1 . For lots of kids, toddlerhood(幼儿期)is an important time for friendship. Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing together also helps these kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation.
Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament. Some toddlers are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler’s way of saying “I like you” during play is likely to come in the form of copying a friend’s behavior.
This seemingly unusual way of demonstrating fondness can result in unpleasant behavior. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules. That’s why it’s so important to take an active role in your toddler’s social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them.
Begin by helping your child learn sympathy (“Ben is crying. What’s making him so sad?”), then suggest how he could resolve the problem(“Maybe he would feel better if you let him play the ball.”). When your child shares or shows empathy(同理心)toward a friend, praise him(“Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.”).
Another way to encourage health y social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words—not fists—to express how they feel. It’s also important to be mindful of how your child’s personality affects playtime. Kids are easy to get angry when they’re sleepy or hungry, so schedule playtime when they’re refreshed.
1. What does the underlined word “temperament” in Paragraph 2 probably mean?A.Appearances. | B.Ages. | C.Characters. | D.Interests. |
A.They are fond of their playmates. |
B.They are interested in acting. |
C.They are shy with the strangers. |
D.They are tired of playing games. |
A.Find them suitable playmates. |
B.Design games for them. |
C.Play together with them. |
D.Help them understand social rules. |
A.Explaining concepts. | B.Giving examples. |
C.Providing evidence. | D.Making comparisons. |
2 . As a professional life and relationship coach, Allison Cowan has over 21 years of experience in teaching and supporting others to achieve their goals. She has dedicated her career to helping her clients gain power and awareness in their lives.
As a coach, Allison inspires her clients to overcome obstacles and achieve goals. However, her practice has come with its own share of challenges. Expanding her knowledge to meet diverse client needs has involved lots of trial-and-error searching.
Initially, Allison spent a hard time building strong and trustworthy relationships with her clients. She knew trust was critical to finding and retaining clients but was frustrated at how long the trust-building process takes.
Allison soon learned that there was no single right way to coach. To meet her clients’ different needs, she needed to become more efficient at supporting their diverse learning styles. To overcome her challenges as a coach and offer better service, she began looking for ways to customize her coaching solutions.
During her search, Allison realized Positive Psychology is a field with many different goals. “It covers so many areas, including whatever a client may go through,” she recalled. Later, she began using self-reflection tools to help her clients develop self-acceptance and self-forgiveness. She even discovered a way to help clients without a coaching goal find their purposes. She said, “There’s a lot of blame. The more they stay in blame mode, the more angry they are, and they are not able to move forward with acceptance and forgiveness. But we can find solutions in Positive Psychology.”
Whether Allison was helping clients build self-confidence, understand their attachment styles, or reframe their challenges, she quickly found that she was also learning all the time. By completing the homework Allison assigned to them, her clients were also changing. They were more engaged with their coaching and making more significant progress between their sessions. That made Allison proud. She said, “They grow and move forward at a quicker pace. That’s what coaching is about.”
1. Why is Allison’s initial trouble mentioned in the text?A.To show her special efforts. | B.To stress her defeated career. |
C.To prove the difficulty in coaching. | D.To give the reason for setting goals. |
A.She used the same coaching ways to teach them. |
B.She coached them according to their own needs. |
C.She tried her best to change their learning styles. |
D.She helped them overcome their challenges in life. |
A.Doubtful. | B.Unclear. |
C.Supportive. | D.Dismissive. |
A.Allison’s clients misunderstood what coaching is about. |
B.Allison learned to build self-confidence all the time. |
C.Allison’s clients helped her complete homework. |
D.Allison and her clients benefited each other. |
3 . According to Jaime Roberts, good consulting is often about loosening the body, opening the mind and, more often than not, keeping the mouth shut.
Your body language matters
Jaime Roberts has been one of my go to experts for advice for decades. When I once asked her why she was so good at consulting, she was quick to mention her body language. “
You don’t have to fix the problem
That’s another thing Jaime Roberts has learned on the job, “People who ask ‘What should I do?’ often want to process a problem themselves.
You don’t need to give advice right now
Texts and FaceTime might be immediate, but your advice doesn’t have to be.
You’re bound to hear about problems you haven’t experienced firsthand. That’s why Jaime Roberts says you should let them know that you’re just human beings with limited experience.
A.Don’t say their choices are wrong |
B.You cannot give advice as giving someone an order |
C.I try to appear relaxed and avoid looks of shock or judgment |
D.You don’t need to have the same problem to be a good consultant |
E.But you should let them know you will do your best to understand them |
F.You’re a good consultant if you can help them fix the problem on their own |
G.You can politely explain to them that you will talk to them when you’re ready |
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It was Sunday. I was doing housework while someone knocked at the door. It was milkman who sent a bottle of milk. But I didn’t order it. Feel confused, I noticed a note stuck to it. The note said “Dear neighbor, I’m sorry about the noise making by our decoration that will last for three day. The bottle of milk is given to you as a gift to show off our apology.” The next day, everyone in the neighborhood were talking about the milk and our coming neighbor. With the decoration finished, the family final moved into the neighborhood. People come to help. I was extremely touched by this scene which was full of consideration and appreciate.
