1 . African grey parrots help their peers complete tasks despite no immediate benefit to themselves, researchers have found in the first study to show that birds display such apparently “selfless” behaviour.
Writing in the journal Current Biology, Brucks and colleagues report how they tested African grey parrots in a task that involved the birds passing a token, in the form of a metal ring, through a hole in their section to a neighbouring bird of the same species. This token could then be passed by the second bird to a human, via another hole, who would exchange it for a piece of nut.
The team found African grey parrots helped their neighbours by passing tokens to their neighbour when a human held out their hand, allowing the second bird to drop it through-the hole and receive a tasty treat.
The same behaviour was seen when the roles of the birds were reversed (颠倒). The more tokens a bird had previously given, the more they received in return.
However, the team stress previously the birds did not know that their favour would be rewarded, suggesting it is something of a “selfless” act.
The team say it may be due to African grey parrots gathering in huge flocks at night but splitting into smaller groups during the day to forage (觅食). Brucks said such behaviour is thought to require strong social cognitive abilities, adding that being helpful might help the birds gain a good reputation with their peers, making it more likely that they would team up for foraging and other tasks.
Dr Manon Schweinfurth, an expert in animal behaviour, said evidence of reciprocal (互惠的) behaviour in African grey parrots is quite interesting. “It has been thought that it is so cognitively demanding that only humans can show it. But we now get more and more evidence from other animals that they are able to show reciprocity,” she said.
1. What is paragraph 2 mainly about?A.The methods of observation. | B.The comparison of the species. |
C.One feeding behaviour of parrots. | D.One example of Brucks’ experiments. |
A.A strong survival instinct. | B.A desire for food. |
C.The need for social cognitive abilities. | D.Curiosity towards other species. |
A.Only African grey parrots are capable of exhibiting reciprocal behavior. |
B.Reciprocal behavior is the only demonstration of cognitive abilities. |
C.Other animals may possess similar social cognitive abilities to African grey parrots. |
D.The reciprocal behavior of African grey parrots is learned through experience. |
A.Unclear. | B.Admiring. | C.Indifferent. | D.Surprised. |
2 . Tips to help you overcome people-pleasing
Considering other people’s feelings and treating them with kindness is something we strive to do.
When this happens, people-pleasing has crossed the line from kind and generous to self-abandonment — not being the authentic self because we’re afraid others will disapprove, criticize, or reject us. Here are tips for you to overcome such behaviors.
Self-care is a necessity, not a luxury. It’s not something you do if you have time or if you deserve it. Taking care of your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical needs keeps you healthy. Without it, you’ll get sick, stressed, and irritable. Try putting self-care activities (exercise, socializing, hobbies, etc.) on your calendar to ensure that self-care is a priority.
Not everyone’s opinion matters.
One big mistake people-pleasers make is acting as if everyone’s opinion matters equally. You don’t differentiate whose opinion matters more. Generally, the closer the relationship, the more you’ll value their opinion and want to please them. Thus, it’s natural to want to do things to make your loved ones happy.
Healthy conflict can improve relationships.
Most people worry that painful conflicts will destroy relationships.
A.Be aware of your inner needs. |
B.Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. |
C.This indicates that we’re People-Pleasers. |
D.It’s understandable and common to want to avoid them. |
E.But sacrificing our wellbeing to make others happy is not. |
F.However, you don’t need to please acquaintances in the same way. |
G.It results in greater understanding and ultimately strengthens the relationship. |
3 . Self-confidence is about trusting your judgement and your ability to do something well. It is also about being willing to consider the possibility that you are wrong and change your mind. It is a combination of courage and humility, which leads to open-minded thinking.
·One of the reasons is the home environment where children grow and develop. They may find it difficult to develop self-confidence if their parents are critical or overprotective. Once they fail to fulfill expectations, they may feel bad about themselves and get trapped in the cage of self-doubt.
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Self-confidence can be improved
·Work on positive thinking. A positive attitude will lead to positive results. Go for it and don’t worry about letting others down.
·Set realistic goals for yourself and visualize yourself achieving these goals.
A.Instead, try to make up for lost time |
B.All they expect is that you do your best |
C.Confidence is built an a sense of accomplishment |
D.Children spare no effort to satisfy parents’ expectations |
E.Negative experiences also have a huge impact on self-confidence |
F.Low self-confidence, in contrast, will make you feel unmotivated |
G.The reasons for low self-confidence often differ from person to person |
4 . We often think about relationships on a scale from positive to negative. We are drawn to loving family members, caring classmates and supportive mentors. We do our best to avoid the cruel uncle, the playground bully and the jerk boss.
But the most toxic relationships aren’t the purely negative ones. They’re the ones that are a mix of positive and negative. We often call them frenemies, supposed friends who sometimes help you and sometimes hurt you. But ifs not just friends. It’s the in-laws who volunteer to watch your kids but belittle your parenting. The manager who praises your work but denies you a promotion.
Everyone knows how relationships like that can tie your stomach into a knot. But groundbreaking research led by the psychologists Bert Uchino and Julianne Holt-Lunstad shows that ambivalent (矛盾情绪的) relationships can be damaging to your health — even more than purely negative relationships.
I had assumed that with a neighbor or a colleague, having some positive interactions was better than all negative interactions. But being cheered on by the same person who cuts you down doesn’t reduce the bad feelings; it increases them. And it’s not just in your head: It leaves a trace in your heart and your blood.
Even a single ambivalent interaction can cause harm. In one experiment, people gave impromptu speeches on controversial topics in front of a friend who offered feedback. The researchers had randomly assigned the friend to give ambivalent or negative comments. Receiving mixed feedback caused higher blood pressure than pure criticism. “I would have gone about the topic differently, but you’re doing fine” proved to be more distressing than “I totally disagree with everything you’ve said.”
