and when you look away, look down.
| A．55% of chis will be based only on your body language |
| B．Posture is important |
| C．it will be wise of you to focus on the interviewer |
| D．walk as fast as possible with a smile |
| E．Dress smartly |
| F．Looking up at the ceiling will make you seem bored or rude |
| G．Try to avoid slowing down as you walk into the room |