5 . Many of us use longer words in place of shorter ones. People think, if I can show that I have a good vocabulary, I’ll sound smarter.
Make eye contact. If someone looks at you while you’re talking, you’re more likely to think he or she is smart. Good eye contact means the other person is responsive to what you are doing or saying.
Strike a power pose. How open or closed your posture is conveys how open or closed you are to others. Openness can convey confidence.
Avoid pauses. Confidence is as noticeable in your voice as it is in your body language. As you have probably noticed from watching any public event or business meeting, the “winner” of the talk is usually the person who speaks most energetically and fluently.
A.Plan ahead. |
B.Feel prepared. |
C.Frequently stopping for a while make you sound unsure of yourself. |
D.The problem with this plan is that it can easily go wrong. |
E.The confidence displayed on a person is the key to his success. |
F.If he doesn`t respond, maybe it means what you`re saying is dull. |
G.Sit up straight and leave your arms widely spread on the table or at your sides. |
6 . It is so easy to just go home and shut your door without getting to know your neighbors. But being an active neighbor will turn your living place into a kinder and more caring neighborhood.
Then get out of your comfort zone and make efforts to know more about your neighbors.
Another way to show your neighbors that you care is by making your small acts of kindness a regular practice. This can be cleaning up the litter or even cleaning up after the pets have made a mess on your block.
Remind yourself that being connected feels good and boosts your mood in the long run. If you take the first step, your small acts of kindness can encourage others to pay that kindness forward.
A.Or if you have an amazing garden |
B.Remember, every small gesture counts |
C.If you want to be respected and cared by your neighbors |
D.For example, ask for their names and learn what they do for work |
E.Your attitudes towards your friends also set an example for your kids |
F.It doesn’t take a lot of money or a generous gesture to be an active neighbor |
G.In the end, more and more people in the neighborhood will feel much better |
7 . As a young child, I was painfully shy. I’d watch other children play in the park, wishing I could join them, but I was too scared to approach. Eventually, my mother would come to the rescue. She’d ask the other kids if I could play, too. Today, I feel comfortable giving public lectures in large halls and having conversations in small groups, but I still tend to avoid situations in which I’m expected to spend time with a roomful of strangers.
There could be many reasons. For one thing, I might be carrying some childhood fear of rejection. But beyond that possibility, one likely element is that I tend to underestimate how much people like me after I meet them, as most of us do.
A new research paper reports that the common concern that new people may not like us, or that they may not enjoy our company, is largely unfounded.
Erica Boothby of Cornell University and her colleagues conducted a series of studies to find out what our conversation partners really think of us. In doing so, they discovered a new cognitive illusion (认知错觉) they call “the liking gap”: our failure to realize how much strangers appreciate our company after a bit of conversation.
The researchers observed the gap in a variety of situations: strangers getting acquainted in the research laboratory, first-year college students getting to know their dormitory mates over the course of many months, and community members meeting fellow participants in personal development workshops. In each circumstance, people consistently underestimated how much others liked them. For much of the academic year, as dormitory mates got to know each other and even started to develop enduring friendships, the liking gap persisted.
The data also revealed some of the potential reasons for the illusion: we are often more severe with ourselves than with others, and our inner critic prevents us from appreciating how positively other people evaluate us. Not knowing what our conversation partners really think of us, we use our own thoughts as a proxy (代理人). This is a mistake, because our thoughts tend to be more negative than reality.
1. Why does the author mention his childhood experience?A.To show how his character changed. |
B.To explain what he was like when he was young. |
C.To show an example of why people are shy of communication. |
D.To emphasize the important role of a mother in one’s childhood. |
A.Careless. | B.Baseless. | C.Selfless. | D.Meaningless. |
A.It indicates what strangers really think of us. |
B.It begins and ends quickly among strangers. |
C.It disappears when strangers get to know each other. |
D.It states our misunderstanding of how much others like us. |
A.People Like You More than You Know |
B.How to Get Along Well with Strangers |
C.The Way to Know What Others Think of Us |
D.Having Conversations with Strangers Benefits Us |
8 . Suppose you are out shopping and come across an acquaintance who starts telling you a story that seems to be dragging on and on. You want to seem interested, so you offer the occasional “Oh” or “I see”. To your surprise, though, this person angrily stops in their tracks and says, “Sorry if I’m boring you!”
Where did this come from? Clearly, your body language must have betrayed you. The idea that verbal (口头的) and nonverbal messages can conflict was the inspiration for a recently published study from Yale University’s Lueylle Armentano. As part of her study of communication in relationships, Armentano’s research also examined communication channels in people meeting for the first time.
