3 . Most of us are already aware of the direct effect we have on our friends and family. But we rarely consider that everything we think, feel, do, or say can spread far beyond the people we know. Conversely(相反地), our friends and family serve as conduits(渠道) for us to be influenced by hundreds or even thousands of other people. In a kind of social chain reaction, we can be deeply affected by events we do not witness that happen to people we do not know. As part of a social network, we go beyond ourselves, for good or ill, and become a part of something much larger.

Our connectedness carries with it fundamental implications(影响) for the way we understand the human condition. Social networks have value precisely because they can help us to achieve what we could not achieve on our own. Yet, social­network effects are not always positive. Depression, obesity, financial panic, and violence also spread. Social networks, it turns out, tend to magnify(放大) whatever they are seeded with.

Partly for this reason, social networks are creative. And what these networks create does not belong to any one individual—it is shared by all those in the network. In this way, a social network is like a commonly owned forest: We all stand to benefit from it, but we also must work together to ensure it remains healthy and productive. While social networks are fundamentally and distinctively human, and can be seen everywhere, they should not be taken for granted.

If you are happier or richer or healthier than others, it may have a lot to do with where you happen to be in the network, even if you cannot recognise your own location. And it may have a lot to do with the overall structure of the network, even if you cannot control that structure at all. And in some cases, the process feeds back to the network itself. A person with many friends may become rich and then attract even more friends. This rich­get­richer dynamic means social networks can dramatically reinforce two different kinds of inequality in our society: situational inequality and positional inequality.

Lawmakers have not yet considered the consequences of positional inequality. Still, understanding the way we are connected is an essential step in creating a more just society and in carrying out public policies affecting everything from public health to the economy. We might be better off vaccinating(接种疫苗) centrally located individuals rather than weak individuals. We might be better off helping interconnected groups of people to avoid criminal behaviour rather than preventing or punishing crimes one at a time.

If we want to understand how society works, we need to fill in the missing links between individuals. We need to understand how interconnections and interactions between people give rise to wholly new aspects of human experience that are not present in the individuals themselves. If we do not understand social networks, we cannot hope to fully understand either ourselves or the world we inhabit.

5 . I was cycling and noticed a person about a quarter of a kilometer in front of me. I could tell he was cycling a little slower than me and _________ to try to catch up with him. I had about a kilometer to go on the road _________ turning off.

So I _________ cycling faster and faster and on every _________, I was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 yards _________ him, so I really picked up the pace and _________myself. You might _________ I was cycling in the last section of the London Olympic triathlon.

_________ I caught up with him and passed him. On the inside I felt so _________. I beat him, of course, but he didn't even know we were __________.

After I passed him, I __________ that I had been so focused on competing against him that I had __________ my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past it and had to turn around and go all the way back.

Isn't that what happens in life when we __________ competing with co-workers, neighbors, and friends, trying to __________ that we are more successful or more important? We spend our time and __________ chasing after them and we miss out on our own __________ our future.

The __________of unhealthy competition is that it's a never-ending __________. And there will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with a __________   job, more money and a better education, etc.

Therefore, just take what life has given you, your height, weight and personality. Stays focused and live a peaceful life. There's no __________in life. Run your own race and wish others well!

6 . When you hear "I have a dream...", one of the most famous speeches in human history, you'll never have the idea how the audience on the scene were fueled by emotional intelligence. When Martin Luther King. Jr. presented his dream, he chose language that would stir the hearts of his audience. Delivering this electrifying(震撼性的) message required emotional intelligence- the ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions .

Emotional intelligence has been highly recommended by leaders, policymakers, and educators as the solution to a wide range of social problems. Emotional intelligence is important, but the uncontrolled enthusiasm has obscured (掩盖)a dark side. New evidence shows that when people sharpen their emotional skills, they become better at controlling others. When you're good at controlling your out emotions, you can hide your true feelings. When you know what others are feeling, you can motivate them to act against their own best interests.

Social scientists have begun to document this dark side of emotional intelligence. In a research led by University of T or onto professor Jochen Menges, when a leader gave an inspiring speech filled with emotion, the audience was less likely to scrutinize (细察) the message and remembered the content. Ironically(讽刺的是), audience members were so moved by the speech that they claimed to recall more of it.