The evidence that ambivalent relationships can be bad for us is strong, but the reasons can be harder to read — just like the relationships themselves.
The most intuitive reason is that ambivalent relationships are unpredictable. With a clear enemy, you put up a shield when you cross paths. With a frenemy, you never know whether Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde is going to show up. Feeling unsure can disrupt the body’s calming system and activate a fight-or-flight response. It’s unsettling to hope for a hug while also preparing for a likely quarrel.
Another factor is that unpleasant interactions are more painful in an ambivalent relationship. It’s more upsetting to be let down by people you like sometimes than by people you dislike all the time. When someone stabs you in the back, it stings more if he’s been friendly to your face.
1. Which of the following can be counted as a frenemy?A.Your neighbour’s kid who advises you to study hard but idles away his own time. |
B.Your classmate who admires your diligence at first, but doubts your intelligence later. |
C.Your mother’s friend who encourages you to spend more time on homework but less on smart phones. |
D.Your father’s colleague who proposes you to do a moderate amount of homework while ensuring adequate sleep. |
A.Ambivalent relationships have a permanent effect on your well-being. |
B.The common cause for high blood pressure is ambivalent relationship. |
C.Ambivalent interactions will be more painful if it is done consciously. |
D.The negative impact of ambivalent interactions is direct and strong. |
A.devalue | B.appreciate | C.respect | D.abuse |
A.Some Negative Relationships Are Bad for Your Health |
B.Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic |
C.The Reasons for Ambivalent Relationships Are Unpredictable |
D.Some Positive Relationships Are Better than All Negative Ones |
5 . Boundaries are personal guidelines that define what is and isn’t okay in your interpersonal relationships. As everyone has different needs and comfort levels, they may appear different for each person. Having healthy boundaries may provide such benefits as avoiding burnout, boosting self-esteem and maintaining personal space.
Once you have identified your boundaries, it is important to communicate them effectively.
When learning how to set healthy boundaries, it is essential to learn how to say “no”. Saying “yes” to everything can lead to stress, burnout, and frustration. It is important to understand what you consider acceptable and unacceptable, setting limits that reflect those standards.
A.Honesty and respect play an essential key role in the process. |
B.Initially, you are supposed to identify your personal boundaries. |
C.When you feel that someone has crossed your boundaries, remind them. |
D.Therefore, setting healthy boundaries is of vital importance in social activities. |
E.Keep saying “no” to things you disapprove of helps to understand yourself better. |
F.This contributes to finding possible solutions to issues regarding boundary-setting. |
G.Pick up the conversation unless there appears another argument needed to be settled. |
A.Boss and employee. | B.Colleagues. | C.Strangers. |
A.In a factory. | B.In a stadium. | C.On a motorbike. |
8 . Have you ever struggled to understand how someone else feels? Building up your empathy (同理心) skills helps you connect with your friends.
What is empathy?
Empathy is a kind of capability that lets you step into someone else’s shoes and then figure out how they are feeling. For instance, if you can see your friend is upset after losing a football match and you support them by telling them some warm and motivating words, you are showing empathy. Miranda McKeamey set up an organization called EmpathyLab that builds empathy through reading.
Scientists say empathy isn’t something you are born with, it’s a skill you can acquire through learning. One way you can do this is by active listening. When someone is talking to you, listen closely and respond in a way that shows you understand their situations and emotions thoroughly. Reading, advocated by EmpathyLab, is also a great way to boost empathy, since stories can take you inside someone else’s mind and show you the world through their eves and emotions.
Put empathy into action.
A.How can you have more empathy? |
B.Who need empathy most in daily life? |
C.Besides, it also spreads kindness and inspires them to do the same. |
D.To find out more conducts you can do, log in EmpathyLab.UK.com. |
E.Only by putting empathy into action can you relate to others’ bad lives. |
F.She believes even small, supportive actions can have a positive impact. |
G.Miranda recommends going into the thick of people’s lives to show empathy. |
9 . How do you express gratitude in your everyday life? For me, it sometimes feels worrying: hand-writing hundreds of thank you cards after an anniversary, or making sure to eat every last bite on my plate so my grandma wouldn’t think I was ungrateful for the meal.
Start a gratitude journal or write a letter. Make it a habit to put down the things that you’re thankful for.
Bear in mind the difference between saying “thanks to” and “thanks for”. Being grateful “for” something can be a little unclear or general.
A.Stretch your gratitude muscle. |
B.Notice the world surrounding you. |
C.Better still, deliver it in person and read it to them. |
D.A habitual gratitude journal will certainly benefit us. |
E.But experts say it doesn’t have to be that complicated. |
F.In fact, this habit reduces materialism and enhances generosity. |
G.Being grateful “to” something or someone implies a direct relationship. |
10 . Friendship is a practice of unconditional love, an opportunity to grow together towards fulfillment (成就), and a journey to unfold the most precious capacities of a human being.
Provide support and encouragement. Friendships aren’t all fun and games — they do require you put in some work. Say they’ve just quarreled with their parents or failed an exam. It’s your job to be there for them and provide them with whatever they need, starting with support and comfort.
Whatever the case, make it apparent that you’re rooting for them.
Seek the good of the other person. When we love another person, we seek the good of the other because we gladden their own happiness. Therefore, our seeking for the other person’s good is totally disinterested. We serve the other without expecting anything in return.
Accept the differences.
A.Be honest with each other. |
B.Acts of love are made for its own sake. |
C.Take responsibility of your own emotions. |
D.Additionally, it’s your duty to give them encouragement as needed. |
E.Human beings are relational beings, as everything we find in the nature. |
F.Therefore, developing friendship with other people is essential in our lives. |
G.Friendship doesn’t mean having the same interests, opinions and mindset as the other person. |