To test the role of verbal-nonverbal mismatch on emotional communication, Armentano and her partner created experimental conditions to see what happens when someone asks for help from strangers. The research team created videotapes of a fellow Yale student expressing nervousness in his words, bodily gestures, or both. The bodily gestures included running his hands through his hair, grabbing his arm, and facially expressing uneasiness. The key question was whether the other participants, another 82 Yale students, would believe the student and provide the help he was requesting. They needed to give their responses.
Turning to the findings, those nonverbal cues (提示) of nervousness had a greater impact on helping behavior than the verbal cues. Surprisingly, helping behavior was the highest when verbal expressions of nervousness were low but nonverbal cues were high.
Recognizing that your body language can outweigh your words means that you need to be mindful of what your body is doing when you’re interacting with others. Generally, when someone is speaking to you, you want to look like you’re interested. Not only should you maintain eye contact, but you should keep your body still and face toward the other person. If you’re not trying to look interested, it may be more polite to say you have to be somewhere else.
1. What is paragraph 1 mainly about?A.The obvious advantages of body language. |
B.A situation where body language is a must. |
C.An example of verbal-nonverbal mismatch. |
D.The proper way to interact with old friends. |
A.Express nervousness in their words. | B.Identify the types of body language. |
C.Try to win the nervous student’s trust. | D.Respond to the nervous student’s request. |
A.His sincere verbal expressions. | B.His bodily gestures of nervousness. |
C.His positive attitude to nervousness. | D.His good manners in front of others. |
A.Make a prediction. | B.Offer suggestions. |
C.Present some facts. | D.Give some warnings. |
9 . The spotlight(聚光灯) effect refers to the tendency of individuals to overestimate the level of attention they believe they get. They think that they are noticed by everyone, everywhere, and at every point of time. This is surprisingly common, but not at all a fact.
Suppose it’s your friend’s birthday, and you have planned to give her a surprise. You are just about to burst into her house at midnight with a delicious cake and an exciting gift. But as your friend opens the door, she just asks you to get inside the house! How would you feel? Exactly that! You have been struck with the spotlight effect! That simply means that you think you did a great job, and people should value your genius ideas on “how to surprise your dear friend on her birthday”. Not really, as your friend was already expecting you to be there! So, your efforts didn’t get as much attention as you had probably expected.
It is often the case. For example, something like a social gaffe(失态)at a ceremony, a stupid error while making a speech, or having a stain on the clothes when facing a bunch of people. These events become unforgettable memories for us, but are often unnoticed by many. Of course, we still feel they are the biggest mistakes of our lives!
On the contrary, sometimes, it happens that actions like a well-prepared presentation, a brilliant argument in a discussion, or the best throw in a football match are extraordinary efforts for us, which just remain totally overlooked. And you think, “Did anyone just see what I did?” or “Was I the only one present there?” No point losing heart, because that was probably just your perception(认识)—— the spotlight effect.
1. Which of the following best explains the spotlight effect?A.You are too sensitive to others’ remarks. |
B.You always think you are being observed. |
C.You try to keep off strong light from the sun. |
D.You feel you are noticed more than you actually are. |
A.They will become selfish in life. |
B.They will doubt others’ good purposes. |
C.They will forget unpleasant things easily. |
D.They will have trouble letting go of their errors. |
A.Disappointed. | B.Lucky. | C.Nervous. | D.Confident. |
A.By listing experiments. | B.By analyzing statistics. |
C.By providing examples. | D.By making comparisons. |
10 . While working as a graduate student in New York City, Vanessa Bohns was given the much
Was it possible, she wondered, that most of us are
Knowing this can help us understand how our requests might
A.appealing | B.exhausting | C.sensitive | D.ashamed |
A.glared | B.approached | C.passed | D.pushed |
A.sympathetic | B.glad | C.annoyed | D.tolerant |
A.upset | B.anxious | C.hesitant | D.willing |
A.expected | B.requested | C.promised | D.recognized |
A.curious | B.skeptical | C.wrong | D.cautious |
A.discovered | B.conducted | C.planned | D.recorded |
A.case | B.circumstance | C.occasion | D.condition |
A.ignore | B.complain | C.refuse | D.cooperate |
A.On the contrary | B.On the whole | C.On the surface | D.On the go |
A.optimistic | B.critical | C.negative | D.neutral |
A.strange | B.great | C.disappointing | D.normal |
A.deny | B.doubt | C.appreciate | D.subscribe |
A.misuse | B.overstate | C.distinguish | D.underestimate |
A.imitate | B.practise | C.measure | D.perform |
A.agree | B.fail | C.claim | D.pretend |
A.angry | B.familiar | C.happy | D.uncomfortable |
A.mislead | B.impress | C.affect | D.puzzle |
A.accurately | B.accordingly | C.smoothly | D.systematically |
A.boundaries | B.assumptions | C.defence | D.intention |