The authors call this the awestruck effect, but it might just as easily be described as the dumbstruck effect. One observer reflected that Hitler's persuasive impact came from his ability to strategically express emotions- -he would" tear open his heart"- and these emotions affected his followers to the point that they would "stop thinking critically and just emote.

Leaders who master emotions can rob us of our abilities to reason. If their values are out of step with our out, the results can be destructive. New evidence suggests that when people have self-serving motives, emotional intelligence becomes a weapon for controlling others.

Throwing light on this dark side of emotional intelligence is one mission of a research teamed by University College London professor Martin Kilduff. According to these experts, emotional intelligence helps people disguise (伪装) one set of emotions while expressing another for personal gain. Professor Kilduff's team writes,“ The strategic disguise of one's own emotions and the controlling of others' emotions for strategic ends are behaviors evident not only on Shakespeare's stage but also in the offices and corridors where power and influence are traded."

Of course, people aren't always using emotional intelligence for nefarious ends. More often than not, high EQ is helpful in most aspects of our life. Emotional intelligence- -like any skill- can be used for good or evil. So whether it is a gift or a curse lies in your hand.

7 . Digital Etiquette, or netiquette, is a set of rules for how to behave online. It’s a lot like life etiquette, which is basically having good manners and treating others with respect. It’s just as important in our digital lives, including how we act in online games or how we communicate in emails, texts, instant messages and on social networking websites. All of these platforms let us talk and share instantly wherever we are.

Unfortunately, some people can lose control the moment they jump online. When they disagree with someone, or have strong feelings about a topic, they end up saying stuff they’d never say in person! They may send ruder emails and IMs or try to start arguments on message boards. That’s called flaming, and it can lead to full-on flame wars, insulting arguments between two or more users. On the Internet, it’s pretty easy to stay anonymous, or unidentified. Having a secret identity to hide behind can make people pretty brave. And when all they see of you is screen name or a funny icon, they might forget that they’re dealing with a real human being!

The principle is simple: Just like in real life, you should treat other people the way you want to be treated. You wouldn’t want somebody to be rude to you, so don’t be rude to anyone else.

Of course, netiquette isn’t just about being nice; it’s also about communicating clearly. That means keeping emails and IMs clear, and to the point. It also means making your messages easy to read and understand, which can depend on your audience. For instance, some abbreviations and emoticons may be fine with friends. But they’re generally not appropriate in formal communication. And whatever you do, don’t write in all capital letters! Writing in all caps makes it seem like you’re yelling.

Lastly, never post anything about your friends on a blog or a social networking site unless you are allowed to. People’s personal information is private, and you can really ruin relationships if you post something that a friend or a friend’s parents don’t want on the web. And keep in mind that the Internet is not a private place; if you wouldn’t want a parent, teacher or future employer to see something you post, don’t post it!

10 . As I drove my blue Buick into the garage, I saw that a yellow Oldsmobile was _________ too close to my space. I had to drive back and forth to get my car into the _________ space. That left _________ enough room to open the door. Then one day I arrived home _________ , and just as I turned off the engine, the yellow Oldsmobile entered its space—too close to my car, _________ . At last I had a chance to meet the driver. My patience had _________ and I shouted at her, "Can't you see you're not _________ me enough space? Park farther over." Banging（猛推）open her door into _________. The driver shouted back, "Make me!" _________ this she stepped out of the garage. Still, each time she got home first, she parked too close to my __________ Then one day, I thought, "What can I do?" I soon found __________ . The next day the woman __________ a note on her windshield（挡风玻璃）:

I'm sorry my mistress（女主人）shouted at yours the other day. She's been sorry about it. I know it because she doesn't sing anymore while __________ . It wasn't like her to scream __________. Fact is, she'd just got bad news and was taking it out on you two. I __________ you and your mistress will __________ her.

Your neighbor,

Blue Buick

When I went to the __________ the next morning, the Oldsmobile was gone, but there was a note on my windshield:

My mistress is sorry, too. She parked so __________ because she just learned to drive. We will park much farther over after this. I'm glad we can be __________ now.

Your neighbor,

Yellow Oldsmobile

After that, whenever Blue Buick __________ yellow Oldsmobile on the road, their drivers waved cheerfully and smiled.